fireflywy Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Well.. a month after I wrote her this letter http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=871981&postcount=7 She responded with "Thank you for the email Matt." Should I be nice and simply say. *Smile* Thank you for responding. You have a great day M. If I see you out there, try not to be too much of a stranger. Or should I just ignore it and go on? Part of me thinks that she deserves at least some acknowledgement that I appreciate her response after nearly a month after writing the letter. That way I can actually hammer home the fact that we have no hard feelings. Thoughts anyone? P.S. If I respond to that... don't worry.. it certainly won't set me back and my response is very good natured.
Ariadne Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Hey, "Thank you for the email Matt." That's "it"? Oh, that must have sucked to get all excited, you got mail, and then to see that. After a month even. But, I guess is better than nothing... And yes, if you want to write her back then do. All up to you fireflywy. Ariadne
Mollyanna Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Sure, go ahead and respond. But leave out the "If I see you out there, try not to be too much of a stranger." She didn't put forth that much effort in her email, don't try any harder than she did.
Author fireflywy Posted August 31, 2006 Author Posted August 31, 2006 What should I say? A coworker said that her "Thanks for the email Matt" was simply her saying, in her own and after all this time, no hard feelings. And that there is no need to respond. Of course, part of me feels, that regardless of what she says, that I can be a bit more upbeat then she is to make her feel more comfortable in case we ever run into eachother again. So I'm weighing it now. If I do respond.. what should I say?
Mollyanna Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Well whatever you say, don't respond right away. Don't make her think you have been dying for her to contact you, waiting and watching your email for any sign of life. Wait 2 weeks, then say - "You are welcome". That's all that requires being said. But it also makes her wonder what you have been up to and why it took you 2 weeks and that was ALL you said - just like the way she made you feel. It is up to her to make any additional effort. I will say it again - Don't try any harder than she is.
bluegal79 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 I would wait a week or so and then respond, " You're welcome, take care. Matt"
Author fireflywy Posted August 31, 2006 Author Posted August 31, 2006 do I really need to wait a week? I'm pretty sure that I'll run into her before that. Isn't waiting playing a game? I don't want her back.
Author fireflywy Posted August 31, 2006 Author Posted August 31, 2006 I think I'm just going to cut through all the two week time frame stuff because she knows I check my email daily... and simply say. "You're welcome M. Take Care. Best, Matt". and leave it at that?
Author fireflywy Posted August 31, 2006 Author Posted August 31, 2006 You're welcome M. My best regards, Matt
Ariadne Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 - "You are welcome". Hahah... just like Mollyanna said, I would say that too. But in your case, Matt, say whatever is in your heart to say. Think, what would I want to tell her? And I'd respond whenever it felt right to do it, even if it is five minutes later. Ariadne
Author fireflywy Posted August 31, 2006 Author Posted August 31, 2006 Well.. thats what I sent her. No need to drag it out. It's been months since we last talked. A month since my letter. When she responded with "Thank you for the email Matt" it didn't really leave me much to respond with. I figure that was just her acknowledging what I wrote. So I figured, I would respond the only way I could given what she wrote. A simple "You're welcome M :)" Of course I still care about her and I don't know why she wrote that now. Part of me knows that she doesn't check her email that often and maybe she just NOW got it. The other part, the part that fantasises, would like to think that she wrote that because maybe she was thinking of me. Of course, she's already seen at least two other guys since we parted I'm sure. Either way, I don't think there will ever be a second chance for us. We have a lot of water under the bridge. If anything were to come of it now, it would probably consist of, at the most, an aquaintance or a friendly hello. Maybe friends... However, as for my feelings and telling them to her.. I've done that numerous times and did the best I could. I just hope that my response didn't come across as rude. If she thought she was going to get another detailed email outlining my feelings, I can't do that anymore nor will I. I've said all that I could. If she has something more to say, I'll listen to it. If not.. that's where it ends. I just take satisfaction that since she responded, then deep down inside she doesn't think ill of me.
Ariadne Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 I've said all that I could. If she has something more to say, I'll listen to it. If not.. that's where it ends. That's perfect, Matt. Good job Ariadne
Author fireflywy Posted August 31, 2006 Author Posted August 31, 2006 lol. you need to get a myspace profile up. Join me, Molly and Aria!
Ariadne Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Hey, Nah, I don't have a myspace profile. But I believe Mollyanna has one, Ariadne
Guest Posted September 2, 2006 Posted September 2, 2006 I'd have responded to her immediately to let her know she is still very important in your life even though you 2 aren't going to get back together.
Mollyanna Posted September 2, 2006 Posted September 2, 2006 i think you did very well Matt. I don't have that kind of self control for a short but sweet email. Good Job!
AriaIncognito Posted September 2, 2006 Posted September 2, 2006 I concur with Mollyanna. The email was short, sweet, and didnt babble on about how you've felt. There's no point in that, other than to make her feel either 1.) better that she left someone that needy or 2.) worse cuz she didn't want to hurt you in the first place. In either case, it's best to just let bygones be bygones and move on, since you seem ready to do so :-) Keep it up matt :-) You, me, molly, and TP are the only cool ones with myspace huh? :-) Jennifer
Teacher's Pet Posted September 2, 2006 Posted September 2, 2006 Keep it up matt :-) You, me, molly, and TP are the only cool ones with myspace huh? :-) Jennifer I'm cool? Gee. -tp
Author fireflywy Posted September 12, 2006 Author Posted September 12, 2006 I guess my little letter that I wrote a while back went a long way into making things amicable. On Sunday night, I was walking into a store when I saw the ex and her little girl. At first, I was going to go a different route, and I stepped out of view (and I know she saw me). Then, I shrugged, stepped back into view and walked right past her and her little girl. I didn't know what to expect and I was a little nervous... She smiled at me and said "Hey." as she kept walking. I did a really awkward smile (i think anyway) and a little low key hand wave and said "Hey" as well. I didn't stop and talk and neither did she. However, I feel kind of bad that I didn't say hello to her little girl and smile a bit broader. Is that bad? I really do care. I didn't want to come across as disinterested. Of course now that I know it's okay to say hello. I'll be much better at it next time.
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