MustBeLove Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 I couldn't take it anymore. I couldn't take being the OW anymore. I told me last night, actually he knew something was up. We didn't talk about it. I told him that I was done being the OW. I told him that I do want to be with him, but I don't want to share him anymore. So if he really loves me and wants to be with me then I will be here, not forever, but its up to him to come to me. If hurts so so much. He is my best friend, my love and someone I work with. I'm losing everything, and he gets to go back to his W and nothing changes. This is what I get for falling in love with a MM. I know. It still hurts so much.
GreenEyedLady Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 MBL: You are not losing everything...in time you will come to see that...what are you losing is someone that you love...but you ARE gaining yourself back... The first week will be PAINFUL...try not to go back...try to stay focused on what you WANT and NEED... I can say this now, because I broke it off with mine two weeks ago...I KNOW how painful it is...I know how devastating it feels...but it gets BETTER... What has really helped me was realizing that life without him, wasn't that much different than life with him...and quite frankly, that if I wasn't going to get what I wanted, then I wasn't going to give him what he wanted... Keep posting, we'll help you get through it...GEL
Loopy Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 (sorry, I forgot my proper username) I agree with GreenEyedLady - it does hurt, but eventually you'll get angry, you'll hate him and then you'll wonder why you wasted your time and energy on him and will be happy to ignore him forever. Sounds unlikely now, but it'll happen - it happened to me. It's just the way men are - selfishly unaware of your feelings. Chin up.
norajane Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 It may not feel like it now, MBL, but you've just taken your life BACK. There are so many more possibililties open to you now! It will take time for the hurt to subside - you know this from past breakups with people - but you will get past this and find yourself again. Good luck to you, and keep posting. There are a lot of people here who have been in your shoes and will listen.
kymberann Posted February 25, 2007 Posted February 25, 2007 WOW! The courage it takes! You did the best thing for you! That's what matters most, is you. The drive to get out is much stronger for you than the need to stay in the R and continue in a R that won't go anywhere that does not have hurt and pain attached to it. You left gaining your power back! I hope you are proud of yourself! You have every right to be! GEL, I often read your responses, I am sorry to hear of your situation, but yet, I bet you did the best thing that you had to do for you as well. Many good thoughts headed your way! Best!
Jinxx Posted February 25, 2007 Posted February 25, 2007 You did what is best for you. As hard as it is now it will only get better but expect a few meltdowns in between. Going on one month for me now. Lately more bad days then good days but i know it was for the best just like you.
YoMomma Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 Don't look back! You will have good days, bad days and days that just plain suck - but they will be YOURS - with no secrets or lies. Walk with your head up knowing that you deserve so much more than he was giving you, be proud and be happy. I know it sounds like a bunch of words - but its so true you owe it to yourself to move on and be happy. Trust me, he will creap back into your mind, in the begining it will be daily, (still for me) but I know I am in such a better place without him. Its been over five months for me - I am dating again - life is sweet once more! :bunny: :bunny: :bunny:
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