SadHatter Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Hi guys, My ex-girlfriend and I broke up a year ago and we’ve only seen each other twice since (once when we ended up in bed together after she broke up with one of her new bf’s (and then ended up back with him two days later)!) and the second time when we were out clubbing, bumped into each other and ended up having a huge row. Since then, she’s had four different relationships in a year, none of which have worked out. I generally don’t text her or contact her in any way, and she usually doesn’t. Then, out of the blue, usually at most after about a month/five weeks, she’ll text me just asking how am I or a silly question such as, “was it xmas 2005 or 2006 we broke up” as she did last week! This has been ongoing for over a year. About three weeks before Xmas, she text me and was really nasty, I think she was drunk. I decided then that I wouldn’t speak to her again. However, on Xmas Day, she text me saying merry Xmas and being the season of good will I forgave her (not that she apologised for the nasty things she’d said). Anyway, she text me last week just general chitchat and last night I couldn’t stop thinking about her. I worried and that I may be getting myself in too deep again and could end up falling for her. I ended up texting her and asking her if she would like to meet up to which she text back, “no just f**k off and leave me alone”. Confused, I asked why she was saying that and she replied, “f**k off”. At that point I replied and said how rude that was and she should learn some manners and she didn’t reply again. She’s such a horrible girl, why am I still letting her affect me? And why does she do this? She seems to be nice to everyone else and HORRIBLE to me and I don’t know why because I am a nice person and never nasty to anyone. Always been there for her and she treats me like this. Give it a month, she’ll text again, as nice as pie. I’m starting to wonder whether she honestly is schizophrenic. I need some advice guys. Is she like this because she is using me or does she like me and won’t admit it or what? I had a gf for a while and she seemed to be really jealous…well she even told me she was…but since she’s just acted like this… It bugs me so much that she treats me like this…I’ve no idea why or why I put up with it, so stupid! I don’t know if she hates me or likes me or loves me or what, she must be the most confusing person in the world to work out.
polywog Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 That's painful. She sounds like she is stringing you along, and is possibly confused about her feelings for you. I say just stop letting her communicate with you, ignore her.... No Contact... so you can get over her and heal your heart. She's treating you terribly, and you don't deserve it.
tanbark813 Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 This is the key statement in your post: Always been there for her and she treats me like this. She treats you like that because she can.
BlueEyedSarah Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 In my opinion I think it be best you stop contacting this girl, no matter wether she is nice or horrid to you, whatever her mood is just do not reply to her at all. You need time to heal your heart and the best way is to not contact her at all. She may even change her nasty attitude once she sees that you are not contacting her.
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