numsey Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 My gf of a year and a half and I broke up last night. She said to me that I don't desire her anymore and that we don't have anything in common. She is younger than I am and she likes to go out and dance where as I go thru periods of clubbing and wanting to just sit at home and rest. She said she feels guilty going out with her friends without me even though I encourage her to do so. Its not fair for her to have to sit at home with me because I dont want to go. She says a part of her wants to be with me but another part feels as tthough she's missing out on life. She also told me that she found a guy at the club she goes to attractive but that she has never acted on it. She insists that this isn't an excuse for her to sleep around but she wants to meet new people. She asked if she could still call me at work and if we could still hang out. I told her not to call me and that hanging out would not be a very good idea at all. That maybe one day down the road we could maybe be friend but there were no guarentee of that. Now we went thru this once before about a year ago and we got back together a month later, but this time it's different. Then when it happened I was really broken up. Couldn't eat, or sleep. Just all around depressed. Just when I started to break out of it was when she came back. This time however I'm not all that broken up about it. I'm actually kind of looking forward to being single for a little while. Basically what I'm asking is, is this just another ploy by her to get me to "desire" her more( I never stopped in the first place), or is this really the end of it all? Sorry if this sound a little confusing but my thoughts are still a little jumbled. Any insight at all would be greatly appreciated. P.S.: Sorry about the spelling, I suck at it.
NorCalDave Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 She wants some space, but she'll miss you. She maybe wants to explore things with this guy at the club. She of course won't tell you straight up that she is interested in him, but more than likely, it's the case. If you are okay with being single, and don't think you will be depressed like last time, I say take some time to yourself and figure out if you really want her in your life or not. Maybe she'll see that this guy is a bum and she'll come running back to you. You won't know until you give it some time. Sorry to hear about your breakup. They suck. I am dealing with my ex leaving me for the 2nd time in the last few years. We have a 20 year age gap so the odds were always against us, but it still hurts that she's gone, again. I am just trying to accept life as it comes to me, and while I miss the heck out of her, I am trying to see the positives. Time and space will hopefully make everything a little clearer for her and I. Good luck, I think she's confused and a little time apart from each other will let you know if it's meant to be or not.
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