alextop30 Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Ok here is a little story that might sound like a really crasy thing but I saw this girl in the gym that I go to. She smiled at me so I thought I go talk to her introduce myself well let me just say it was something of the part that I opened my mouth and nothing came out. I have no problem talking to girls usually I love to joke around with them but when ever I see this girl it is like I enter the world of the day dream also I get slurred speach and I tend to repeat myself, I also was talking to my brother in a different language and she apeared out of noowhere I cannot even make the words in the other language to have normal conversation with my brother. Ok this has never happened to me it is like my mind is not up there any more - seems like I lost it Can you plz give me some advice what to do to help her fall in love with me. she works at the gym so I am not really shure weather she really wants those guys witht he big mussles or she is just working there as a job. I am strong go there a lot but I dont have well defined mussles like those other guys.
CinderellaElla Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 First of all, you can't make someone fall in love with you. That isnt realistic, and by saying that think about you makeing yourself be with someone you dislike? exactly not good. It seems you really like her for what you have said, but you shouldnt worry about all those things about yourself like having muscles. If she likes you, she'll like you for who you are and not a fake. You cant have a relationship based on lies. You should stay real, be yourself, because there is nothing then what a woman loves more is a person who is real. You say you are having trouble talking to her? Maybe you should think about starting off small like a simple hi and try not to think about getting worked up because that's when you'll lose your words. You are nervous because you must be very into her. It might also be good for you to maybe smile, it is being friendly and sending her a signal of I like you, or I'm interested. Maybe even get a friend to introduce you? Sometimes having a friend by your side makes it easier. Hope I helped.
Author alextop30 Posted February 28, 2007 Author Posted February 28, 2007 nice advice thanks but here is where I am lacking - I dont have a friend that could intorduce me I dont know any one at the gym so they could introduce me to her. There is something different with this girl tho, because I know some nice girls that I remeber when I was introducing myself to them I had absolutelly no problem, I did it like it was an everyday thing but the thing is I cannot first get her out my mind, second I dont believe I cannot say the words I want in front of her. today I was acutally thinking to aproach her with a stupid question maybe to get her laughing - if I can even say that what do you think
Guest Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 Concerning your problem, I wouldn't try being funny. It's just going to come out weird and she'll notice your nervousness. At best you'll get an uncomfortable laugh from her(unless its truly funny) and you won't have another shot at her. Who cares about the big dudes? You know what, if it makes you happy then start doing less weight and more reps along with more cardio to make yourself defined. That'll take a few weeks and by the time you get that body she may be long gone. Yea go ahead and try that. How I view the situation is who cares what type of guy she likes? For girls in the end they look for a man who makes them feel warm and fuzzy. Sex is a big part of the relationship, but if you think about it timewise it's nothing(unless you're one of those animals who has sex like 4 times a day every day). If she's simply out for a hot guy she's looking for sex and screw her. If she's not, you're the only guy giving her attention. She's already forgotten about that sexy dude in the corner working out because she's focusing on looking at your face when she's talking to you. All you gotta do is find it in yourself to not care what happens. That's all I can tell you. Don't treat it like anything special or expect her to like you because if she blows you off you're gonna be severely disappointed and it's gonna do a major blow to your self esteem.
Author alextop30 Posted March 2, 2007 Author Posted March 2, 2007 I guess you are right also a little fact that I forgot to include though, I think she is a little older than I am.If that changes anything I was actually concerned about the muscrular dudes because she is working at a x-port fitness and I tought she could be looking for that qute muscular guy that is thre working his muscules. The thing is I have always tried to play it cool and act as if this is normal but there is something about that girl I cannot get out of my head. I have had no problem talking to girls aproaching them, I even have a few really qute friends that think of me as a brother they never had which I wish was not like that but that is beside the point- I was actually also asking for opinon what do u believe is a good thing to say after the "Hi" "my name is alex" what should I ask, do something that would tell her that I want to know something about her instead of having a 15 second conversation and nothing to come out of it.
Author alextop30 Posted March 2, 2007 Author Posted March 2, 2007 I never said make her fall in love with me, I also simply tried to sound so confident that she has fallen in love with me already and I just have to help her continue
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