Walk's Questions of the Day...

[Walk]

I've been pondering a few questions lately, and would like to hear the highly intelligent and experienced opinions of fellow LSers.

 

1. I'll be 32 in 7 days, and lately I've been wondering what life will be like never having kids. Are there people out there who chose not to have children and have now missed the opportunity? Do you regret it? Why or why not?
   (I know women can have kids into their 40's and on, but I'd rather not risk the birth defects and developmental problems that can occur)
    
    
   
2. If sex is 99% in the mind, then why are men reliant on sensory stimulation from outside sources? (Porn, unknown women, stip clubs)
    
    
   
3. Why do men make comments about how attractive another woman is to their gf/wife?
    
    
   
4. If a man desires for his woman to spice up life for him by being kinkier or more sexually oriented, then isn't it his duty at that point to become more affectionate and put just as much effort into meeting her emotional needs? If she goes out to the store and buys $100 in lingera and sexy clothing, spends the day waxing, buffing, polishing... shouldnt' she get a full day of nothing but lavished loving attention on her? Or does a man just assume its his inherient right to get the sexual attention he wants from his woman as long as he cuddles for 20 minutes after sex?
   

 

I'm currently caught in a double mind set. A.) Women should attempt to keep their partners attention by being sexy, and going out of their way to meet their partners desires. B.) That it doesn't matter because the "haven't had the girl at the grocery store" will always beat the "been there done that" at home no matter how you dress it up.

[a4a]

I've been pondering a few questions lately, and would like to hear the highly intelligent and experienced opinions of fellow LSers.

 

1. I'll be 32 in 7 days, and lately I've been wondering what life will be like never having kids. Are there people out there who chose not to have children and have now missed the opportunity? Do you regret it? Why or why not?
   (I know women can have kids into their 40's and on, but I'd rather not risk the birth defects and developmental problems that can occur)
    
   No kids here no plans to... I am old,38. So will not happen here. I think I would have missed out on the things I like if I would have had one. I don't like babies, I rather to clean up after puppies than children. No Regrets as a matter a fact I at times think about how good my life is and has turned out because of that decision.
    
    
   
2. If sex is 99% in the mind, then why are men reliant on sensory stimulation from outside sources? (Porn, unknown women, stip clubs)
    
   I cannot relate to this... I only had one man that was like this in my life. I would have to twist my current H's arm to get him to watch porn.
    
    
   
3. Why do men make comments about how attractive another woman is to their gf/wife?
    
   Again I have never ever had this happen in even one of my relationships...even with the cheater one.
    
   
4. If a man desires for his woman to spice up life for him by being kinkier or more sexually oriented, then isn't it his duty at that point to become more affectionate and put just as much effort into meeting her emotional needs?
    
   I would say he should but that does not mean he will.
    
    
   If she goes out to the store and buys $100 in lingera and sexy clothing, spends the day waxing, buffing, polishing... shouldnt' she get a full day of nothing but lavished loving attention on her?
    
   He probably thinks it is all about him, her time spent to get sexy is 100% for his enjoyment...... she could have just baked some brownies for him.
    
    
   Or does a man just assume its his inherient right to get the sexual attention he wants from his woman as long as he cuddles for 20 minutes after sex?
   

 

Cuddles? Cannot relate. Not into it. I would prefer sex then a nice expensive gift over cuddling.

 

I'm currently caught in a double mind set. A.) Women should attempt to keep their partners attention by being sexy, and going out of their way to meet their partners desires. B.) That it doesn't matter because the "haven't had the girl at the grocery store" will always beat the "been there done that" at home no matter how you dress it up.

 

Not all men are like that at all. Some actually have brains and honor. Some even have standards and respect for themselves and their partners.

[toby102803]

I've been pondering a few questions lately, and would like to hear the highly intelligent and experienced opinions of fellow LSers.

1. I'll be 32 in 7 days, and lately I've been wondering what life will be like never having kids. Are there people out there who chose not to have children and have now missed the opportunity? Do you regret it? Why or why not?
   (I know women can have kids into their 40's and on, but I'd rather not risk the birth defects and developmental problems that can occur) My uncle is close to fifty and has been able to do things in his life that I can only imagine. He has never married and does not have any children. I believe that in some point in all our lives that we reflect back in what could have been. This is fine as long as we dont dwell on it. That distracts from living in the presant. I would love to have children. But I know that my life will change drastically. It is just a choice that we make
   
2. If sex is 99% in the mind, then why are men reliant on sensory stimulation from outside sources? (Porn, unknown women, stip clubs)Some men can orgasm strickly through the mind. However men are more visually stimulated than women. Basically it works faster
   
3. Why do men make comments about how attractive another woman is to their gf/wife? Because it is something that we desire. Who wouldnt want a beautiful women. I also believe that we want to make our wives a little jelous it shows us that they still want us and that no other woman can have us
   
4. If a man desires for his woman to spice up life for him by being kinkier or more sexually oriented, then isn't it his duty at that point to become more affectionate and put just as much effort into meeting her emotional needs? If she goes out to the store and buys $100 in lingera and sexy clothing, spends the day waxing, buffing, polishing... shouldnt' she get a full day of nothing but lavished loving attention on her? Or does a man just assume its his inherient right to get the sexual attention he wants from his woman as long as he cuddles for 20 minutes after sex? It should be equal anything that she puts into it he should be willing to give back. Otherwise this leads to disintrest and straying

I'm currently caught in a double mind set. A.) Women should attempt to keep their partners attention by being sexy, and going out of their way to meet their partners desires. B.) That it doesn't matter because the "haven't had the girl at the grocery store" will always beat the "been there done that" at home no matter how you dress it up.

And to help you here men should stay sexy as well What women would go to the effort to make herself up for a lazy slob. Men should play just as big a part

[Poboy]

I've been pondering a few questions lately, and would like to hear the highly intelligent and experienced opinions of fellow LSers.

 

1. I'll be 32 in 7 days, and lately I've been wondering what life will be like never having kids. Are there people out there who chose not to have children and have now missed the opportunity? Do you regret it? Why or why not?
   (I know women can have kids into their 40's and on, but I'd rather not risk the birth defects and developmental problems that can occur)
    
    
   
2. If sex is 99% in the mind, then why are men reliant on sensory stimulation from outside sources? (Porn, unknown women, stip clubs)
    
   visual stimulation is one of the strongest forms for men for excitement ... visualise and then the mind comes in the process
    
   
3. Why do men make comments about how attractive another woman is to their gf/wife?
    
   We appreciate beauty. A beautiful , hot woman goes by and most men will lay eyes on her ... its in our genes and telling it is in a way recognizing beauty and making a comment on it. Also , many times its in a way a signal to the wife/gf that he likes a hot beautiful woman so if the wife/gf can somehow related to that woman , he will appreciate it
    
    
   
4. If a man desires for his woman to spice up life for him by being kinkier or more sexually oriented, then isn't it his duty at that point to become more affectionate and put just as much effort into meeting her emotional needs? If she goes out to the store and buys $100 in lingera and sexy clothing, spends the day waxing, buffing, polishing... shouldnt' she get a full day of nothing but lavished loving attention on her? Or does a man just assume its his inherient right to get the sexual attention he wants from his woman as long as he cuddles for 20 minutes after sex?
   

 

im not getting totally on this. You would do all that just for your man or for yourself too to look good , dress good etc. Many times , men have to be reminded of their roles in the relationship cause its generally 'wam bam thank you mam' in their mind. so thats why if you expect something from a man and he is not giving it to you , you need to tell him that

 

 

 

I'm currently caught in a double mind set. A.) Women should attempt to keep their partners attention by being sexy, and going out of their way to meet their partners desires. B.) That it doesn't matter because the "haven't had the girl at the grocery store" will always beat the "been there done that" at home no matter how you dress it up.

 

its always A + B , never A OR B

[rina_r]

[*]I'll be 32 in 7 days, and lately I've been wondering what life will be like never having kids. Are there people out there who chose not to have children and have now missed the opportunity? Do you regret it? Why or why not?

(I know women can have kids into their 40's and on, but I'd rather not risk the birth defects and developmental problems that can occur)

I will wat for the right one and will have kids if I want even after 40. There are enough tests to check the baby before the birth.

 

[*]If sex is 99% in the mind, then why are men reliant on sensory stimulation from outside sources? (Porn, unknown women, stip clubs)

 

I am a woman, it IS a mind thing to me.

 

[*]Why do men make comments about how attractive another woman is to their gf/wife?

 

I dont care if he says. I like to notice attractive women too.

 

[*]If a man desires for his woman to spice up life for him by being kinkier or more sexually oriented, then isn't it his duty at that point to become more affectionate and put just as much effort into meeting her emotional needs? If she goes out to the store and buys $100 in lingera and sexy clothing, spends the day waxing, buffing, polishing... shouldnt' she get a full day of nothing but lavished loving attention on her? Or does a man just assume its his inherient right to get the sexual attention he wants from his woman as long as he cuddles for 20 minutes after sex?

 

Yeah, this is a question. But again, not all men do. Macho men tend to behave this way.

[Outcast]

1. I'll be 32 in 7 days, and lately I've been wondering what life will be like never having kids. Are there people out there who chose not to have children and have now missed the opportunity? Do you regret it? Why or why not?

(I know women can have kids into their 40's and on, but I'd rather not risk the birth defects and developmental problems that can occur)

 

Never had the mommy instinct. I doubt I ever will. But I got fixed in a way that would be reversible in case I ever changed my mind.

 

2. If sex is 99% in the mind, then why are men reliant on sensory stimulation from outside sources? (Porn, unknown women, stip clubs)

 

Scientific studies have shown that it's instinct. Show a man a picture of a nude lady and certain areas of his brain light up indicating arousal. Not the same for women. Men and wome are indeed different in many ways.

 

3. Why do men make comments about how attractive another woman is to their gf/wife?

 

Because they are insensitive boors that you should drop.

 

4. If a man desires for his woman to spice up life for him by being kinkier or more sexually oriented, then isn't it his duty at that point to become more affectionate and put just as much effort into meeting her emotional needs?

 

Yes, unless you're with a selfish SOB with bigtime issues of his own who won't get therapy and won't change. Ever.

 

You continue to try to twist yourself into knots to please an unpleasable man. And I continue to hope that you'll realize this is not about you and what you do 'wrong' and all about him and that you need to shed this person before he destroys you completely.

[Walk]

Yes, unless you're with a selfish SOB with bigtime issues of his own who won't get therapy and won't change. Ever.

 

You continue to try to twist yourself into knots to please an unpleasable man. And I continue to hope that you'll realize this is not about you and what you do 'wrong' and all about him and that you need to shed this person before he destroys you completely.

 

Perhaps this is the reason I'm completely lacking in desire to go out of my way to "be sexy". I'm thinking of going out and completely changing what I look like. From hair color to shoes. Just to make the point that it DOESN'T change who I fundamentally AM! But since he's a man, he probably won't grasp such philosophical ideals...

 

Another question:

 

If your gf/wife/SO were making comments about how hot another guy is, would it affect you? Positively or negatively, or not at all?

[quankanne]

Are there people out there who chose not to have children and have now missed the opportunity? Do you regret it? Why or why not?

 

turned 40 at the beginning of the year and have yet to be pregnant. Don't know if I'll have regrets when I'm on my deathbed, but for now, I choose not to have my identity wrapped up in my inability to get pregnant or have kids. I figure whether I have them or not, I still have the capability to love greatly, and that, coupled with the fact that I've got about three dozen nieces and nephews – by blood, by law and honorary – I can love on them. I'm indiscriminate, lol.

 

If sex is 99% in the mind, then why are men reliant on sensory stimulation from outside sources? (Porn, unknown women, stip clubs)

 

because they're pigs? I don't know the answer to that one, because not all men are dependent on that mental stimulation, just like not all men truly appreciate the female *because* it's female.

 

Why do men make comments about how attractive another woman is to their gf/wife?

 

because sometimes, they lack sensitivity. The bigger question is why on earth would a man be eager to introduce a recently dumped sidekick to his new squeeze AND EXPECT HER TO BE HAPPY ABOUT IT? pendejos ...

 

If a man desires for his woman to spice up life for him by being kinkier or more sexually oriented, then isn't it his duty at that point to become more affectionate and put just as much effort into meeting her emotional needs? If she goes out to the store and buys $100 in lingerie and sexy clothing, spends the day waxing, buffing, polishing... shouldnt' she get a full day of nothing but lavished loving attention on her? Or does a man just assume its his inherient right to get the sexual attention he wants from his woman as long as he cuddles for 20 minutes after sex?

 

who the hell cares what he desires? Sexy lingerie should be used as a reward when he's doing what SHE wants him to do, not the other way around. Besides, if he can't appreciate her at her hairiest, zittiest best, then pah! he's not worth keeping.

[allina]

1. I'll be 32 in 7 days, and lately I've been wondering what life will be like never having kids. Are there people out there who chose not to have children and have now missed the opportunity? Do you regret it? Why or why not?
   (I know women can have kids into their 40's and on, but I'd rather not risk the birth defects and developmental problems that can occur)
    
   First, I want to wish you an Happy early Birthday. I think I'm still at an age where the child issue isn't a major one so it's difficult for me to give advice on, but I can say this, I am pretty sure that I never want to have a child, I have felt this way for as long as I can remember and I don't think it will change. I also know people (and couples) in their 30's, 40's and 50s who chose to remain free of children and are 100% happy with their choice.
    
    
   
2. If sex is 99% in the mind, then why are men reliant on sensory stimulation from outside sources? (Porn, unknown women, stip clubs)
    
   I don't believe that sex is 99% in the mind, is this some sort of proven study? Very interesting if so. I always believed that sex included many of our senses. As for strip clubs, and especially porn I view it as something completely seperate from the relationship, I believe it has zero in common with how a man feels about his gf/wife. I know that I watch porn and have been to strip clubs and it had/has nothing to do with my SO at the time.
    
    
   
3. Why do men make comments about how attractive another woman is to their gf/wife?
    
   This is rude, I haven't really had a problem with this one but would feel disrespected if it happened a lot.
    
    
   
4. If a man desires for his woman to spice up life for him by being kinkier or more sexually oriented, then isn't it his duty at that point to become more affectionate and put just as much effort into meeting her emotional needs? If she goes out to the store and buys $100 in lingera and sexy clothing, spends the day waxing, buffing, polishing... shouldnt' she get a full day of nothing but lavished loving attention on her? Or does a man just assume its his inherient right to get the sexual attention he wants from his woman as long as he cuddles for 20 minutes after sex?
   

 

Very true, effort should come from both sides. Sometimes $100 in lingerie, sometimes a man just wants to be ravaged and feel wanted, not like sex is a chore or a favor from his SO. On top of that partners should always be loving and meet one anothers emotional needs, this isn't something that should be saved for special occasions. And when both partners feel loved, wanted and respected the rest of the above goes much smoother and doesn't cause problems.

[Craig]

I've been pondering a few questions lately, and would like to hear the highly intelligent and experienced opinions of fellow LSers.

1. I'll be 32 in 7 days, and lately I've been wondering what life will be like never having kids. Are there people out there who chose not to have children and have now missed the opportunity? Do you regret it? Why or why not?
   (I know women can have kids into their 40's and on, but I'd rather not risk the birth defects and developmental problems that can occur) I like kids, get along great with them and can appreciate them but never had the burning desire to have some of my own. No regrets here in part because of what I just said and I've been able to do things that people with kids only dream about doing.
   
2. If sex is 99% in the mind, then why are men reliant on sensory stimulation from outside sources? (Porn, unknown women, stip clubs)
   Because some men need a jump start from outside sources to get their mind going? I dunno.
   
   
3. Why do men make comments about how attractive another woman is to their gf/wife?
   Dunno, never done it but I'd speculate that they are either completely unaware that this might cause some insecurity in their partner or they are trying to manipulate their partner.
   
   
4. If a man desires for his woman to spice up life for him by being kinkier or more sexually oriented, then isn't it his duty at that point to become more affectionate and put just as much effort into meeting her emotional needs? If she goes out to the store and buys $100 in lingera and sexy clothing, spends the day waxing, buffing, polishing... shouldnt' she get a full day of nothing but lavished loving attention on her? *scratches head and frowns* hmmm, never been there but isn't a relationship partially about meeting each others reasonable needs? If one partner feels that they are not getting the affection they want/need/desire isn't that a sign of incompatibility?
    
   Or does a man just assume its his inherient right to get the sexual attention he wants from his woman as long as he cuddles for 20 minutes after sex? If it feels unbalanced, it probably is.

I'm currently caught in a double mind set. A.) Women should attempt to keep their partners attention by being sexy, and going out of their way to meet their partners desires. B.) That it doesn't matter because the "haven't had the girl at the grocery store" will always beat the "been there done that" at home no matter how you dress it up.

IMHO, a compatible partner will find you sexy without a tremendous effort on your part. Some effort yes but not overboard. If the going out of your way to meet someone else's desires isn't paying off for you then maybe it isn't you but your partner that doesn't match you. Maybe it's a question of developing the kind of intimacy you desire with your partner, maybe you and your partner are not as compatible as you would like to be.

Another question:

 

If your gf/wife/SO were making comments about how hot another guy is, would it affect you? Positively or negatively, or not at all?

I really don't care/mind if you find another guy hot but act appropriately, respect our relationship and please don't try to make me feel insecure about our relationship. Some thoughts are just meant to be kept private and while it wouldn't bother me that you find another guy hot, your motivation for telling me might cause me some concern.

[alphamale]

um, yeah, i'm not getting involved in this one!

[allina]

um, yeah, i'm not getting involved in this one!

 

And now I'm curious about what you would have to say

[RecordProducer]

I'll be 32 in 7 days, and lately I've been wondering what life will be like never having kids. Are there people out there who chose not to have children and have now missed the opportunity? Do you regret it? Why or why not?

(I know women can have kids into their 40's and on, but I'd rather not risk the birth defects and developmental problems that can occur)

I always knew that I would have children. I never particularly liked other kids, but I knew I would love mine.

 

I can't imagine my life without my children. They are the brightest side of my life. We love each other passionately, they give me so much joy. There is no person in this world that can make me feel the way they do. They gave me strength to endure the hardest moments of my life, they gave me love that kept me going.

 

I can't even find words to describe that kind of love. We kiss and cuddle all the time. We talk, laugh, joke, tease each other, do silly things together... Life is beautiful because I have them.

 

There is no such thing in this world like being a mother. It's a gift from nature. I can't understand women who abandon their children. I can't live without them for one day. :love: :bunny:

[Walk]

I always knew that I would have children. I never particularly liked other kids, but I knew I would love mine.

 

The people I know who have kids, felt ths way... at least the part regarding "knowing" they would have children one day. Some of these people I've known 20 years. And since before high school, they've stated they would have children at some point.

 

The posters who don't want children, and who say they are happy with that decision, how many of you had close experience with children while young? Seems as if those who want children, were exposed to babies at a relatively young age themselves.

Just a hypothesis.

[Chinook]

And now I'm curious about what you would have to say

 

Oh no no no, don't ask him!!