CheerBell2 Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 I've tried and tried to explain my feelings about the relationship and my reasons for not being happy with it, but he just fights it. He refuses to think that it's just over, and he won't believe me that I just think it isn't working. How do I get it through to him that it's over? Should I stop talking to him about it and just assume he understands that it's over as I've said it was and he just didn't believe me? Has anyone been in a similar situation male or female? Any suggestions as ludicrous as they may sound to you are welcome!
oppath Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 But have you actually said, "I'm not happy in this relationship, and I realize it is because I don't feel we're meant for each other. I'm sorry, but we are breaking up. For good. I do think you are an incredible person and I'll always value the time we have spent together, but I feel it is best for both of us to move on. Do you understand what I am saying?" It doesn't sound to me like you have been definitive with him.
Guest Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 Stop talking about your feelings. You are going to have to be brutally honest and then stop responding to him. If one person decides its over...then its over. That means block and delete him from your IM, your phone etc. If you engage in any conversation in his mind he is hanging onto to that hope. If he stills persists meaning showing up at your house, your job then seek a restraining order. I know it sounds cruel but that's all you can do.
Audero Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Yes, I went through th same thing. I "broke up" for nearly a month. I have never met a man so unwilling to face facts. So able to ignore everything a person says. He didn't want it over, so he didn't accept it......until I said goodbye, meant it, and walked away. Even then, he was denying it was over.
Adick Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Tell hiim it is over plain and simple. Do not spare feelings or sugar coat it. Be clear and then walk away. Do not answer phone calls, emails, pages, text messages, etc. He will be over you in a week--max!
AlexDgr8 Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 True the best thing to do is not to respond to this GUY! I'm in the same situation that you are in now Except that I'm the guy. Breaking up is the easy part. The hard part is to get them to stop calling your house or cellphone!!! I feel like its harassment. My ex-gf is calling me and stuff and its been 3 weeks already and she still not over me!!!!! HELP
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