Cuepid Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 That's all there is to it. Respect your partner and you will never feel the pain. If you're partner wants to break up with you, don't argue. Respect their wishes. Arguing will only drive them away. Agree with everything he/she says. The nagging and whining type are not desirable. Also, the whole NC deal is utter crap. Games do not work. NC is just a battle of egos. Be the bigger person. If your ex contacts you, be respectful and talk. Be happy for him/her. If you truly cared about your partner, you would want him/her to be happy, correct? So be happy for your ex. When you whine and cry and beg, you are only asking for your own happiness, not theirs. You can never convince them to stay. It's not up to you to decide. If they have found someone else, let them go. As you do this, you'll notice how much more they respect you. Hell, they may even come back to you! They'll wonder how emotionally stable you are. How you are so confident. You're so caring and respectful and not controlling and needy. That's all for my first post. I just got dumped. I respected her wishes. We'll see how it goes. :p:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
NorCalDave Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 I completely agree. I know from experience that this truly works. It's very difficult though because we miss the happiness they gave us. I got back with my girlfriend after letting her go exactly a year ago. We didn't talk for 7 straight months, and then we got back together in September of last year. We dated for 5 months and the same things we broke up for last time came up again. We have a big age gap and she's not over her ex. Same as last time. But I know that by letting her go and respecting her wishes last time, it made the return possible. This time around, I only groveled a little. I sent her a letter telling her she's codependent and not healthy for me. I wish I hadn't sent that letter though, because it just makes it look like I am not over it and I'm not happy without her, when in actuality it's true, but she doesn't need to know that. But I think as time passes and I make no attempts to contact her, we will eventually want to see each other again. Now it's too soon. But I respect that she does not want to be with me at this time. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 N/C should be your time to get whole. I agree that using it as a way to get your ex back isn't a good idea. Link to post Share on other sites
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