Rock bottom

[RocketMan2]

Well thats where I am, complete rock bottom.

 

I let the relationship with the girl of my dreams go downhill to the point where she dumped me, and probably cheated on me.

 

My job, which ive spent my entire education on, turns out to suck, and my boss is a complete arse.

 

Friends? Not really. A couple of people who i suspect meerly tolerate me.

 

I've gone from having everything i thought i ever wanted, to absolutely sweet F.A.

 

Im not suicidal, but really, what is the point? There isn't actually a good reason why I shouldn't jump in front of a train.

[ukchap]

I feel Im headed the same way. I think Ive just recently taken the first step to ruining my own life.

 

I always used to feel that things happened for a reason, and those reasons made us stronger better people. Now I dont know.

 

Im sure in time things will be better for you, I myself have never felt as low as I do now, and it really is a struggle to even imagine a time when I will be happy again. Im sure one day I will be, but now Im just living each hour as it comes, and slowly goes.

[RocketMan2]

Its not living tho is it?

 

Whats the point if all youre doing is "putting up with it"?

[ukchap]

At times we all "put up with it" Im sure. Im barely putting up with life as it is right now, but I put up with it because Im sure one day I will be happy again.

 

One day I will be able to make it through a day without going off somewhere in private to cry like a baby. One day.

 

Im like yourself, I have very few people I can truly call friends, which makes feeling low even more of a ture, as there is nobody there to pat you on the back and say things will be alright.

 

Im sure things will get better one day, its just a matter of waiting for that day, or taking small steps to make that day come sooner.

[lovelorcet]

If that is really the case then it can only get better from here on out.

 

 

 

Hang in there man... Go run a few miles and do it about 3 times a week, it really helps a lot.

 

:bunny: :bunny: :bunny:

[lorr]

I'm sorry but a bad relationship, poor career prospects, and no-hope friends is not worth me losing my life over.

 

At the end of the day life is what you make it. So what, everyone goes through a crap relationship in some point in their life that potentially doesn't work out, many people are in jobs that they are not completely satisfied with, and friends (I'm afraid to say)do come and go.

 

At the end of the day its down to you to stop playing a victim and start thinking, planning and finding out what direction you want to take in life.(Do something about it....

 

If your job sucks so much then maybe you need to sit down on your own and write a list of what you think your good at, or visit a careers adviser.

If your so called friends can't be arsed with you, then maybe you need to find new friends by getting yourself out there and networking and socialising more with people who you may have alot of things in common with.

As for relationships instead of rushing into things, maybe you need to take your time and develop a friendship with a woman first, and if it leads onto something then great.

[guin_girl]

RM2,

I am so sorry that you are feeling so down on yourself. But honestly, she couldn't be the "girl of your dreams" if she would cheat on you. Since when has anyone wanted a person they love to cheat? It takes two to make a relationship and it does not sound like either of you wanted it to work, if both of you let it "go downhill". Neither of you tried to save it prior to the end and according to one of your posts, she dumped you out of the blue. And then has been playing on your emotions ever since then. She sucked you into one conversation, just to hit you up for the money you owed her and to get her stuff back. She threw you into a tailspin with the Valentine game she played. Her true colors are now showing... and I think you are just "glorifying" the person that you thought she was, not the person she truly is.

 

You are better off without this person, so that you can find someone who deserves the love and caring you have inside to shower on. We shouldn't "waste" our love and energy that doesn't want it or deserve it. I'm learning myself that I need to stop holding onto people who don't want me. All I do is end up getting hurt over and over, and technically it's not their fault, they made their position perfectly clear, I just haven't listened.

 

As for all your schooling and passion for your career path, do not let one bad job or boss ruin your goals. Not all jobs are the right ones and it takes a while to find the one that meets your expectations and that is a good fit. Many people choose multiple career paths until they find their niche. Use this as a learning experience, you know now what you "don't" want, so you can look for something that contains things about your job you do like and start gearing your resume towards those positions.

 

As we get older, we don't have as many friends as we used to. We aren't put in social situations, like school was, where we meet many people all of the time. And we all know that we can only be so friendly at work before it comes back to haunt you. Try finding groups that have the same interests as you. Join clubs/organizations that allow you to meet people like minded people. I have struggled with being lonely and started getting out more as well... I volunteer with animal organizations, joined my college alumni booster group as well as joined a bible study group and have met a good group of people.

 

You have been doing so well healing, don't let this blip in the road get you down. You have been so positive towards my situation and so supportive. You are a kind, caring person, remember you have given me faith that there are men out there with a real heart and real feelings... don't let me down

[IfWishesWereHorses]

RM - Dude, time for some tough love.

 

I let the relationship with the girl of my dreams go downhill to the point where she dumped me, and probably cheated on me.

You can't change this. Cry about it til the cows come home but all you'll get for your efforts are red eyes and and head ache.

 

Its not living tho is it?

 

Whats the point if all youre doing is "putting up with it"?

 

This YOU can change.

 

Basically you have 24 hours today just like everyone else. You may choose to cry or obsess over things that you cannot change or you may choose to focus on changing yourself and your attitude. Don't go looking for friends or a new girlfriend. Go out looking for anything that gives you just one moments happiness. When you can be completely happy with yourself and not allow things that you cannot control to affect you emotionally then the friends and the girlfriends will find you. The boss might not even seem like such and arse!

 

Also, lovelorcet it right. I HATE EXERCISING. 6 miles of brisk walking 4 days a week is like taking an antidepressant without the sexual or apathetic side effects. Its also good for you. I have a beautiful neighborhood to walk in but I prefer the trails at the park because it makes me HAPPY to smile and acknowledge the people I pass daily. Its a simple thing but its MINE.

 

Well thats where I am, complete rock bottom

 

RM,

 

Well, when you do decide to pull your butt up outta there be sure to leave all of the things that you can't control there on the bottom - if not they will just weigh you down and you'll wind up right back where you started.

 

Hope you find some happiness today!

[most]

for all of us on this coping site....we just can't see ourselves happy again. or that we have a future, cuz all we r left with is shock and dismay. and god knows we now have trust issues, that replaced our confidences. BUT, for urselves and me...i need to better my life, find new interest and stand proud that we can truely find happiness from within ourselves. untill that happens, why would anyone else want our company? so heres how i sholved my problem...lost some weight, decided that i would join a gym. and work on being the best i can be for me...not anyone else...

my ex can kiss my dust, and stay in loserville. don't jump in front of any trains....move froward and take ur lives back!!!

thats an order!!! LOL

[tanbark813]

The great thing about hitting rock bottom is that it can only get better.

[shockandawed]

Rocket, Rocket, Rocket,

 

There isn't any advise that I can add that already hasn't been posted.

 

It's funny, you feel like you are at rock bottom. We all feel that way when we get our hearts broken. But what is funny to me, is how I look at you with envy. Follow along here....

 

You were able to hold back on the contact when I wilted like a wet flower. From your posting I take it you are in your 20's. Man, you are still at an age where you can do whatever you want with your life. Go back to school, change careers, move to another city or even country, join the peace corps for a year.......you get the picture. I got married shortly after college. No regrets, but I went through most of my 20s and 30s pretty well trapped by my situation. I don't mean that to sound bad, I just mean my priorities involved my spouse and later my kids. As they should, but I never had the opportunity to change everything as you do.

 

You don't see it now, but the rest of your life will be impacted by the actions you take now.

 

Lastly, you have made a friend across the pond who really appreciates all you have advised to him and hopes nothing but the best for you. You think your worthless ex has impacted and made friends in the middle of the States?

[sb129]

Rocketman, I know how you feel.

 

And to be encouraging, its possible to get out of feeling like that.

 

But the only person who can do it is you.

 

And not to devalue your feelings, but don't forget that there are ALOT of people out there in worse situations than you.

 

On Valentines Day when alot of people on here were moaning about not getting a card, my friend found out his dad had died. He had to travel 12000miles to the funeral.

 

So get some perspective.

 

I recommend exercise. Its absolutely great for clearing the head, and you might even meet some new people.

[alphamale]

your career and family/friends should ALWAYS come before any female. find another job you like then find some new friends. after everything else is settled in your life THEN worry about girls. Be a little selfish.

[Kelso]

Don't worry my good man ...

 

You're just having a bad day. I don't know your story exactly but I know that the bad days like this will happen less often as the time goes by.

 

It's the exact feeling that I had with my ex when we broke up. As time goes the bad days happen less frequently. For example for like the first week after we broke up, I didn't have a good hour in my life. Then I started to have few nice hours and eventually a day that I didn't almost break down.

 

Today there are 4 months since breakup and still I think of her few times a day but I've haven't gotten this knot in my stomach for maybe 2-3 weeks now. Until I just checked her MySpace and saw all the new photos of her and how beautiful she is.

 

Just give it a time. I'll promise that the day when you wake up and don't think about her will come and probably sooner than you would think.

 

Have a nice evening

[polywog]

Rocket, this rock-bottom sh*tty feeling will pass, all of it. Trust me, I've been there more than once. To paraphrase (or quote?) tanbark, the good thing about rock bottom is that it will only get better. It will. Just be kind to yourself. Pretend that you are someone on LS that you'd be posting to. And you know you'd be posting encouragement. Post it to yourself...

 

bunnies for inspiration: :bunny: :bunny: :bunny:

 

 

polywog

[the_alchemyst]

I like reading your posts, Rocket. (This is not meant in a twisted, negative way, btw.)

 

Im not suicidal, but really, what is the point? There isn't actually a good reason why I shouldn't jump in front of a train.

 

Yea, I've been there, too. Sometimes I think I'm still there, in fact.

 

What's the point? Dude, seriously, who knows? Is there really a good reason to not jump in front of a train? Maybe not. If you do, you'll be dead and you won't feel anything anymore--none of the bad, but also none of the good.

 

The only reasons I don't do it are because I don't know of any train route around here, I'll miss eating chocolate and ice cream, and because I think a train running over my body might hurt.

 

So, that's all.

 

Surely you like ice cream and chocolate.

[shockandawed]

Rocket,

 

You doing any better today?

[cityboy]

Rocket - if you think you haven't made new friends, you're high. I consider you a new friend and I live thousands of miles away.

 

Buck up, mate. As Madness said, "Tomorrow's just another day."

 

Have you considered going to see someone? I thought you mentioned you were trying to make an appt to see a therapist? I start this week, actually. I've pretty much self-diagnosed myself with depression and I want a pro to talk it out. Sounds to me like you could use a similar outlet.

[guin_girl]

Hey RM2,

Check in with us and let us know how you are doing...

[shockandawed]

Just bumping this so maybe Rocket will see it and check in with us. I know several of us are concerned.

[Kwo-ne'-she]

"This too, shall pass..." It sounds simplistic, but it speaks volumes, and is true. We all hit low points in our lives. Some of us, myself included, hit rock bottom. As others have said, that leaves no place to go, but "up".

 

 

Change the things you can, and learn to accept the ones you can't. Life will get better for you, even though it may not seem like it right now. Best wishes to you.

[cr8sea]

Yeah, i know the feeling, just when you think things cannot get ANY worst...they do. Right there myself.

 

But for some reason i know ill be ok. Somehow, someway, im gonna be ok.

 

So Mr wonderful is chasing little girls now?...well his loss, he'll regret it im sure.

So i got fired the next day after the break up?...I wanted to quit anyway.

 

The job i found isnt all thats cracked up to be?...well, ill hold onto it til i find a better one.

 

That my permission to stay in the country is gonna expire before my green card comes thru?? Well i wasnt born here anyway, im sure ill go on living wherever i end up.

 

That i got rejected from the school i wanted to get into? Ill apply everywhere i can think of.

 

THat i have to move back with my parents cuz i cant afford living on my own with the new job? Hey, good chance to help out my mom! (all this mess in the span of a week!)

 

My point is, yeah, life CAN and WILL get ****ty at times, but you GOTTA look at every side of the situation or you're gonna go crazy and/or end up under the train. (Believe me, my friends have been under suicide watch these days)

Positive thinking in ur situation right now might not seem like a possibility, but you need to open up your mind and see that there's a whole world out there and you wont die of a heartbreak, and a stinky job. If i can do it, i know you can.

Hope u feel better. ANd im sorry if it seems like a "you think you life sucks?" post, but i wanted to get my point across...YOU CAN AND WILL SURVIVE!!

[RocketMan2]

Hey everyone

 

Sorry I had to go awol, lurking here every day was stopping me from letting go and getting on with things.

 

Thanks for all your brilliant words everyone, I'm sorry I didn't respond sooner, I hope you all know its not because I was being rude, just needed a break

 

 

Life's still crap, but I've been feeling a lot better. I'm at the stage now where I think I've let go enough to be able to get on with other things and move on (i just dont actually have anything to do though so its pretty boring atm )

 

Hows everyone else?

 

Rocket

[guin_girl]

Hey everyone

 

Sorry I had to go awol, lurking here every day was stopping me from letting go and getting on with things.

 

Thanks for all your brilliant words everyone, I'm sorry I didn't respond sooner, I hope you all know its not because I was being rude, just needed a break

 

 

Life's still crap, but I've been feeling a lot better. I'm at the stage now where I think I've let go enough to be able to get on with other things and move on (i just dont actually have anything to do though so its pretty boring atm )

 

Hows everyone else?

 

Rocket

 

Hey RM2... you had S&A and I worried... I'm glad to see you back... I know about the break thing... sometimes just reading all of the posts gets you bogged down and thinking too much more about your own problem, instead of healing... it's a catch22...

[shockandawed]

Rocket,

 

I understand that, but do us a favor...the next time you are going to disappear for awhile, don't make the last post about jumping in front of a train....

 

Really good to hear you are doing better!!!