alexa137 Posted February 25, 2007 Posted February 25, 2007 how much should you give someone? i dont undestand if you truly really loves someone you dont give up or quit--its been over a week and my boyfriend still doesnt know what to do? how hard is it to decide? i told him the only way i would leave him is if he cheated on me or beat me up what i did is forgivable and should be able to move on--i cry everday for past 2 weeks-that i can barely see! the worst part is we live together!
lorr Posted February 25, 2007 Posted February 25, 2007 What you need to ask yourself is whether it makes any sense to continually pursue or "not give up" on someone, when that person starts to question or wants out of a relationship. Its all good to say that you would leave if he cheated on you or beat you up but that doesn't necessarily mean that its the same on his part. If he is still struggling to give you an answer, then the best thing that both of you can do is to decide which one of you should move out.
Author alexa137 Posted February 25, 2007 Author Posted February 25, 2007 hes moving out wed, the end of the month since he paid for feb--but he told me last fri he needs time and the other day he thinks we need time apart but he still lives here! and it drives me crazY! i left him alone for 5-6 days and texted him today about whether he wants me to give up or what?- i think a person should know whether they want to be with someone or not!
lorr Posted February 25, 2007 Posted February 25, 2007 I think he has given you an answer by moving out and it shows that he is serious about moving on. I also agree that he should be straight up and honest with you, but if its a case where you constantly have to phone, text etc just to get a simple answer then it seems to me that he's just beating around the bush. This alone should tell you that he is not worth your time, and you need to find the strength to move on.
Author alexa137 Posted February 26, 2007 Author Posted February 26, 2007 he says he thinks we should live apart-he still tells me he loves me but i tell i dont see how! i told him ive changed and wont do what i did before-and ive seen the change in me already since the day he said he didnt know what he wanted--i just dont understand--well today he finally told me a little more why--he thinks i raise my daughter wrong and that she is always giving him the evil eye=-well i guess so in her eyes she sees my crying everyday and us arguing all the time for the past two weeks--she knows somewhat of what is going on-he thinks i let me daughter get away with alot and i dont punish her--which is true all he says is he needs time--time for what? im trying to get the truth out and figure it all out and my xanax is running out!
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