wookinpanub Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 OK, so I have never been good at the whole reading signs of whether a girl might be into me or not. In fact, I would even say I am horrible at it. That, plus I was just with a girl for about 2 years, so for two years, I had no "practice" (for lack of a better word) at the the pre-dating thing (approaching a girl, figuring out if they might be into me). So here are the situations (I am not trying to date two girls at once. I'm just confused about one, and nervoud about the other, lol). OK, I went to a different school last year. I was with my now ex-girlfriend the whole time, and she had a boyfriend. I had class with this girl that I will call M. It was a tiny class, like 6 people and it was a language class so we were forced to interact and everything. We would talk on AIM and like go to the language lab together just to make the time more bearable and we became friends. After I transferred we kept talking on AIM and stuff. Her and her boyfriend broke up, of which I don't know the details. In November my girlfriend and I broke up. We kept talking, but our conversations started getting more... deep? Where we used to just like talk about music, we started talking about what happened between us and our ex's. Since then, I have gone back to visit my former school on a number of occassions. The first time I asked her if she wanted to hang out on that Friday night, she said yes and we went to a little thai restaurant and went and saw a movie. No physical contact or anything, except she hugged me at the end of the night. So we talked after I went back to school and I basically told her I liked her and she said she figured. The next time I went down I asked her if she wanted to go out again but she was hesitant and we went with her room mates to not an actualy restaurant type thing. She texted me that sunday and said she and her ex were talking again. I was just like, OK, we're still friends though, right? and she said definitely. We didn't talk for like 2 weeks and she IMed me at like 5 in the morning saying her ex cheated on her. I called her when I got it and told her she could talk to me and stuff. We didnt talk for like another two weeks after repeated attempts to call and text her. then out of nowhere one saturday she texts me saying that her biggest concern would be the distance. I asked her if she likes me outright, and she said yes but I haven't like heard from her at all since then. I have tried texting and calling a few times and she wont even reply... whats the deal? The second girl, I don't even know. We always eat lunch at the same time on Mon, Wed, and Fri. We both always sit alone and kinda near each other. I wanna talk to her, but I'm kinda a pansy at that stuff. I was thinking something like just go up to her and be like "I notice you always each lunch by yourself. Mind if I join you?" or something like that. Advice would be greatly appreaciated !!!! Thanks!
norajane Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Take it slow with M - she's still dealing with her ex, so her feelings are probably all in a whirl. Definitely start talking to lunch girl, and yes, next time you see her, say hello and ask if she'd like some company.
Author wookinpanub Posted February 28, 2007 Author Posted February 28, 2007 Thanks, norajane. I guess I was just kinda confused about M cuz she seemed like she liked me one minute and then next, didn't even wanna talk to me. I kinda pansied out on lunch girl today. I was about to talk over to where she was sitting and on the way over, as an excuse to not do it, I went "mm, taco bar." and got a fajita.... I'm really bad at that sort of thing. I mean, what is she is like "uh no, you're weird" or something?
norajane Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 She's not going to say no, you're wierd. And even if she did, so what? You don't even know her, so what difference does it make? You have to try or you're never going to get anywhere!
Author wookinpanub Posted March 2, 2007 Author Posted March 2, 2007 So, I just went ahead and did it today at lunch. She was nice enough, and didn't seem put off by me approaching, but... she has a boyfriend. It didn't surprise me, and to be honest, I'm quite happy. I can't believe I did something like that! And in regards to M. I emailed her yesterday and basically said that I won't push the subject, since she doesn't seem to keen on the idea right now. That if she wants to even talk, I'm ready and waiting.
norajane Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Hey, good for you! See, it wasn't so hard, was it? And now that you've done it once, it won't be so hard to try the next time there's a girl you might like. Besides, now that you two have met, you won't always have to eat lunch alone. There's nothing wrong with being friendly...maybe she has a cute friend she could introduce you to!
Author wookinpanub Posted March 3, 2007 Author Posted March 3, 2007 Haha, good point, norajane. Thanks for the advice/push to just talk to her!
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