jewels8414 Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 I have no idea what to do. Her her eis the situtation: Our relationship ended about 2 years ago. We have a 4 year old together and still have a friendship. He has been with his girlfriend for about a year and a half and they have a 6 month old baby together. I have gotten to know her just from being around. He just proposed to her (which I support). She asked me to be one of her bridesmaids. On one hand, I think that everything will be ok, but on the other, I do not think that it is my place to be in my Ex’s wedding. What should I do???
Audero Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 Another Missouri girl. Welcome to LS. If you feel comfortable going to the wedding, go. I think it's wonderful you can get along with your ex and his soon-to-be-wife so well.
justagirlforever Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 I also think that if you, your ex and his new wife to be all feel comfortable about this (and it sounds as all is amicable), there's no reason not to go
CardPlay3r Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 I think it's better than his soon to be wife being insanely jealous and demanding that he never talks to you like some people do...so if there are no romantic feelings left between you and your ex why not
Author jewels8414 Posted February 28, 2007 Author Posted February 28, 2007 I will be at the wedding no matter what, but I don't know if I should accept the offer to be a bridesmaid. I don't know if that is approitate for me to be in my ex's wedding.
ShoeGirl Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 I would say if you are friends with her, not just your ex, that you should go for it, obviously she considers you a good enough friend to ask you. Have you talked to your ex about it? What does he think/say about it?
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Friends with an ex... NEVER! you can NEVER be friends with an ex... friends are friends... exes are what? and leave them be if you can anyone who says else are deluding themselves
Author jewels8414 Posted February 28, 2007 Author Posted February 28, 2007 I have not talked to him, but I don't think that she would ask me if she did not talk to him first.
justagirlforever Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Exactly - she wouldn't have (asked you if she didn't discuss it with him first). So, it's up to you it seems and what you feel comfortable with.
ShoeGirl Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 I was just thinking that talking to your ex could help you make up your mind, if you decide to be in the wedding he would probably make you feel more comfortable about it.
whichwayisup Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 I have no idea what to do. Her her eis the situtation: Our relationship ended about 2 years ago. We have a 4 year old together and still have a friendship. He has been with his girlfriend for about a year and a half and they have a 6 month old baby together. I have gotten to know her just from being around. He just proposed to her (which I support). She asked me to be one of her bridesmaids. On one hand, I think that everything will be ok, but on the other, I do not think that it is my place to be in my Ex’s wedding. What should I do??? If you all get along okay, and because you and your ex share a child, he is in your life, as well as his soon to be bride, forever - I say, be a bridesmaid. It can only help the relationship between ALL of you for the kids sake. Honestly, I doubt very much she would make a decision like this, asking you to be in her wedding party WITHOUT discussing it with him. What you can do is talk to him, tell him what she's asked you and say I am flattered and would like to say yes, but if it makes you feel uncomfortable at all, let me know and I'm fine with whatever you want to do. This way, he has a choice. It also doesn't have to be 'weird'. As you said, things are pretty good between you all.
Jinxx Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Other than the bridesmaid issue which to me is just plain odd, do what you think is best for you.
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