Guest Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 I've been dating someone for about three years now and we are pretty serious. We moved in together quite a few months ago and we have always gotten along really well. Lately, however, I've been feeling different. In the past I've always said that I want to be with him forever and get married someday and everything, but now I'm not sure anymore. At the same time I feel ridiculous for having these thoughts... he's an amazing guy and we are best friends, we have great communication, we balance eachother out on most things, etc. I still love him, I just don't know why I suddenly feel like things are different. I guess there is nothing about us that makes me know that he is the one for me, the one that I should always be with. Should I expect to have a feeling of "knowing" or is that unrealistic? It's hard because we've been together for such a long time and we get along so well but I don't know if we are meant to be. Our lives are so intertwined and he is the one I talk to about everything, so it is hard to even think about what it would be like without him. It's like I have two parts to myself, one that can see me marrying him and having kids and a house in the suburbs, and another that misses being single and independent. I've kind of always felt that we could be happy together, but that if we ever broke up for some reason we would both be able to move on and find someone else. At the same time I can't imagine not being with him. How can I sort out my feelings? How do you know if you should be with someone? If you can't imagine your life without someone but also aren't sure you should always be with them what do you do?
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