JackJack Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 My fiance has a friend who is pregnant with their third child. Thats fine, but she admitted to my fiance the other day that these were some of the main reasons for having another child. *Didn't do to great raising the two before. Thought they would be better the third time around at parenting, because its a learning process. (to my understanding they were/are pretty hateful to their kids) *To prove to other family members and friends that they can have another baby. I totally don't get this. *To give their two kids they have another sibling, (when the two they have don't get along at all)I know siblings fight sometimes but they act like they can stand each other, lots of jealousy, so add another to the mix. *This is the one I really don't get; she says she thinks the only reason her husband wants another one is so she will be tied down with another baby and not be able to go out here in the world and make something more of herself than just a mother, so HE can do pretty much whatever he wants. But if its what HE wants then she'll have another one. I guess my question is, would you have a baby for these reasons? Not one time did I hear her mention to me or my fiance' they wanted another baby because its what they BOTH wanted. The reasons she gave just sounded odd to me. I dunno, maybe I'm off track. I just can't see me or my fiance wanting to have a baby for some of those reasons.
a4a Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 oh Jack that sucks major beet root! I hate people that pop out kids to basically use them for entertainment, pawns, or attention. If people are going to bring a child into this world they should only be concerned about providing that child with a proper upbringing, a secure future, healthy emotional home, and be mature enough to realize the reality and responsibility they have to that child. Not what the baby can do for them..... it is what they can do for that child. YAK!!! :sick: Did you chat with them about this?
Author JackJack Posted February 28, 2007 Author Posted February 28, 2007 Not what the baby can do for them..... it is what they can do for that child. See, this is pretty much what I got from it as well. It came across as what THEY could get out of it. Did you chat with them about this? Unfortuntaly no. We didn't stay long, just to drop by and visit. To tell you the truth, I wasn't really sure what to say. I did ask my fiance' what she thought about the part when her friend said," to prove to family members and friends she could have another one." My fiance' said she didn't understand that either, and that her friend didn't need to prove nothing to her. If anything, she thought her friend should wise up and educate herself on being a better parent to the two she has, not worry about having another one. You know what, I know this is not an excuse really, but these are the type of poeople that even if I or my fiance were to say something, it wouldn't change anything.
a4a Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 some people should just not have kids...... maybe just maybe it won't happen. very sad, pathetic, and nasty. And what is there to prove they can have another..... what that they have ovaries and sperm? :lmao: Or he can get it up and it's proof that they can have sex? This is probably all about her thinking (in teenage brain fantasy land) that a baby will make her life better and change him. Oh look she can give birth, now we will treat her differently. Funny the focus and attention will dwindle to nothing and she will be left taking care of that kid all alone. what a dip..... did she not learn by the first 2?
ash519 Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 I feel really awful for these children, you said the two they already have have a hateful relationship. They are bringing another defensless child into the world for ALL the wrong reasons. People should have a baby because they want one, they want to share there love and have a family. It sounds like they are an unhappy couple who are almost looking for attention fillers. There is no point in saying anything at this point because she is already pregnant and started the process. In the coming years I am pretty sure you are going to witness a miserable family and I am sure the kids will feel the effects of it as well. It's aggravating that people like this bring kids into the world.
Author JackJack Posted February 28, 2007 Author Posted February 28, 2007 What gets me about the whole thing is, she openly admitted these were the reasons for why they wanted another one. Kind of like she's proud of these reasons. Personally, I would be ashamed to admit that.
a4a Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 crush up birth control pills and bring them a cake filled with them once a week! No win situation...... selfish selfish people. Amazing.
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