samiami Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 My boyfriend and I have been together for over five years, since we were 16 years old. We are now 22 and have lived together for two and a half years. Lately I have felt extremely unhappy and I'm pretty sure that he is too. However, when I try to talk to him about it, he says that I make him feel like crap because I always have something to "bitch" about. He makes me feel bad for wanting to talk about what is wrong with us. We have both been unfaithful over the years, nothing serious, and for the most part we are both accepting of it and over it. But I am jealous all the time. I can't explain it, although little things that happen will make me feel really angry. On the weekends we come home from school to work at the restaurant we've both worked at since high school. There are too many stories about that place for me to explain everything, but overall he won't side with me about anything. Whenever I make friends with new employees he soon takes them over as his friends. And they are all girls. There is one girl in particular who started working at the restaurant in 2004. She is three years younger than us but she is very mature and I liked her, so she and I became friends. One day, she told my boyfriend that I had been smoking (which I quit years ago and he didn't know I would smoke when I was out with her). She told him because he practically forced it out of her. She ended up going to school at the same college as us, and now my boyfriend and she carpool every weekend between college and our hometown. The reason I don't carpool with them is because I also have a job where I go to school and can't go with them. I guess I'm just jealous because he spends so much time with her and she considers him her best male friend. But I can't get over it. He's very secretive with his cell, never lets me see it, although when I bring up this point he makes me feel like I'm just crazy. He's also an incredible liar, which he brags about, and I can't tell ever when he's telling the truth or not. He swears that he'd never do anything with this girl, that she's too young. But she's 19 and we're 22. Since when is that too young? Anyways, am I crazy? Am I the problem? Please help.
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