Virginia Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 So I have been reading LS for quite some time and I have to comment on the fact that so many people seem to be in unhealthy relationships. You have men and women screwing around,people who think it is OK to screw someone elses husband or wife. In relationships where someone has cheated,relationships with no sex yadda yadda yadda. I am sure the nature of the forum makes people who are having problems post more but are there many people here who are in good healthy relationships? with men or women who do not screw around and actually treat you well? I know all relationships has its ups and downs,mine included,but I would love to hear from some people in happy and HEALTHY relationships It is pretty scary at times when I read the amount of people here in toxic relationships. I was in one once too and now very happy with a man who treats me like gold,but I have had my share of ***** but I grew up and realized I am worth more than that. So come on you happy people,come and give me faith that some relationships out there are happy and healthy and they don't all end up in the gutter after a few years.
EnigmasMuse Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 There is really more to it than just unhappy people in unhappy relationships where a spouse or partner has screwed around. Its also a forum where people come to seek advice about abuse, drugs, family problems, parenting skills etc, its alot of things. Not every thing on here is about unhealthy things. Theres usually some cool things going on in the water cooler.
Curmudgeon Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 So come on you happy people,come and give me faith that some relationships out there are happy and healthy and they don't all end up in the gutter after a few years. My wife and I celebrated our 10th anniversary in December and neither of us has ever been so happy and content. Perhaps that's the difference between a mature relationship (she and I were 48 and 50, respectively, when we married) and a young, relatively immature relationship. I'd had a 25-year prior marriage and she'd been single for 18 years following a divorce. Happiness IS a great possibility in a marriage when you concentrate on one another instead of being all wrapped up in yourselves. It's almost an absolute when you marry your friend which is precisely what we did. Romancing one another in small ways daily keeps the love alive as do respect, admiration (the bases for our friendship) and open communication -- conversations, not confrontations. Does a decade count as more than a few years, especially when preceded by a five-year friendship?
Author Virginia Posted February 24, 2007 Author Posted February 24, 2007 My wife and I celebrated our 10th anniversary in December and neither of us has ever been so happy and content. Perhaps that's the difference between a mature relationship (she and I were 48 and 50, respectively, when we married) and a young, relatively immature relationship. I'd had a 25-year prior marriage and she'd been single for 18 years following a divorce. Happiness IS a great possibility in a marriage when you concentrate on one another instead of being all wrapped up in yourselves. It's almost an absolute when you marry your friend which is precisely what we did. Romancing one another in small ways daily keeps the love alive as do respect, admiration (the bases for our friendship) and open communication -- conversations, not confrontations. Does a decade count as more than a few years, especially when preceded by a five-year friendship? Very lovely to hear I totally agree with your views on relationships. Ill check out the water cooler,thanks
silktricks Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 We've had our ups and downs, but my husband and I are happy. We've been together for 30 years (married 17), so I guess we're entitled to a couple of unhappy twists in the road. For the most part our relationship has been a good giving and loving partnership.
Mz. Pixie Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 We're happy, but we're relatively newlyweds- not quite two years yet.
CynicalP Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 Marriage is a like a roller coster ride with it's peeks and valleys and sharp curves. One day your up the next your crashing down. As long as your strap in together and willing to ride it out together the ride is worth the price of admission. My only complaint is not getting enough tunnel time in the ride. Oh, this is a forum is here to attract people with common problems and vents. People who are generally happy have no reason to vent out to others.
sb129 Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 I am really happy. Have had ups and downs and some spectacular failed relationships with inappropriate men.. but now all that history has made me truly appreciate the man I love now. He is amazing. We compliment eachother very well, and having been in a toxic relationship or two, I know that this is the real deal. Glad it didn't come along until I was mature enough to appreciate it- because now I know I am mature enough to treat it (and him) with the respect it deserves.
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