she wants to take a break, i hope its not the end, i love her so much

[deeplyinlove]

I been looking on this website for awhile, all the replys from people seem very well thought out and heart felt. I know long distance relationships are hard and all and that comunication is the key. I been with this girl who i'm head over heels with and can see a future with her. Being her bf has been the best thing ever for me. I been with her for almost a year. One year aniversery is may 3rd. She has been going through alot of troubles lately and somewhat depression. We have been through so much together. She almost died on me before due to what happen in her past. We got through it together and i am there for her always. Been through hell and back it seems. But lately, she seems to be dealing with issues i have no clue about and she says she doesn't even know. I tell her i'm always there for her if she needs me and everything. So yesterday she said we should take a break cause we have been communicating less and less. I think thats due to mostly her dealing with isssues and such but i don't know for sure. It takes 2 to have a conversation. its usually me who has to carry on the conversation, but after as much as long as we talk about, its hard to have things to always talk about. What i need to do is get that plane ticket and fly to her doorstep. god i wish i could, i miss her so much, it pains me to not hold her in my arms or kiss those sweet lips of hers. Heh sorry, i'm a helpless romantic after all. I know almost all our problems could be solved if i could just see her and be with her in person and not in text and phone. I can't see her yet for another at least 4 months ; ;, have to save up enough + graduate. Now i'm so confused about the whole deal. I have been there for her and everything and done everything to make sure she knows i love her. I know the whole ldr thing makes her second judge herself and us. I can tell it scares and confuses her and again i respect that. I'm not the jealous type though, but maybe a little clingy after reading some of the forums >,< but not to where i obbsess over, i just care about her more then i could ever think to care about someone. I just feel so dead inside to be back at the friend zone so to speak. We are taking a break as she calls it. For how long i dunno. She is so amazing, and i love her for her personality the most. She is a goddess of a beauty though if i ever saw one though ^^;. I guess i just needed to write this to feel better and get feed back. After reading alot of these forums i feel somewhat better. But the chance we could break up for good hurts ; ;. We both can see each other together as man and wife,i know thats kinda crazy given all i said but we have disscussed that once and it was great. I won't rush things though, as we both agreed if we did ever it would be 23+ lol. But to think to lose all that i feel and to be alone again, she has helped me so much and changed me for the better to as i have help her as well. I don't want to think of us breaking up ever, but if it must be i will live, just be shattered for awhile. I love her with all my being and so much more, i can't say that enough. She inspire me and i even wrote poems for her ^^;, anyway i am just yammering on, any feed back would be awesome, take care everyone. ps, if my writting is really sloppy sorry, my heart is racing a zillion seconds a minute + i suck at grammar +spelling v.v

[whichwayisup]

She needs help with her depression and has to deal with the issuses she has, and that means putting herself first. All you can do is be there when she needs an ear, let her know that you care about her - And, give her the space she needs right now.

 

Don't think so far ahead into the future, noone knows what that holds, so just enjoy the times you do talk to her or see her.

[Sweetie2007]

I been looking on this website for awhile, all the replys from people seem very well thought out and heart felt. I know long distance relationships are hard and all and that comunication is the key. I been with this girl who i'm head over heels with and can see a future with her. Being her bf has been the best thing ever for me. I been with her for almost a year. One year aniversery is may 3rd. She has been going through alot of troubles lately and somewhat depression. We have been through so much together. She almost died on me before due to what happen in her past. We got through it together and i am there for her always. Been through hell and back it seems. But lately, she seems to be dealing with issues i have no clue about and she says she doesn't even know. I tell her i'm always there for her if she needs me and everything. So yesterday she said we should take a break cause we have been communicating less and less. I think thats due to mostly her dealing with isssues and such but i don't know for sure. It takes 2 to have a conversation. its usually me who has to carry on the conversation, but after as much as long as we talk about, its hard to have things to always talk about. What i need to do is get that plane ticket and fly to her doorstep. god i wish i could, i miss her so much, it pains me to not hold her in my arms or kiss those sweet lips of hers. Heh sorry, i'm a helpless romantic after all. I know almost all our problems could be solved if i could just see her and be with her in person and not in text and phone. I can't see her yet for another at least 4 months ; ;, have to save up enough + graduate. Now i'm so confused about the whole deal. I have been there for her and everything and done everything to make sure she knows i love her. I know the whole ldr thing makes her second judge herself and us. I can tell it scares and confuses her and again i respect that. I'm not the jealous type though, but maybe a little clingy after reading some of the forums >,< but not to where i obbsess over, i just care about her more then i could ever think to care about someone. I just feel so dead inside to be back at the friend zone so to speak. We are taking a break as she calls it. For how long i dunno. She is so amazing, and i love her for her personality the most. She is a goddess of a beauty though if i ever saw one though ^^;. I guess i just needed to write this to feel better and get feed back. After reading alot of these forums i feel somewhat better. But the chance we could break up for good hurts ; ;. We both can see each other together as man and wife,i know thats kinda crazy given all i said but we have disscussed that once and it was great. I won't rush things though, as we both agreed if we did ever it would be 23+ lol. But to think to lose all that i feel and to be alone again, she has helped me so much and changed me for the better to as i have help her as well. I don't want to think of us breaking up ever, but if it must be i will live, just be shattered for awhile. I love her with all my being and so much more, i can't say that enough. She inspire me and i even wrote poems for her ^^;, anyway i am just yammering on, any feed back would be awesome, take care everyone. ps, if my writting is really sloppy sorry, my heart is racing a zillion seconds a minute + i suck at grammar +spelling v.v

 

Does she want a break because she's overwhelmed with other, daily life stuff, or is she wanting a break because she needs it from the relationship? That would be the first question I would answer, personally. I know that sometimes with school and life and whatever, I find that for a few days, I don't have much time for my LDR, but that has nothing to do with the relationship, just the fact that I'm working, in school, and have other things I need to do on top.

Just a suggestion, you might want to talk to her, and try to find out. Let her know that you love her, and that you're there for her if she needs you. You might say something super sweet and romantic too, to boost her spirits, if you think that would work. I know it would with me... sometimes I get distant from my BF because I wonder if he's getting distant, but that doesn't sound like the case with you...

 

good luck!