Monsieur Triste Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Hello LoveShack, I'm new, and I'm turning here because I really don't know where else to go. Several months ago, I started to like this girl at my school, but due to the fact that I am shy and withdrawn with my feelings, I never talked to her. Through luck and coincidence, I actually did have a few brief encounters with her. Eventually, through my "more outgoing than I" friends, I learned that the feelings I had were mutual, but that she also has the same shy streak I do. We then moved onto that whole phase where you learn as much as possible about the other through their friends without actually making contact with them. You know the one :-P. Anyway, finally this led to a first date and things proceeded quite quickly (although very awkwardly) from there. We became close and open with each other. It was not all that comfortable physically (holding hands etc.) but we managed to get by. Eventually, after she had dropped "subtle hints" about wanting to, on our Valentines Day date, I asked her to Prom and she accepted heartily. Now, this was the first real relationship for both of us (we're in High School) so we were a bit eager and inexperienced. But then, Two days after a highly successful date and a week after Valentines Day, I got a call telling me that we should not date. She told me that it was not my fault that I had not "done anything to warrant it or deserve it" and even that I should probably hate her for it. Personally, I blamed myself for moving too fast or for putting too much of my trust into her (sticking my neck out too far >.>'). I've come away from that kind of thinking now, but I can't seem to get my head around her reason or how she actually viewed our relationship. No one can understand why she did it. Now, It's been a week. For the first couple of days, I was completely distraught. I tried to get an explanation, but got no more than I had on the phone a few days previously, that she felt like we saw it differently. Then the weekend came, and I went on a trip without my cell so I wouldn't be tempted to call. Needless to say there was "NC" for about 3 days. Unfortunately, we are working on a project together, so we have to do research, etc. together. "NC" won't work here. That is until the end of March. Ok, now onto the real question. I, of course, desperately want her back. I feel like our relationship was cut short (one month to the day). For a week now, I haven't really been able to concentrate or think right and my grades and social life are both taking heavy blows because of it. In my opinion, we went too fast from being complete strangers to dating. I know this may be a bit of a hard question to answer because it depends heavily on her feelings and thoughts of me (which I simply don't know), but how should I go about getting her back? I don't know if I should try to befriend her and just "see what happens" or if it evolves (an idea I am hesitant to embrace because I have made the mistake of becoming so friendly that the person does not want to take the risk) or should I just try to make her a good acquaintance and re-ask her to Prom closer to the actual date (I got "I dunno" when I asked if we were still going) I would be very grateful for any help :-] Thanks for reading and sorry it's so long, Monsieur Triste
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