ohmy3 Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 I have read and read all you've said and i can't help but feel as though your being way to easy on him.............. & yes i was refering to working more good yes but if it needs done to carry your $ threw hard times someone gotta do it and that don't mean you have to accept less of respect from him cause you may feel gulity/sad that he is out working 2 jobs .......... Yes i am am upset (for you) for him acting how he is and you trying to justife alot of it in 1 way or another this is how it comes across to me from page 1- current pages, dont' you think that if you recently let on your concerns which you say you have and now all the sudden they aint talking? (well that you know of) if BB is still active and you aren't aware of them talking well haven't you read on this site how once you tip off a cheater they will do all they can to cover there tracks better and may have found other channles you aren't aware of to chat.
Author mopar crazy Posted March 8, 2007 Author Posted March 8, 2007 I have read and read all you've said and i can't help but feel as though your being way to easy on him.............. & yes i was refering to working more good yes but if it needs done to carry your $ threw hard times someone gotta do it and that don't mean you have to accept less of respect from him cause you may feel gulity/sad that he is out working 2 jobs .......... Yes i am am upset (for you) for him acting how he is and you trying to justife alot of it in 1 way or another this is how it comes across to me from page 1- current pages, dont' you think that if you recently let on your concerns which you say you have and now all the sudden they aint talking? (well that you know of) if BB is still active and you aren't aware of them talking well haven't you read on this site how once you tip off a cheater they will do all they can to cover there tracks better and may have found other channles you aren't aware of to chat. I can see your point about her not being in contact w/ him once I mentioned my concerns of their close coaching R. From what he has said she hasn't called b/c there isn't any present games going on until next weekend when they play in a BB tourney out of town. I'm tired of feeling like something could be going on. If I can't trust him then this M should of never been reconciled.
Romeo Must Die Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 I believe there will always be dark clouds every once in awhile, it doesnt mean you can't reconcille with your husband. I just worry for you, because I know what you are going through and it is hard. Look, there is another thread (by sky) which is about a MW who has gotten close to a MM through sports because her husband "works alot" and now, she is hopelessly attracted to him because they have spent so much time together. Don't you think it would be alot easier to nip it in the bud, before it gets out of hand, and to limit all contact (specifically the alone time) with this other woman? Do whatever is necessary, and since she has become such a pain in the ass for you, then you should be a pain in the ass for her and always be there whenever she turns her head around. If you are married, then you should be seen at these events as a couple. Like sports, put up the best defence you have. You said that when she gave FWS a ride that the girls were in the car, that doesnt matter, same as the other woman being married. Dont rely on people who are married or are parents to have an impecable character because of their status. My FWS carried out his affair with my children underfoot and they were actually used as cover and later as pawns in the affair. You would not have liked him (what he turned into) he went from good dad to the dad who ruined his family in a year. The same as another woman will feel like she is his friend because other women will do these things for him, for her male friend in need. She will put him on a pedistal and she will knock herself out for him, because she thinks no one else will and that makes her special to him. You dont want another woman doing favors and endearing herself to him. I havent met this woman but I'm already sick of her. This isnt the first time you have been concerned about her I would listen to your instincts and what they tell you. She is around too much. There would be less chance of an affair if ya'll see her alot less. Do you want to know how many rides I have had from a MM in the last year? Answer: None. Do you want to know how many times Romeo has taken rides and/or calls from married women this year? Answer: None. alright then.
Author mopar crazy Posted March 14, 2007 Author Posted March 14, 2007 Thanks RMD! Things are going pretty good. She hasn't called and he hasn't called her. However, this weekend is another BB tourney so I'm sure she will start calling again. I will catch ya up on how her behavior is this weekend. Last year we stayed at the same hotel but this year H registered at another hotel so we probably wont be around her much. If we do all get together this will give me a great opprotunity to see how they act towards each other.
Ruby Tuesday Posted March 17, 2007 Posted March 17, 2007 My husband has kept a seperate work email and I used to really worry about that. Anyway, I brought him lunch the other day and while he was busy with a customer, I checked his email and it was open. I snooped for any existance of the xOW and was so (freaking) relieved not to find a hint of her. Just had to know, you know?
Author mopar crazy Posted March 19, 2007 Author Posted March 19, 2007 Ruby, I would have done the samething, just to put my mind at ease. As for the BB tourney, things went normal. They didn't even sit next to each other. However, I did see her get up and move down and sit next to him during the game but I'm sure they were just talking about the game. She moved back to her seat after that. She just acts weird towards me. She never talks, makes glances (as well as I her) and that is it. Maybe I'm showing some kind of different attitude towards her that she doesn't feel comfortable w/, I don't know. I just find it hard to talk to her.
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