whichwayisup Posted February 25, 2007 Posted February 25, 2007 I didn't "screw" someone else's husband for sport. But you are now if you're just meaningless sex right now. You even said it earlier in your post, that you're detaching and having just sex. The thing is, your actions right now are making things worse...You're not thinking clearly. If you want out and this affair is hurting YOU, then end it! Don't rely on the MM getting pissed off and calling it ALL off cuz you had sex with his brother. Get counselling to help you get stronger so you can end it.
Trialbyfire Posted February 25, 2007 Posted February 25, 2007 Yup, no one picks a sib just because they want to be like men. It's not a situation of inequity among sexes so please don't use that as an excuse. This situation is a powder keg so don't be surprised if it blows and shrapnel hits everyone involved.
norajane Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 Well, gee, when did "having sex like a man" come to mean "having sex with a man and his brother"? Even the most promiscuous men might pause at screwing two sisters. Obviously, not all of them draw that line, but the ones that don't are called asshats.
HennyPenny Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 Hopefully this won't destroy a lifelong relationship between two brothers and they can just clap each other on the back and compare notes.
pricillia Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 Hopefully this won't destroy a lifelong relationship between two brothers and they can just clap each other on the back and compare notes. Ok no need to be so mean, obviously OP made a mistake... And the saying goes... Pat eachother on the back not clap. Maybe your other brain took over?
HennyPenny Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 It's so flattering when you follow me around, really. Ah, correcting my grammar. You probably shouldn't go down that road. :lmao:
pricillia Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 It's so flattering when you follow me around, really. Ah, correcting my grammar. You probably shouldn't go down that road. :lmao: Well you should not be flattered, I just don't think you should torture the OP by being cruel... She is probably not happy about what happened but it happened so now she has to live with it. Maybe she is justifying a little but it is hard for one to accept that they made a mistake... Road what road the grammer road?
pricillia Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 Hopefully this won't destroy a lifelong relationship between two brothers and they can just clap each other on the back and compare notes. But don't you think that this is mean... come on! You know it is and you take pleasure in it! So maybe you would not have done what she did, reguardless it was mean. oh and just for the record everyone I spelled Grammar wrong, silly me
HennyPenny Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 There are meaner comments on this thread, but I don't see you wagging your finger at them or attempting to correct their grammar. But you know what? I enjoy your attention. It makes me feel all warm inside.
whichwayisup Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 Originally Posted by HennyPenny Hopefully this won't destroy a lifelong relationship between two brothers and they can just clap each other on the back and compare notes. How would it destroy their brotherhood seeing as the single bro has NO idea she is sleeping with his MM bro...In his mind (single bro) thinks nothing of it. And, the MM bro probably figured that his (single) bro would be the last person she'd sleep with. If anything, she'll end up losing both, if not one.
HennyPenny Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 You assume we're talking about rational people here. I have this strange hunch that we're not. Besides, in such a situation with alcohol and extra-marital sex with both brothers, it might be safe to assume that things could get ugly. It wouldn't be "out there" to think things could escalate, would it? Then again, they could all sit down (preferably with a therapist) and discuss rationally what happened in their childhood to make them want to cheat on their wives and get drunk and have sex with their married lover and his brother. That's probably what they're doing right now.
whichwayisup Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 I thought that the MM's brother was single. If I am wrong, then that changes everything.
HennyPenny Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 No, he's single. I'm referring to the fact that the married guy's lover had sex with his brother. That situation by itself has lots of potential for disaster. Or maybe not, as long as they're all cool with it. But judging from the OP, MM probably wouldn't be too thrilled. I feel funny having to explain this. I must be out of the loop completely if this is considered normal, everyday behavior.
whichwayisup Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 It isnt' normal behaviour, I agree with you. Sorry, I misunderstood you, I thought YOU thought the other brother she slept with was married also. My mistake.
frannie Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 oh dear... The trouble with women having sex like men is... as pricillia said... you're not a man, you're a woman. And more importantly THEY are not women, they're men. Despite what someone said earlier in the thread about wanting to spark a fight between two men over a woman, I think that that rarely happens... ... women fight over men, not the other way round. (generally speaking, and I suppose I may be wrong on this, but just from my observations). A man will usually back off if another man is involved... not get into a battle about it. And that's the best outcome I think you can expect, should it all come to light. It's also quite likely that they will both disown you in disgust (especially since they're brothers). It's just the way of things. Men aren't like women in that... What to do about it..? Hope that the younger brother never tells MM, and get out of both their lives..? I don't know. It's a bomb waiting to go off I think...
Salicious Crumb Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 You guys are not going to believe this..... Last night we all went out for drinks after work (including MM) and then a few of us (MM went home to W) went our for diner and the night kept going. I ended up having sex with MM's much younger single brother!!! This is the first time I have had sex with anyone other than MM since my H and I split up. We were both pretty drunk and it started with Kissing and one thing led to another, bla, bla, bla. So, MM's B and I made a pact when the making out started that this would be a one night deal and that we would pretend it didn't happen on Monday. In all likelihood, there are 3 other coworkers that know about this since they were in the house at the time. Do I tell MM about this????? He encourages me to go out with other guys all the time and I have made up stories about me doing it with other guys before. We are now trying to make the A entirely about sex - no love and it is working. I am nowhere near as attached as I used to be. I guess part of me wants to tell him and maybe evoke a little jealousy but the other part of me wants to use this as another step of detachment. So it's either I tell MM and it may be 100% over after he hears it or I don't, hope no one says anything and if it does get back to him, DENY, DENY, DENY. Any thoughts???? You sound like a real catch.
Izzar Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 MM, mm bro, no single bro, OMG I'm so confused. IT'S JUST ONE BIG MESS. THAT I AGREE ON.
Izzar Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 What ever happened to monogamy?? (SP?) One sexual partner. Isn't that enough anymore? Cheese n Rice !
Author BurriedAlive Posted February 28, 2007 Author Posted February 28, 2007 Holy.... I decide not to check in on LS for a few days.... MM's brother is SINGLE. Brother showed up at my house on Saturday to make sure things weren't going to be weird between us at work on Monday. And they weren't and things are fine. We both agreed to keep it to ourselves. MM has no idea. We are getting along fine both personally and professionally. I am feeling SOOOO much better about everything now. I have barely thought of MM, MM's brother, the A or anything this week. I feel very good, no thanks to some of you guys. Seriously though, without naming any names, why do you guys even bother? Just like everyone else who has gotten themselves into a bad situation, we come to LS for support, not to get Sh*t on. Grow up.
whichwayisup Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 I am feeling SOOOO much better about everything now. I have barely thought of MM, MM's brother, the A or anything this week. I feel very good, no thanks to some of you guys. Seriously though, without naming any names, why do you guys even bother? Just like everyone else who has gotten themselves into a bad situation, we come to LS for support, not to get Sh*t on. Grow up. Geez, atleast we MADE the effort to reply to you. Just like in real life, if you don't like advice or it's not the 'good job' advice you're looking for, ignore it. People took time to post to you. WOuld you have preferred to see 29 views and NO response to your thread? Sometimes tough love is the best advice. It may sting at first, but it's the type of advice that sinks in and eventually makes a BIG difference in someone's life. Obviously you're not there yet.
puddleofmud Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 hmmm, sounds like perhaps you should go in to total "lock down" as in lock your doors and shut off your phone as this will catch up with you, eventually. Men tend to get very nasty about this sort of thing!
whichwayisup Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Eventually the single bro will let it slip that he had sex with you to his MM bro. Stuff comes out when bro's hangout and it involves drinking...
YoMomma Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 I didn't "screw" someone else's husband for sport. The A has been going for almost a year. And I would be lying to her if I told her it was just sex. I am sure she has heard enough lies to last her a lifetime. Do I tell MM about this????? He encourages me to go out with other guys all the time and I have made up stories about me doing it with other guys before. We are now trying to make the A entirely about sex - no love and it is working. I am nowhere near as attached as I used to be. I guess part of me wants to tell him and maybe evoke a little jealousy but the other part of me wants to use this as another step of detachment. Any thoughts???? Thoughts? I have a few but I don't think you really really really want to know what I think, do you? :bunny: :bunny:
YoMomma Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Eventually the single bro will let it slip that he had sex with you to his MM bro. Stuff comes out when bro's hangout and it involves drinking... WWIU - Even better picture the next family barbeque when Single Brother gets drunk and tells the Wife that he screwed her husbands OW... Jello shots anyone??? :lmao: :bunny: :bunny:
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