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[the_alchemyst]

Just curious:

 

If you were in a relationship with someone who lived about 1-2 hours away from you, would it be considered a LDR?

 

I always had the impression that LDRs meant relationships where there was a significant geographical distance, not just a few cities.

 

Now I'm not so sure, though.

 

What do you think?

[Trialbyfire]

Since I live in a sprawling metropolis of a city, one or two hours away would not even be close to being an LDR. It's not abnormal for me to be trapped in rush hour traffic for 1.5 hours, daily.

[magichands]

I think there are no-distance relationships, where you live together; short-distance relationships, where you could drive to them and not make a toilet stop; long-distance relationships, where you need to take at least one toilet stop; and extreme-distance relationships, where there is a big f*cking body of water, or mountain range, or other geographical metaphor separating you that you cannot drive around.

 

NDR, SDR, LDR, EDR - for short. The problem with these categories is that you can be in a NDR where you have never felt so "distant" from your partner. That's emotionally speaking (a girl thing). So these arbitrary labels are somewhat meaningless.

 

I propose a new, distance-independent measure to categorise relationships, called the "commitment index." I will explain it if you want me to.

[Ariadne]

If you were in a relationship with someone who lived about 1-2 hours away from you, would it be considered a LDR?

Given that I drove 1-2 hours to work in LA, I'd say that's local.

 

(not like the 20 hours I drove to Denver hehe)

 

Ariadne

[magichands]

(not like the 20 hours I drove to Denver hehe)

:lmao:

 

Well, I hope you had some inspiring scenery along the way.

[Ariadne]

Well, I hope you had some inspiring scenery along the way.

 

(Oh, the scenery made me cry all the way there, and he did all the way back)

 

Ariadne

[magichands]

Also, you have to consider that Russia (where you live) is 17 million square kilometres, compared to, say, 10 million for the US, and Canada.

 

But then, your transportation infrastructure sucks.

 

And now I'm confused. What does all this mean?

[Green]

I would say 1-2 hours is not a ldr because u could drive that one night after work say start at 6pm meet half way and be having dinner at 7 or drive all the way and be screwing her by 8 and back home by say midnight if you left at 10. alot of gas but not an ldr. I define a true ldr as one where u dont get to see the person with out a major planned out trip say of 10 hrs or more. I mean if 2 hours away meant u only saw the person a few times a year yes I guess it would be an ldr but that would be kind of weird if u only saw some one two hours a way during holidays and vacations.

[magichands]

I would say 1-2 hours is not a ldr because u could drive that one night after work say start at 6pm meet half way and be having dinner at 7 or drive all the way and be screwing her by 8 and

A vision from a true romantic.

[norajane]

Since I live in a sprawling metropolis of a city, one or two hours away would not even be close to being an LDR. It's not abnormal for me to be trapped in rush hour traffic for 1.5 hours, daily.

 

Same here. My bf's office is 12 miles from my house, but it takes him an hour in rush hour traffic to get here (more if there's a storm or an accident on the freeway). His place is 20 miles from mine, and it can take him anywhere from 35 minutes to 1.5 hours to get here, depending on time of day/traffic.

[burning 4 revenge]

I think it's too far and you should just end it now. How will you bridge such geogrphical and cultural differences? How can you possibly relate to sommeone one hour away?

[magichands]

How can you possibly relate to sommeone one hour away?

That's a bit harsh. For example, my penis is almost long enough.

[burning 4 revenge]

That's a bit harsh. For example, my penis is almost long enough.

But you're an elephant and she's a Russian. You can't stick it in, you'd kill her.

[the_alchemyst]

Thanks for the replies.

 

I agree with you guys. As I said in my first post, I never thought of a few cities in between as a LDR; I always thought it meant people living on opposite ends of the state, a different state, a different country, etc.

 

Anyway, thinking about it, I guess it's not too far at all.

 

Oh, and thanks for your wonderful imput magic and b4r.

[magichands]

But you're an elephant and she's a Russian. You can't stick it in, you'd kill her.

Not everybody can take a good ribbing, that's for sure. But thanks to perestroika and glasnost, I can stick it wherever I want.

[magichands]

Oh, and thanks for your wonderful imput magic and b4r.

You Russians have such cute spelling. Or is that your accent?

[Sweetie2007]

I think there are no-distance relationships, where you live together; short-distance relationships, where you could drive to them and not make a toilet stop; long-distance relationships, where you need to take at least one toilet stop; and extreme-distance relationships, where there is a big f*cking body of water, or mountain range, or other geographical metaphor separating you that you cannot drive around.

 

NDR, SDR, LDR, EDR - for short. The problem with these categories is that you can be in a NDR where you have never felt so "distant" from your partner. That's emotionally speaking (a girl thing). So these arbitrary labels are somewhat meaningless.

 

I propose a new, distance-independent measure to categorise relationships, called the "commitment index." I will explain it if you want me to.

 

I guess my relationship counts as EDR, since there's an ocean, plus a few states in each country between us... what about the CI, I want an explination...? I wanna see where my man fits in

[LucreziaBorgia]

I live 1.5 hours away from my BF. We have known each other nearly ten years, and dated for nearly two before he moved. We see each other every weekend, talk every night, etc. We kept pretty busy during the week anyway before he moved, so it isn't terribly different. I don't call it a LDR though. For some reason I think of LDRs as being more than 4 hours away.

 

Still adjusting, though. Eventually, in the next couple of months I'll be moving up there myself.

[Andrea1234]

i would not call that a LDR

[chryssy83]

My bf is 3 hours away, and I consider that LDR. We don't see each other except on weekends and school breaks, and we don't even get to see each other every weekend. Granted, if our lives were different I suppose we could see each other every weekend, but I'm in a challenging educational program and he has a very demanding professional job.

 

I admit that this is not the same as being in different states, countries, or on different continents. HOWEVER, I don't think I could do that, quite honestly. I would never do another relationship where there is as much distance as we have now. I left for a definite period of time and I'm going back soon. I can't imagine if there were no light at the end of this tunnel.

 

Now, to answer your question, I don't think an hour is an LDR. I live somewhere where we are 15 minutes from everything in town, and I grew up in a town that was like that. You have to be in a pretty good sized city to have 2 hour commutes and I think that the lifestyle is just different there! BUT...I know people who come in from out of town 1 hour away for classes. It's not that far. If we were an hour apart we'd see each other every weekend and almost every night for sure.

 

2 hours is getting closer to what I consider an LDR, but I think it depends on the circumstances. If transportation is a big issue or if you have demanding jobs or other obligations, it can seem a lot farther.

[Green]

so for instance some one who lived 2 hours away but saw the person every day would be different from some one who lived the same ammount of time away and saw the person only a few times a year. What makes an LDR is I guess how often you can physicaly be with the person your in a relationship. obviously being in another country would force you to be apart unless you were rich or had acess to ur own plane which would probably mean u were rich.