Guest Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 I just had an interesting experience which totally blew me away and has enabled me to get on with my life. I have been yo yoing with mm for a little while now and I bumped into him 2 hours ago. I think we both reached a crossroads, I was unhappy and he buried himself in his work and family I presume. It has been 7 weks since we last spoke. He was sitting in the doctor's waiting room and I was going to pick up a prescription. We sort of skirted around each other, and then he asked me to sit beside me. Well since I last saw him he has put on quite a lot of weight and he looked tired and drawn and guess what, I didn't fancy him. It wasn't just a phyisical thing but the whole package, still talking about himself although he did ask how I was. He said that he was absolutely fine, but he didn't look it. Anyway I took that as a hint that he was happy with his life without me in it. He was quite flustered around me and I kept looking at him and all I could think was what a sh-- he had been to me--arranging to see me on a Saturday, not showing up and not phoning me until the following Wednesday from a call box. He said he had been unwell, but I thought hmm, he could have rung me from his mobile on Saturdsy to say he wasn't turning up. Is that too much to expect? I also think, looking back on it, that with his bad behaviour he might have been hoping that I would finish it or else he was treating me like sh-- to show me how unimportant I was. Or else he was confused and acting like an prat. Anyway, back to today. He had absolutely no effect on me whatsoever--isn't that weird. Even though I have been missing him, when I am confronted with him I don't actually want him.We talked about nothing and then i made the move to go. He said that he would phone me. I didn't react and then he said that he would let the phone ring twice and that I could call him back at the usual phone box. I said "What", and he said that he might not have any change on him for the call box!! With that I said "Good-bye". Can you figure him out because I can't and quite frankly that was the final straw that has helped me to move away from him for good. I just do not understand why he would say that to me. I am glad it happened because now I am willing to move on and find someone to treat me with a bit of respect.
Izzar Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Guest, You can add "Good Riddens to that Good Bye". And that would say it all. Good for you! Stay strong! And don't expect a "bit" of respect, expect 110% +. You deserve it.
outofdarkness Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Good for you!!! He sounds like a self centered jerk...
kymberann Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Yeah! No need to figure him out! Why give him any more of YOUR time! YOu have moved on! Welcome to the wonderful world of being an XOW!
Guest Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 Yeah! No need to figure him out! Why give him any more of YOUR time! YOu have moved on! Welcome to the wonderful world of being an XOW! Yes, I know you are right about not spending any more time on him. I was always trying to figure out what he was about and why he did his and didnt do that. Was it me? I actually shelved my friends to concentrate on him and I became quite lonely. This is another reason why I was reluctant to let him go even though my head was screaming End it, he is a user, phone call once every 8 days to arrange to meet you for sex and some tlc and listening to him talking about himself. I will never forget one time when I was at my cousin's mum's funeral. He phoned and he knew where I was. Well I listened to him for 10 minutes talking about his boss saying how great he was at work and not once did he ask how my cousin was bearing up at the funeral. I remember that I felt quite disgusted that he hadn't said anything about the funeral and that it was all about him. So alarm bells were ringing then but I chose to ignore them. I had that gut instinct that he wouldn't be there for me emotionally and that he was shallow. I think he has got huge issues at home and he isn't content, feels trapped, loves his kids very much and is taking his frustration out on me because he will see anyone as the cause of his problems but HIMSELF. Just venting a bit more on what an idiot I have been.
frannie Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 What an excellent story, thanks for posting it and congratulations!
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