goingforgold Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 Hi, There is a man that is a manager that I go to at my local pub a few times a week for a drink and to gamble a little (play some pokies!) and I am attracted to him and I feel he is also attracted to me. He has never said anything or made any conversation with me as such but he always goes out of his way to say hello to me and say little things like u winning tonight? any luck etc? When he does he always has a big smile on his face and raises his eye brows several times, i could be wrong here but his body language to me is something of flirting. Last night my dad went to the bar to buy me a drink and he gave dad the drink for free. I am not sure if he knew the drink was for me or was he just being friendly and decided to give a drink. Every time he passes me he either says hello to me even though he may have said hello to me a few times before hand the same night, if he is to far away and cant say hello he still raises eye brows and bows his head and smiles. Does this sound like he is interested? There is a small issue if he does like me and i will post that later but will just wait for a bit to see what responses i get here first. Thanks all for your help
LN99 Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 First of all, it sounds like he is trying to do good business in the pub. So, therefore he flirts and tries to make his customers happy....especially frequent women customers. But, maybe you are onto something. Does he act this way towards others that come into the pub? Have you observed if he does the same thing to other women in the establishment?
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 Ok. I have GOT to ask this. What ever happened with the married dentist? Is this guy married too? Seriously though, it sounds to me like he's just being friendly in general. That is what managers of establishments do: they are friendly to the customers and act happy to see them.
erika2610 Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 Ok. I have GOT to ask this. What ever happened with the married dentist? Is this guy married too? Seriously though, it sounds to me like he's just being friendly in general. That is what managers of establishments do: they are friendly to the customers and act happy to see them. I was so wondering too! I think it's the "There's an issue if he does like me". Mandy, is he married?
elijahBailey Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 Ok. I have GOT to ask this. What ever happened with the married dentist? Is this guy married too? LB, you really crack me up :lmao: Yeah, we all wanna know if the dude is married. but, uhm, raising eyebrows? I don't know. Yes, no, maybe. It could go either ways. But seriously, if you're not bad looking, how difficult could it be. I'm signing up for this saga. It's gonna be interesting.
serial muse Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 Ok, I'm nearly convinced that this is someone's ghostnic; all that remains is to figure out whose. Hmm. Let's see. Who's complained of boredom lately and might be inclined to start up this craziness all over again?? I notice we're posting in General Relationships and not OW/OM now.
whichwayisup Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 Welcome back Mandy! First off, find out if he's married. IF he is, or has a girlfriend, turn and run the other way. I would hope after all that you went through with the married dentist, you wouldn't put yourself through a similar situation ever again. If you find out he's definately single and available, I say just go for it and ask him out. An update on whatever happened with the MMDentist would be cool.
Author goingforgold Posted February 28, 2007 Author Posted February 28, 2007 Hi Everyone, Thanks for answering my post. Just before I say anything I just want to say that there is nothing with me and the dentist, i think it was just a phase i went through, cant believe i went through it but i did, it was a hard time in my life, i learnt some lessons and i am slowly getting on with my life. And thanks to everyone on here for your advice and guidance at the time it didnt mean much because i pretty much made up my mind with what i wanted to do and that was it. Now i see things a little differently. yes he is still my dentist but that is that, i have only ever seen him twice at the clinic in the last year or so and everything is ok, he never mentions anything and neither do i. Its something i have left in the past. Now with this new guy LN99 I have been observing him very closely with how he behaves with other women and while he is friendly and nice to everyone he is just that much more friendlier and flirtier with me. The other night when he gave the drink i walked pass the bar about half hour or so later and there were 2 girls trying to chat him up and he wasnt interested at all, but was being polite and as soon as he saw me walking past he turned his back to them so he could look at me and did the whole big smile thing and eyebrow raising thing. I never really do anything apart from smile back and i think the attention makes me blush a little:p LucreziaBorgia I dont know anything about him so i am not sure if he is married or in a r/ship at all. I do know he wears no wedding ring but that really doesnt indicate much.
Author goingforgold Posted February 28, 2007 Author Posted February 28, 2007 I dont know what to say to him but was thinking of saying something along the lines of me "Are you flirting with me or are u just being friendly to keep me coming back to bring money to your business?" or I was thinking of maybe saying "So what's up with all the flirting?"
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 I dont know what to say to him but was thinking of saying something along the lines of me "Are you flirting with me or are u just being friendly to keep me coming back to bring money to your business?" or I was thinking of maybe saying "So what's up with all the flirting?" Too aggressive. You don't want to call the guy on the carpet this early on. My advice? Sit back, enjoy the attention and keep your eyes open. If there is going to be a move made, give him a chance to make it before you start asking whether or not he is making it in the first place. Whatever he does, mirror his behavior. Be as flirty with him, as he is with you. If he backs off, you do the same. If he comes on strong, hand it back to him with a smile and a wink. If he wants more, trust me when I tell you he'll make that clear. When a man wants someone, they usually make it known.
Author goingforgold Posted March 1, 2007 Author Posted March 1, 2007 Thanks for your advice LB. I was also thinking if he wanted something more he would let me know one way or another but my friend has told me that either way he cant say anything because he works there and it might be against their rules because if i wasnt interested and he gives me the come on i could complain about him and he might lose his job or get a warning for it. lol LB @ to aggressive, i thought if he liked me then he wouldnt mind be being a little agro:laugh:
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 Men don't mind being aggressive when they are going after something they want. What tends to scare them off is when a woman they are persuing goes aggressive on them, asking about their motives, their flirting, etc.
Author goingforgold Posted March 2, 2007 Author Posted March 2, 2007 Interesting comment there LB. I have noticed he works there every saturday and monday night. Saturdays are quite busy and mondays are a little quiter. I was maybe thinking of going on monday and saying maybe something like "so i've noticed you dont work everynight. you'll have to give me your time table of when you're here" maybe thats forward but not aggressive
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