DanielMadr Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 Hi girls, I know this sounds a little bit weird but I'd like to ask you for advice on this weird topic. It is not only my experience so dont tell me its nuts Is it possible that somewhat different rules apply for exceptionally good looking guys in dating arena? I mean you get very extreme results. When I watch my friend cruisin club....girls just ogling him but when he approaches them they suddenly become stone cold. When he gets good responses (mostly from more confident and better looking girls) and I mean good responses - when they are chatting you can see all the signs they are in to him.....but he asks for number and booom nothing. He is good looking, charismatic...women loves him but it seems they dont want to date him. Its confusing and I dont have any advice for him. He is single for most of his adult life and he is fed up with one night stands with "average" girls who seek revenge or approval (I dont blame him...its horror sometimes) What do you reckon? Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 Maybe he just comes across too cocky and "I'm the guy"... perhaps it doesn't take long for women to assume they would just be another knotch on his bed post. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 I second what pink said. Maybe he looks great but his personality is shyt? I've encountered that too many times too count. I dated this one guy who was so pretty. But whenever he opened his mouth he just ruined it. So I started shushing him with phrases like "Shhhh, you're so pretty!" Or "Shhhh! Angels don't speak!" but that really only prolonged the relationship for maybe an extra 2-3 weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
DeeBrod83 Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 I also agree. And maybe he's not that way, but I tend to assume a really attractive guy like that usually is. Especially if he's very confident and comes on strong. It's like how a lot of guys think that hot girls are b*tches. Ahh, the challenges of the beautiful! Ha! Link to post Share on other sites
rina_r Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 exceptionally good looking You forget one thing: beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. WHat's goodlooking to you, may be ugly to someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Interloper Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 The whole thing him being good looking but his personality terrible is probably incorrect. What girls are doing when they constantly look at very good looking guys and try to gain their attention is pricing themselves. They want to know that their value is such that they can attract a very good looking guy if they want to. Of course, most of the time they do not want a very good looking guy as a boyfriend as they may feel insecure that he may be a player and not relationship material. (which is often incorrect). This is why he has more sucess with very good looking women. They are confident enough in themselves to be with him. For alot of women, just knowing that they have this very good looking guys interest is enough for them. It is the female equivalent of "scoring". They have no interest in pursuing it any further, they already have what they wanted. This is very poor behaviour and quite cruel. Daniel, tell your friend to get used to it. In the end he will probably give up in approaching women because he is sick of being played. The sad thing about this is the small percentage of women that are genuinely interested in him will not be approached by him, because he is sick of the mistreatment. For some reason, women seem to think that (good looking) men don't have feelings or something. Many women don't realise that it is very difficult to approach someone, simply because they have never have to do it themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 Sounds like the man whores I shoot down often....... go away!! guys can give off their own slutty or dingy vibe just like a big boobed blonde dumb as dirt chicky does......A walking orifice with 2 brain cells in desparate search for eachother in a giant chasm of emptiness. maybe he laughs like a sea lion? or his nose hairs are attempting to migrate to his chin? Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 What girls are doing when they constantly look at very good looking guys and try to gain their attention is pricing themselves. They want to know that their value is such that they can attract a very good looking guy if they want to. Of course, most of the time they do not want a very good looking guy as a boyfriend as they may feel insecure that he may be a player and not relationship material. (which is often incorrect). This is why he has more sucess with very good looking women. They are confident enough in themselves to be with him. Are you a woman? I somehow doubt it because that is totally incorrect. No offense or anything. I have a group of friends that work at a certain local strip club. All these women are gorgeous, really hot. But totally insecure. I pesronally don't shop for attention from men. For alot of women, just knowing that they have this very good looking guys interest is enough for them. It is the female equivalent of "scoring". They have no interest in pursuing it any further, they already have what they wanted. That is incorrect. I believe amongst women the female equivalent of "scoring" is when you date a welathy, successful man. Women don't judge on looks the same way that men do. Unfortunately most men can't really grasp that concept, thus the emergence of the man-whore trend. Mimbos, I think they're called. Link to post Share on other sites
Interloper Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 The general point that i am making is that women will constantly look at a very good looking guy to see if he could be potentially interested. They indeed, are generally not interested in anything further, other than getting an ego boost, knowing that they could have the good looking man if they wanted. I'm just being truthful. The truth is not always pretty. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 ahh did this fella ever consider the ladies he is hitting on are either already taken or interested in a relationship with someone else. Just because a woman is alone does not mean she is alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Interloper Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 ahh did this fella ever consider the ladies he is hitting on are either already taken or interested in a relationship with someone else. Just because a woman is alone does not mean she is alone. I believe that she said the girls were "ogling" him. This is generally taken as a sign of availability and interest. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 I believe that she said the girls were "ogling" him. This is generally taken as a sign of availability and interest. No it does not.... have you never just looked at a person. Maybe he is picking up the wrong signals... they could be looking at his shoes thinking.... nice shoes dude. Or for that matter they may be thinking..... what a man whore and laughing about him. obviously if this happens ALL THE TIME TO HIM it has more to do with him then all the women he approaches. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 No it does not.... have you never just looked at a person. Maybe he is picking up the wrong signals... they could be looking at his shoes thinking.... nice shoes dude. Or for that matter they may be thinking..... what a man whore and laughing about him. obviously if this happens ALL THE TIME TO HIM it has more to do with him then all the women he approaches. word. I agree. I look at people a lot, but I'm not always wanting to have sexual intercourse with them. Link to post Share on other sites
Walk Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 I second what pink said. Maybe he looks great but his personality is shyt? I've encountered that too many times too count. I dated this one guy who was so pretty. But whenever he opened his mouth he just ruined it. So I started shushing him with phrases like "Shhhh, you're so pretty!" Or "Shhhh! Angels don't speak!" but that really only prolonged the relationship for maybe an extra 2-3 weeks. Too funny. I can't believe you did that!!! hahahahahahahah Link to post Share on other sites
Interloper Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 No it does not.... have you never just looked at a person. Maybe he is picking up the wrong signals... they could be looking at his shoes thinking.... nice shoes dude. Or for that matter they may be thinking..... what a man whore and laughing about him. obviously if this happens ALL THE TIME TO HIM it has more to do with him then all the women he approaches. There is a huge difference between ogling and looking. Of course, if he is acting like an arrogant idiot, then he deserves to be looked and laughed at, however danielle made it sound that he wasn't doing that. And yes, it does happen ALL THE TIME in a sense that the number of women "attention playing" is higher than the serious suiters. And no, it cant have anything to do with his personality as he will be cut off before allowing to show his personality. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 well I would suggest getting a 2x4 with nails pounded through it and smacking the poor good looking bastard right in the face with it...... maybe his luck will change then. Also tell him to put the rolled up sock in the front of his underwear and not the back. :lmao: yeah I just want hot guys to stroke my ego...... ok hot men line up... please hit on me. Sorry not interested in any man but my own...... and the man whores still come after me.... I do not ogle... I do not request..... I do not want them to attempt to ask me out as it puts me in a position of rejecting them. Link to post Share on other sites
insomnie Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 Maybe he's looking for women in the wrong places, if he's after more than a one-night stand. I mean, think about it...an exceptionally good-looking guy "cruising the clubs" for women? I'd be wary of someone like that. I mean, the profile doens't exactly scream "not a player." If he's that good-looking women might assume he can pick women up anywhere, and since he chooses clubs, which generally aren't the best showcases for one's personality, he must be after only one thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 Maybe he's looking for women in the wrong places, if he's after more than a one-night stand. I mean, think about it...an exceptionally good-looking guy "cruising the clubs" for women? I'd be wary of someone like that. I mean, the profile doens't exactly scream "not a player." If he's that good-looking women might assume he can pick women up anywhere, and since he chooses clubs, which generally aren't the best showcases for one's personality, he must be after only one thing. Thanks...perfect example of thinking...PRIDE and PREJUDICE ) Link to post Share on other sites
Author DanielMadr Posted August 31, 2006 Author Share Posted August 31, 2006 The whole thing him being good looking but his personality terrible is probably incorrect. What girls are doing when they constantly look at very good looking guys and try to gain their attention is pricing themselves. They want to know that their value is such that they can attract a very good looking guy if they want to. Of course, most of the time they do not want a very good looking guy as a boyfriend as they may feel insecure that he may be a player and not relationship material. (which is often incorrect). This is why he has more sucess with very good looking women. They are confident enough in themselves to be with him. For alot of women, just knowing that they have this very good looking guys interest is enough for them. It is the female equivalent of "scoring". They have no interest in pursuing it any further, they already have what they wanted. This is very poor behaviour and quite cruel. Daniel, tell your friend to get used to it. In the end he will probably give up in approaching women because he is sick of being played. The sad thing about this is the small percentage of women that are genuinely interested in him will not be approached by him, because he is sick of the mistreatment. For some reason, women seem to think that (good looking) men don't have feelings or something. Many women don't realise that it is very difficult to approach someone, simply because they have never have to do it themselves. I agree. I have the same gut-feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DanielMadr Posted August 31, 2006 Author Share Posted August 31, 2006 Maybe he's looking for women in the wrong places, if he's after more than a one-night stand. I mean, think about it...an exceptionally good-looking guy "cruising the clubs" for women? I'd be wary of someone like that. I mean, the profile doens't exactly scream "not a player." If he's that good-looking women might assume he can pick women up anywhere, and since he chooses clubs, which generally aren't the best showcases for one's personality, he must be after only one thing. PERFECT INSIGHT.....sour grapes and pride and prejudice Link to post Share on other sites
IWalkAlone Posted September 1, 2006 Share Posted September 1, 2006 Your friend either isn't really good looking, or there's something about his personality that's a big turnoff. Contrary to what many people say, women are just as hung up on good looks in men as men are about women - perhaps more so, because it's easy for women who aren't the hottest looking to get male attention by being flirtatious and implying that they'll put out. People say "No, it's confidence," but if you pay attention, the confident guys are ususally good looking and the non-confident guys are usually less attractive. I once knew a guy whowas great looking but had NO confidence, and girls came in asking for him all the time anyway. If I guy who is really good looking can't pick up up women, it's because he really doesn't want to, or he's obnoxoius, or has bad B.O. Link to post Share on other sites
Steph21 Posted September 2, 2006 Share Posted September 2, 2006 When I see a really attractive guy at a club or bar or something, I look, but don't pay any real attention to the guy. I assume if he's the hottest guy there, he could get anyone and why would he pick me? So I act cold first, as in "well he's not that great anyway, his personality must be bad" so as not to feel rejected. Link to post Share on other sites
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