Guest Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Our weekly family dinner where my eldest son comes over and his GF was ruined last night and last week due to boyfriends tantrums!. Last night I put the meal out on the table and my 15 year old daughter asked why the television was still on.My boyfriend walked over to the TV,switched it off and started yelling at my 15 year old as it was his show that was on at the time.Now I like to not have the TV on as it gives us all a chance to talk as we only all get together once a week. So anyway,my boyfriend started yelling,my daughter kept her cool for a bit but after my boyfriend wasn't going to cool down AFTER I even told him to please eat dinner and stop it.The arguement got worse between them both,my daughter ended up calling him a name and he then started cussing,meanwhile my son and his girlfriend and I sat there in disbelief. My boyfriend got up,grabbed his car keys and drove off and my daughter then ran away from home.So then came the job of trying to find my daughter that was clearly upset by my boyfriends outburst and I then called my boyfriend up and angrily told him how he is the adult and needs to start behaving like one and that his behaviour is unacceptable. All he could say is that my daughter picks him all the time.Now I know she can be quite a stirrer but you have to be the mature one and act like one,that's how I feel and he certainly was not doing that. I went to bed and some hours later my boyfriend came home and climbed into bed.There was no apoligy,NOTHING!He got up for work this morning and left,no words were said to me,no kiss goodbye,NOTHING.The thing is,I never did anything wrong yet I am being somehow punished here? My children sat down and told me to get rid of him last night,that they feel he is an idiot and his behaviour was uncalled for.I can see where they are coming from but I do love this man,I just don't know what to do now.I cannot and will not have him losing his temper around my family like this again.This is suppose to be a peaceful time for all yet he does this and no amount of trying to calm him down works. What it all boiled down to is a TV programme,a mini series!Can you believe that's what this is all about?He needs to grow up.... So now I don't know what to do,he is not talking to me,I am disgusted in his performance,I don't know if to kick him out or what to do here,like I said I do love him and normally we are fine.What do I do?
tikigods Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 I'm sorry but I am going to side with the kids, they are the ones that you need ot be looking out for and if he is willing to fly off the handle and do that to your 15 year old then I think it only shows you what sort of person he is. Sounds to me that you need to look after your kids and dump this guy to the curb
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 That's something. I mean, I can't believe you let this guy get close enough to sit and watch TV with your kids.
zeldazelda Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 i think you need to sit back and prioritize. as another said, wow. i can't believe you are even questioning whose side you should be on and what you should do about it. what you're really saying is "my love for him is worth hurting my kids." think about that.
Guest Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 That's something. I mean, I can't believe you let this guy get close enough to sit and watch TV with your kids. Can you believe he has two children of his own?Probably why he is not there helping raise them now.I am lucky mine are 19 and 15 and can handle themselves but the abuse is ridiculous.He yelled at my girl syaing ARE YOU HAPPY NOW!and ranted and raved at her,I was so upset as he pulled similar last week when a simple joke ended up in him yelling and walking off. I don't want to make a choice here but his outburst gives me no other choice but to ask him to move out.I love my kids and will protect them and my daughter knows when she is wrong,I call a spade a spade but his actions were simply beyond pathetic childish behaviour. I text messaged him today saying I am disappointed in him etc and he text me back saying how he never can do anything right,I guess he is feeling sorry for himself now.He never replied so I told him if he wanted to ignore me I wont be speaking to him either,he immediately text back and stated how he says nothing and is still in trouble...WO ME!.I am over it.My kids come first and this loser is out.
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 That's a wise choice I'd say. It really can't be more obvious than having your kids come up to you and ask you to stop seeing him.
kn0t_head666 Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 All i got to say is this.. I'm a guy and I've been and i am in love and you might love this man with all your heart but if he would treat your kids like that he doesn't have the respect for you at which you deserve. It's tough dealing with stuff like this but be strong your kids will help you get through it.
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