VideoKid Posted February 25, 2007 Posted February 25, 2007 My ex and I were together for 2 years, we were inseperable and planned on spending our lives together. I'd been confused lately about whether I was happy with him - I would have never split up with him I just voiced my concerns that we were taking eachothers company for granted slightly and needed to shake it up a bit. Well he told me he'd been thinking about splitting up with me on Valentines day but promised we'd work hard at it and wouldn't. Right up til the last minute he told me he loved me, even Sunday morning then he split up with me last Sunday night. Well I was heartbroken, I we promised we'd make it work. Honestly I thought he'd come back though because when he dropped me off after picking up my stuff from his house he kissed me and he said he was thinking about whether to take me back or not but he didn't come back so I spent last week getting over him ... until Fri and Sat when I saw him at work and just burst into tears. He didn't even seem to care at all, he wasn't sad or ignoring me, he just spoke to me like he would any other person so I asked him today why he didn't care and he said "Well I've been through it before" but he wasn't with his ex aslong as me and she cheated on him with his best friend so I can imagine he'd be glad to get rid of her but our relationship wasn't bad, although there was a bit of confusion, I still loved him up to the end and I believed he loved me too so I don't understand how he can claim to get over it so easy. I know Wed night he told his friend he missed me but that soon seemed to pass. Well I don't know what to do, we've agreed to be friends for the sake of working together although I find it very hard. We also have a trip booked to London for the weekend that was too late to cancel, we decided to go still but I don't want to be miserable all weekend. Everytime I see him not caring it hurts more, I'm not crying over it anymore but I'm left very lonely and confused to whats going through his head. He said we'd stay best friends but he's been quite cold towards me. I'm really confused. Anyone got any advice or support to help? (Ps. sorry for the crappy title, the board wouldn't let me post one with words =\ )
lorr Posted February 25, 2007 Posted February 25, 2007 Seems like your ex already checked out of the relationship and has pretty much made his mind up on how he feels about you. Its not a nice situation to be in, but if I were you this would be the time to distance yourself fully from him and move on. As far as being friends is concerned it would not be pheasible at this present moment in time, especially has you still have feelings for him(it just wouldn't work). Is there no way that either one of you can back out of the trip? If not then all I can say is to grin and bear it, try to keep busy and active by taking in the sights rather than focusing the whole trip entirely on him.Don't bug him anymore for any sort of reassurances and try not to get all emotional as it will just make matters worse. Oh and another thing no hanky panky whilst your away
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