lilemiedp Posted February 25, 2007 Posted February 25, 2007 This might be long, so I apologize in advance. I've been through such an emotional rollercoaster the past couple of weeks, I just really need some advice, or just someone to talk to. I was going out with this guy for the majority of 2006. We had some problems, but deep down, we both had some real feelings for the other, though I really did not know the extent of my feelings at the time. We were off-and-on for a little bit. About two months ago, I know he still had some feelings for me. At the time, I was still a little upset over an email he had sent. It has some really hurtful things in it, and well it was so bad it made me not speak to him for a while. This wasn't exactly intentional, but I got busy, and we just did not contact each other. Fast forward two months, and I just get sick of the little game of what seemed like that we were playing of who was ignoring who. So we started text messaging and the like again. Anyway, a couple days later I found out that he had started to date someone new. While trying to cope with this, we were still texting and communicating. Despite the fact that I think this girl is all wrong for him and to young, things really started to spiral out of control. One thing is that we've been texting alot and had a quite length IM one night. While many of these texts are serious, some are well, quite, sexual in nature. To the point that he gave me a pretty good idea of the reaction I was giving him, if you know what I mean. I don't want to get too graphic here. So, he is still attracted to me, and if I were in front of him, he would probably do something about that. I've also been expressing the fact how much I miss him lately, and that I hate how I was just a couple weeks late. I've pretty much said everything except the fact that I want him back, which is pretty much what I want. And just a couple nights ago, he almost invited me over. I found out later the next day he met up with his girlfriend. Yet the night before he was all hot and heavy for me. We were talking till about 5am and "pictures" were exchanged. I am very conflicted at the moment. From what I can tell, this relationship is long distance and I think they only see each other once a week, as she lives 3 hours away, away at school. Also, I have a tracker on my myspace page, and she has checked my profile 10 times in the past week, as well as I also got a hit from one of her friends visiting my page. I don't know if she knows we are even talking, or if she knows how sexual are conversations are at times. I mean, if she did, would she still be with him? However, he says he won't break up with her. But he also says if he sees me, that he probably would do something that would involve cheating or breaking up with this new girl. Everytime I even think of him with her or anyone else for that matter, I get so sick to my stomach. I just don't get it. Especially since he still thinks about me in a certain way still. I'm not even near over him, and I am just so conflicted about all that's happened. I've been having such highs and lows lately. He says he won't end it with her or whatnot, but hasn't he already crossed a certain line??
Trialbyfire Posted February 25, 2007 Posted February 25, 2007 He's not the only one who's crossed the line... He has a g/f. Let him go. It appears that all he's looking for from you are fun and games. A guy wanting you physically doesn't necessarily mean he wants you otherwise. My advice would be to go N/C and walk away while you still have some pride left.
Author lilemiedp Posted February 25, 2007 Author Posted February 25, 2007 I get that...but I was looking for some comments or explanations on his behavior, etc. Basically some insight.
Guest Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 Guys are douchebags. They want their cake AND pizza too. Right now your the pizza. If he's seeing someone else, leave him alone. Thats what I am having to do right now too. If you hooked up with him it would be very bad, both for your emotions and for the way you look in his eyes. If you really want him back one day, why would you want him to disrespect you by cheating on his girlfriend with you? Think about it...you wouldn't think very highly of a guy who hooked up with you knowing full well you had a boyfriend, would you? Pretty much he's acting like a dick. Playing you, and his girlfriend too. Don't put up with that.
scubafish Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 he is treating you like a tasty side dish to his normal gf. It is tempting to you because it is fun maybe, but do you really want to waste your time with him? even if he does break up with gf for you right now, he does not sound mature enough to be in a 'real' relationship. What he is doing with you on the side now, he will do to you in the future if you try a relationship with him. do not concern yourself with try to understand it, there is no 'explanation'. how old is he, just out of curiousity?
Author lilemiedp Posted March 9, 2007 Author Posted March 9, 2007 He's 27. The chick he's seeing is 21. Not that matters.... He's a douchebag, actually that's probably an understatement.
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