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Keep talking like nothing happened after break up. Bad idea? or mature?


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So i dated his guy for almost two months. Everything was awesome, we liked each other a lot. Or so i thought. He seemed to be really into me, would make long term plans and flinch if i ever said anything that would seem like i was gonna leave, even if it was far in the future. Sometimes i even worried that he was liking me too much, too soon. Then, out of nowhere it seemed like it was hard for him to come and see me or talk to me. But then once we were together, it would be great, so i thought i was the one going crazy.

I still couldnt really be sure, and i learned the hard way that if ur gut is telling u something u better listen. So i asked him to come over so we can talk. Told him about what i was feeling, that it seemed like it was a chore to come see me more than anything. He then admitted that lately he felt like he was forcing himself, and that he just wasnt ready for a relationship and felt we had rushed into things (although he was the one who rushed most of the relationship from the get go). He said he didnt want to kill what could have been by dragging it for too long and that if this had happened a few years from now, then it would have been a solid thing. He said he wanted to keep talking to me and be friends because who knew what lay ahead and maybe once we were both settled more, then things could make more sense. Ofcourse i am most definitely not holding on for him. But i do like him as a friend.

After we talk about the break up we started talking about other things, like nothing happened and we've been texting the past days too. It feels like we could build a good friendship, but im worried that it might not be a good idea since we did date. Should i lose a possible good friend? or should i keep talking to him, like nothing happened? Im also afraid that its gonna make it harder to draw the line between having breaking up. On my side, i took all our pics together offline, etc. He hasnt even taken his main pic off, which is a pic of both of us and his status is still as in a relationship. Im not really sure if he's holding on, or he just doesnt care. Im very confused with this situation. Any help???

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