CinderellaElla Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 We are both in grade 11, and this has been going on for quite a while the whole game playing senerio. Anyways, he has his click, and is friends with alot of people, and i have mine in which there isnt as many people. Like, i used to hangout with alot of people but i just feel not comfortable being myself around them. I dont know how to tell you he truth. Iam too worried about being judged. Anyways, to the point..the other day after him and i were fighting over me "liking his friend", i finally ended up telling him that i liked him, and then he said that he wants me to try and get closer with his friends. And then basically said i need to get in with his friends so I can date him. And he said that I need to just be myself and that he knows i can get in with them. The thing is he doesnt understand that it's hard to just "get in". And i have no idea how, because his friends can be real *******s, and a lot of them like me as in they want you for sex. Iam really not sure what to do...i really like him, and he told me 2 weeks before that he liked me, but it took me awhile to say how i felt because i get worried if i told him how i felt then his friends would find some way to come between us, because it's already happened before. So, any suggestions? And i know iam young and i have a life ahead of me, but i dont fall for many guys..hardly any as a matter of fact, but he appears different to me, and he always stands up for me, even though he loves to make me and him argue..(not sure why), but it's these stupid things that make me like him. I've tried moving on...and i can for a certain amount of time The thing is, even though he told me to just be myself and stay real, it's hard for me to just do that. I'm so scared about others saying things to me, and I know i have to get out of it. I guess by him knowing iam worried about that, that could mean that he thinks his friend could make me run away from him. Also why is it that i have to be the one to try and get in with his friends..or closer to more people? And how would you get in..the thing is I dont even know who me is anymore because he knows me quite well..but in front of others, iam shy and quiet. Thanks.
Guest Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 if he's letting his friends dictate / influence who he dates, then he isn't worth your friggin time. one would like to think that people date people because they want to. not because you're "in" with their friends. just food for thought. good luck.
wookinpanub Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 I know where you're coming from, Ella. To an extent, the Guest's post is right. You can only let his friends dictate so much of what happens between you two. You're in high school, and for that fact alone, friends do play an important role in relationships. If he is going to ask it of you to try and get in close with his friends, ask him to reciprocate. Say you want him to get to know your friends a bit. By all means, try to become friends with his friends though. It makes high school relationships like a billion times easier if both people's friends "approve". But you said they only are nice to you cuz they think you are hot. Well make it clear that you are interested in this one boy and only him. He likes you back and will make it clear to his friends as well so it's not like he will just leave you hangin, you know? Just be yourself. Be real. As long as you're not a heartless b**** and like prevent him from ever seeing his friends or something like that, I am sure they will be fine with you.
gonetildecember Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 i agree with wook.. if he wants u to chill with his friends, he can do the same for u.. i totally get what he means tho.. friends are important.. but if they are good friends are care about him they will make u feel welcome!! ive certainly dated ppl and didnt get along with their friends, but i made the effort.. u dont have to love them, but a presence in the group would be good.. and if they dont like u or u dont "get in" at least he'll see ur trying ... as should he!
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