Icantletgo Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 My boyfriend of 3 years left me to be with this girl. The shady part is that they were dating during the last 1/2 year we were together. Anyways, now he is calling me and we are hanging out cause his heart is broken because she doesn't want to date him anymore. So i'm here holding his hand while he is literally almost crying and texting and begging her back. Bare in mind, that this hurts me tremendously since we only officially broke up in January 2nd of this year. I know I shouldn't be around him and he doesn't deserve my friendship but I feel like I can't abandon him at this time. And no, I dont think he will ever want me again....What do you all think? And yes...we started sleeping together again recently. Idiot for still having feelings?
Author Icantletgo Posted February 27, 2007 Author Posted February 27, 2007 Oh yea...I'm 24...not a 17/18 year old....embarrassing huh?
shockandawed Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 Let me get this straight, You were with this guy for three years To reward you, he cheated behind your back for 6 months. Once he felt like he had safely established a relationship, he dumps you. A month later, he gets his just reward, comes crying back to you to hold his hand, and console him while he begs for another chance with the new girl. And to make his tummy feel better, he shags you as needed. No, I don't see anything wrong here.
TheDC Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 God, I can't even think where to start with this one. I really don't know what you want to hear. You obviously know what you are doing is wrong and isn't productive but are choosing to do it none the less. Were you hoping to find someone who is in the same boat so you could commiserate together (misery loves company). You know what you have to do so just do it.
silentcharon Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 This guy is SCUM. This kind of happened to me as well, I saw it coming so I cut it off- he was being a cake eater. For as long as you're there, he will continue being "indecisive", for as long he PLEASES. Take it from someone who knows. Leave this guy- he hasn't even apologized for cheating on you- he doesn't deserve you. What makes you feel you can't abandon him? He abandoned you! If he really wanted you, he would work for it and give you the respect you deserve, but you're still there, so he doesn't have to respect you, you are making it too easy for him! Don't call yourself an idiot, it's quite normal to have feelings, but please, for your own sake, LEAVE HIM.
a4a Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 oh my yes this guy is such a good friend to you ......... you have no choice but to hold his hand :rolleyes: or have sex with him. Dump the worthless sot.
nittygritty Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 I can relate! Your not an idiot. You love him. You are going to tear yourself up trying to help him with his breakup with his latest girlfriend. You are bending over backwards with hopes of receiving reciprocation of the love you are offering him and he is going to keep taking your love for granted. He won't be able to respect you until you say "no more". He is using you as a crutch and a back up girl. Don't allow him to do this to you. He won't feel the loss of you in his life until you leave. I understand the guilt feelings about abandoning him but you have to protect yourself. What he is doing is emotionally abusive to you whether you realize it or not. Tell him you love him but you can't do this anymore. It hurts too much. He is being completely insensitive to your feelings by coming to you to cry about his new love. You need to get mad at what this selfish jerk is doing to you. Take Care
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