Icantletgo Posted February 23, 2007 Posted February 23, 2007 My ex and I were going out for 2 1/2 years. We broke up at the end of July because he never had time for me. I did everything to see him but he never had time for me. Well we decided to try things again in October and we were never official. Come January, he decides he doesn't know if he wants to be in a relationship at all. I later find out that he had been dating this girl from work on and off from September!!!! The reason he ever came back to me was because she went back to her ex boyfriend. Now that they are threw again, he broke up with me to be with her. Well a couple of weeks later he called me again just to talk cause he says he can tell me everything. She apparently doesn't want to be in a relationship with him yet cause she is still in love with her ex. Well we got to talking and we agreed just to be friends....but we also have been sleeping together and messing around. When we hang out he talks to her and texts her all the time...he even says he is in love w/ her. But he also says that he never can talk to her like he talks to me...even though he made it clear that we are friends. I know I shouldn't be his friend but i can't let go. I just can't. What should I do? There is NO hope for us to get back together...and I've accepted that...but I feel like doing this can wean me off of him!!! HELP WHAT SHOULD I DO? How should I feel? Has anyone ever done this?
cr8sea Posted February 23, 2007 Posted February 23, 2007 what are you doing to yourself!!!! oK....ive been there...ive hold onto a guy i was very much in love with, even though he was in love with someone else. I know its hard....but for the love of god, you NEED to love yourself more than you "love" him!!! He obviously could care less for you. Talking to her when he's with you?? really??? thats straight out disrespectful!!! This is not gonna help you get over him, this is gonna make you "comfortable" being his little booty call, and i know you deserve more than that. girl, look around, there are a million hotties out there. and even if there werent, you got a life to live. Make plans for yourself, get involve in something, thats how you're gonna get over him, not letting him use you the way he's doing now. Good luck to you girl. I hope you listen to the advice, for your own good.
cr8sea Posted February 23, 2007 Posted February 23, 2007 ...by the way. You're not an idiot...dont treat yourself that way. Right now you're hurting, the last thing you need is to turn against yourself. Take care!!!v
Guest Posted February 23, 2007 Posted February 23, 2007 It's completely hard when you are still IN love with them. HEAD OVER HEELS in love with them.
Ariadne Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 Hi, There is NO hope for us to get back together...and I've accepted that...but I feel like doing this can wean me off of him!!! HELP WHAT SHOULD I DO? How should I feel? Has anyone ever done this? How do you know that there's no hope of you to get back together? Maybe he is just infatuated with that girl, like a crush. Love is more than that, he says that he can talk to you like he can't talk to her, I'd say that is more important. See what happens, good luck, Ariadne
Spinderella Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 sorry ariadne but i disagree. of course it might be that theres the possibility of a stronger foundation for a relationship with he and icantletgo, but, men generally lose respect for women who will agree to be their booty call when they tell them they are in love with somebody else. maybe its not too late, but, continuing in this way will only destroy the slim chances she may have. make him respect you, by not putting up with his disrespect. either continue to be his friend but do not have any form of physical contact at all, and hope that he realises you are the one, or cut him off completely with no explanation (none needed). personally i really think its too late, but, thats not such a bad thing, the guy doesnt sound like that great of a catch. find someone nice who will treat you like a princess. oh and you are not an idiot, but, as soon as you stop allowing him to treat you like one you wont feel like one anymore.
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