pink smartie Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 Ok. So it does bother me after all. I had a one night stand last weekend. II did enjoy the night and ow irresistible it all was, but the morning was sooo awkward and awful. I still have shivers. What is it about one night stands that makes me feel like now there is no way that he and I could ever date? I mean, he would otherwise be great dating material. And, uh, I'm guessing we are somewhat attracted to each other. But however I do the math, I always come to the conclusion: I wouldn't want to be dating the guy I had a one night stand with. What's with that?
Lauriebell82 Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 this is why i dont have one night stands. sex is soooooo much better with someone u know well and have actually dated for more than an hour. and honestly, any guy who would have a one night stand isnt probably worth dating that much. in my experience those are the ones who are more of a "player" type than long-term bf material. (granted there are exceptions to the rule, my friend slept with her fiance on the first date and have been together 3 years). i guess if ur looking for advice..dont have a one night stand with someone that is date-worthy to u.
Author pink smartie Posted February 27, 2007 Author Posted February 27, 2007 this is why i dont have one night stands. sex is soooooo much better with someone u know well and have actually dated for more than an hour. and honestly, any guy who would have a one night stand isnt probably worth dating that much. in my experience those are the ones who are more of a "player" type than long-term bf material. (granted there are exceptions to the rule, my friend slept with her fiance on the first date and have been together 3 years). i guess if ur looking for advice..dont have a one night stand with someone that is date-worthy to u. I hear you. I have, until now, only had sex with men I've had more then a few dates with. In fact, I haven't had sex outside of a commited relationship for years now. I do believe you're right about the player thing. I was on askmen earlier, a website dedicated to helping man get laid. It was hilarious. They have all these picking up tips and I recognized so many of them. Ah well, I guess he can be proud of himself. He scored. But that's the thing, if he's going around feeling proud of himself that he scored, why am I not feeling the same way? Are there any women here on LS who enjoy or have enjoyed one night stands? And for the guys who do have one night stands, how do you feel about the woman after?
Star Gazer Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 If you date him after sleeping with him, he's no longer a one-night-stand... A one-night-stand is just that: ONE NIGHT ONLY.
Road Rage Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 The way I see it, if you have sex the first time you meet someone it is a one night stand and will always be. Now, if the two of you get together after that is entirely up to each one. How can the future affect the past? It was a one night stand. Either one involved could chose not to get together again. The moral of the story is that a one night stand can turn into a relationship. If not more than one involving 18 years of child support:(
Yamaha Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 I would just do it (one-night stands) more often so it wouldn't be as awkward. If you enjoy the sex but find you don't like the guy then just use him as a F*** buddy.
laRubiaBonita Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 I mean, he would otherwise be great dating material. And, uh, I'm guessing we are somewhat attracted to each other. But however I do the math, I always come to the conclusion: I wouldn't want to be dating the guy I had a one night stand with. What's with that? so why would HE think you are such Great dating material when you have One Nighters with men? it takes two willing parties... you are no better than you see him. Personally, i see Nothing wrong with 1-nighters.... it is just carnal fun.
Sevenmack Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 There's nothing wrong with one-nighters if you accept the reality that this isn't going to be the start of a relationship, but a f--k-and-run, plain and simple. This means finding a neutral place to handle your business and then moving on, sleeping with him at his house and getting out of there right afterwards or handling the sex at your place and then kicking him out. Lingering there in the morning will merely remind you that the sex is going to be less like the type of action you get in a relationship, where you get to cuddle and have a meeting of the minds and souls before engaging in the nut-busting and p-ssy-wetting. This means accepting the reality that he won't likely call you again unless he's, well, either delusional (thinking a relationship can be made from a f--k-and-run) or just wants to bust his nut in or on you again. And it means getting tested every three months just to make sure you didn't pick up a sexually-transmitted disease. If you can accept that, then go for it. But if it's not for you, then stop having one-night stands. Find a man, form a relationship and enjoy each other's companionship.
Author pink smartie Posted February 28, 2007 Author Posted February 28, 2007 Thanks guys. Your replies actually helped get some perspective. so why would HE think you are such Great dating material when you have One Nighters with men? it takes two willing parties... you are no better than you see him. Personally, i see Nothing wrong with 1-nighters.... it is just carnal fun. The comment that promted this one has nothing to do with devaluing him. I think I might have been tempted to try and devalue him because I have been feeling devalued from the whole experience. But that was yesterday. Today I just keep thinking about how sexy that night was. I think I'm really starting to experience that increase in sex drive promised to women as they get older. I just spent the whole day thinking about sex and - for that matter, spent all of last week thinking about sex too, so when the opportunity presented itself, I just went for it. So good for me. Yet, I know that what I do want right now is something more serious and don't think I'm ready to repeat the experience. Hmmm, unless perhaps with the same guy... He was hot. And he did know what he was doing. Time will tell I guess. I'll probably run into him again in the bars sometime soon.
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