goodguy123 Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 I am completely stuck in depression and I just don't know what to do anymore. Nothing seems to make me happy anymore. I've been broken up w/ my girl for about 6 months now, and she has a new boyfriend now, but she still calls me all the time. And she knows I want her back, but she says she's not ready to be with me again yet. I think she'll come back one day, but I don't know when. We even ended up having sex a few weeks ago, but she still hasn't come back. I miss her so bad, and I find myself constantly thinking about her. And it seems the only time I am happy is when she calls or comes over. And I know I'm probably better off not talking to her, but I can't bring myself to do it. Every now and then she'll tell me she misses me or something, but nothing ever comes of it. I mean is there something I can do to get her to leave this guy and come back to me? I feel like she's the perfect girl for me, but I just don't know what I can do to get her to come back. I have a ton of work to do, but I get nothing done because I always have her on my mind, and I find it so difficult to cope with her being with another guy. I just don't understand how she can be with him and still call me all the time knowing how badly I want her back. I know I wouldn't be so depressed if I could find someone new, but I'm having such a hard time finding someone. I haven't even found a date yet. And I don't consider myself ugly or anything, although I know I'm not the best looking person, but I'm somewhat shy and I have a hard time asking girls out. I have asked out a girl since we broke up, but I got denied. And I also started talking to another girl I liked for a while, but that didn't work out either. I know I'm gonna have a hard time finding anyone that will match up to my ex in my head, but I just want to find a girl to hang out with so I'm not so lonely. I don't really go out to bars much, and that has never worked for me before anyway, not to mention I don't even want some drunk girl from a bar. I've met most of my ex's through friends but none of them seem to have any single friends anymore. And i would join some kind of club or something, but I don't really have time at the moment. And I don't really want to do online dating. I also thought about getting a dog, since I could walk it around and maybe meet girls that way, but I don't really have time for one. I just don't know what to do anymore, I feel like a complete wuss because I constantly find myself crying about my ex, and I still miss her so bad after this long. And she still calls all the time, and I don't know what I can do to get her back, and at the same time I don't want to tell her to stop calling. I know it's kind of like torturing myself, but I think I would be even more sad if she didn't even want to call me. And I don't know what to do to find a new girl, but I am so lonely and sad that I don't know what to do. And I know I won't be so sad if i find someone, but I just haven't yet. Anyway, thanks for reading this, and thanks for any advice you might have.
jnb Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 Hi Good Guy, It's gonna be okay, these things always work out for the better. So she's gone and with another guy, why are you spending your time sitting around crying over someone who isn't crying over you. Live it up dude, go out with your friends, get a motorcycle and go riding, take up martial arts, learn to surf or ski, in other words get a hobby that you enjoy. Suddenly you won't be answering your phone so much because you'll be busy, you'll attract new women because you'll have a new stride to your step, your self confidence will go up because you'll start to feel better about yourself (with new things in your life). She'll wonder what your doing, where you are, why isn't he pineing away for me anymore. Nothing like a making a woman wonder and want you more then being unavailable. Besides, why should you sit on the side lines waiting for her to come back, force yourself to have some fun and eventually you won't have to force it.
Icantletgo Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 I am going through the exact same thing. I want to move on so badly but there is no one in sight. I think that love and the next thing will come once you get over THIS relationship. It's only fair for the next person and yourself. The next person will come once YOU are ready. Love always finds you when you least expect. and trust me, my ex still calls me and when he doesn't call, i end up being weak and texting him. I miss him everyday but the truth is..he's moved on..and i can't. so i lose in this situation. Am i dumb for staying when i know it's wrong? no. I am just in love. Will i be like this forever. I hope not. cause i have faith. Hope you make it through.
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