Girls good girl with bad guy but guy look good.

[mightymitch]

Why are girls attracted to the jackass, and do not see the one waiting to give her everything when all he is gonna give her a slap in the face, but she wants that perfect looking guy, now dont get me wrong not all girls are like this, but why the good girls, i have seen it many of times, and usually its the girls im going for. I reminds me of Forest Gump,(in a sense, Jenny in the movie did not realize what she had all along, caught up in life) It was a great movie, but anyway i just thought i could fuse that little issue , and please if you would like to dicuss anymore , feel free to post reply.

THANKS

[Heavenseventeen]

I think it's like the movie Pirates of the Caribbean. I find myself attracted to Jack Sparrow because he's so dangerous and you know you'd go on many adventures. But at the end of the day, I would definitely have to choose Will Turner. He is kind, sweet and more importantly safe. He wouldn't endanger anybody. Might be less exciting, but it would be my choice.

 

I personally have never been attracted to a "bad boy". I think that seeing how badly he behaves would put me off.

 

I think girls are attracted to bad boys for the excitement. Plus they think that they can change them or calm them down- instead they'll probably get into some serious trouble for them to realise that's not going to happen.

[agnf666]

I think it has to do with Bad Boys being more adventurous or something of that sort. I am attracted to them too. It's hard to really explain.

 

Good Guys sometimes are into changing girls, and girls don't like that too much.

[amaysngrace]

For me, seeking bad boys was due to my own self-esteem issues. I wasn't overly confident, and I think deep down I thought I wasn't deserving of a good guy. So I viewed the bit of good they had in them and thought it was good enough.

 

I would often look at the good guys and think they were boring. I guess this was my way of justifying my attraction to the bad boys without holding myself to blame.

 

But this is just my take on it.

[mightymitch]

I think it's like the movie Pirates of the Caribbean. I find myself attracted to Jack Sparrow because he's so dangerous and you know you'd go on many adventures. But at the end of the day, I would definitely have to choose Will Turner. He is kind, sweet and more importantly safe. He wouldn't endanger anybody. Might be less exciting, but it would be my choice.

 

I personally have never been attracted to a "bad boy". I think that seeing how badly he behaves would put me off.

 

I think girls are attracted to bad boys for the excitement. Plus they think that they can change them or calm them down- instead they'll probably get into some serious trouble for them to realise that's not going to happen.

 

 

Glass House if you have seen it, great movie, i have an idea why girls tend to go for the bad boy type, (great example you gave) its just i feel girls are tricked, and some dont ralize being with that bad boy figure, mr. Jock, popular, that she in for so much pain, and i have had two potential relationships go down like that, and it just blows my mind. When i say i have seen them go and get hurt......i just hate to see it.

[mightymitch]

I think it has to do with Bad Boys being more adventurous or something of that sort. I am attracted to them too. It's hard to really explain.

 

Good Guys sometimes are into changing girls, and girls don't like that too much.

 

 

I agree, and some do try and chang for the worst for the girl, but some like me, try and change for the better for both of us in the future. Some girls just dont realize, and most arent ready to accept the change they might or might not need.

[mightymitch]

I think it has to do with Bad Boys being more adventurous or something of that sort. I am attracted to them too. It's hard to really explain.

 

Good Guys sometimes are into changing girls, and girls don't like that too much.

 

i know, but what makes it more of an intriguing question, is that i am both outgoing and serious, not to say bad, but well off to be accepted by some, no but the bad boy type im talking about is the FINE, HANDSOME young man, and the girl, like as if he were a VAMPIRE, puts her under this SPELL, and he forever till some event comes up treats her like dirt, like nobody, but she is so attacted physically to him she dosent realize it, but in some cases her friends do. And there I stand or any other man, watching her make this mistake, we gave her everything, and he gives her a self esteem boost and poularity and dreams come true.

 

I DONT KNOW, BUT I WISH GIRLS COULD AVOID IT

BUT thanks FOR your REPLY

[agnf666]

i know, but what makes it more of an intriguing question, is that i am both outgoing and serious, not to say bad, but well off to be accepted by some, no but the bad boy type im talking about is the FINE, HANDSOME young man, and the girl, like as if he were a VAMPIRE, puts her under this SPELL, and he forever till some event comes up treats her like dirt, like nobody, but she is so attacted physically to him she dosent realize it, but in some cases her friends do. And there I stand or any other man, watching her make this mistake, we gave her everything, and he gives her a self esteem boost and poularity and dreams come true.

 

I DONT KNOW, BUT I WISH GIRLS COULD AVOID IT

BUT thanks FOR your REPLY

 

Oh Gheez. In a way I can't answer no more because this is kinda happening to me. He came off like a really good guy, but now he is treating me like dirt like all the other guys I have dated. So, it was like he put on this make-up to hid his true colors. Get me hooked and says the "L word" and then that is that. It sucks.

[konfuzd]

I have a bad boy addiction. Like any other addictive substance, (smoking, drinking, drugs) you know it's self destructive and isn't the best thing for you, but there's a certain rush you get that you crave.

 

The times I've tried dating 'nice' guys, I got bored almost instantaneously... They are typically not agressive enough, you get caught in the "what do you want to do?" "I don't know, what do you want to do" conversations. Girls want a guy who can take charge, call the shots.

 

Also, it's hard to appriciate things that are readily available to you. Think of someone who has craploads of money... they typically don't have as much appriciation for the material goods as someone who had to work their ass off for it. A challenge/reward. It is a challenge to get affection and tenderness from a bad boy, so it seems to have much more value. When you know you can call upon a guy at any time, and he'll be at your beck-and-call, there's no challenge, and it's like a novelty item, fun at first, but the appeal wears off real quick.

 

Stop making yourself so available, and stand up for yourself instead of bending over backwards for girls and you will land yourself a great girl.

 

Hope this helps, good luck!

[burning 4 revenge]

is this all else being equal? wouldn't you prefer a good boy with a big prick to a bad boy with a small one?

[stoopid_guy]

Stop making yourself so available, and stand up for yourself instead of bending over backwards for girls and you will land yourself a great girl.

 

Forget that guys, there are ladies out there who realize you can be a gentleman without being a wimp. And many of them who don't realize it now will realize it when they grow up.

[konfuzd]

Forget that guys, there are ladies out there who realize you can be a gentleman without being a wimp. And many of them who don't realize it now will realize it when they grow up.

 

First off, being a gentleman and being a total pushover are 2 totally different things. It's about balance. Every single guy I've ever met who's played the "nice guys finish last" sob story are the ones who have no backbone and go out of their way to please their girl, and there's no equality in the relationship. I, for one will not tolerate being treated like crap, but at the same time will not tolerate being treated like a princess either.

 

 

If being "grown up" means losing my sense of adventure, free spirit and adopting a routine cinderella story life, please let me stay young and fun forever!

[mightymitch]

Oh Gheez. In a way I can't answer no more because this is kinda happening to me. He came off like a really good guy, but now he is treating me like dirt like all the other guys I have dated. So, it was like he put on this make-up to hid his true colors. Get me hooked and says the "L word" and then that is that. It sucks.

 

 

Youll find the right one, he's out there, paitence, friends will comfort you, and we learn from our mistakes in life whatever the situation may be, it makes us more aware,

 

SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO WALK THE DARK ROAD, WE ARE ON THE PATH FOR THE LIGHT, OUR GOALS AND HOPES LIE AHEAD, WE FALL DOWN WE RISE STRONGER THAN BEFORE KNOWING WE WONT MAKE THAT MISTAKE AGAIN, WE WILL FIND THE LIGHT,WHATER IT MAY BE

DONT GIVE UP

MITCH

[mightymitch]

I have a bad boy addiction. Like any other addictive substance, (smoking, drinking, drugs) you know it's self destructive and isn't the best thing for you, but there's a certain rush you get that you crave.

 

The times I've tried dating 'nice' guys, I got bored almost instantaneously... They are typically not agressive enough, you get caught in the "what do you want to do?" "I don't know, what do you want to do" conversations. Girls want a guy who can take charge, call the shots.

 

Also, it's hard to appriciate things that are readily available to you. Think of someone who has craploads of money... they typically don't have as much appriciation for the material goods as someone who had to work their ass off for it. A challenge/reward. It is a challenge to get affection and tenderness from a bad boy, so it seems to have much more value. When you know you can call upon a guy at any time, and he'll be at your beck-and-call, there's no challenge, and it's like a novelty item, fun at first, but the appeal wears off real quick.

 

Stop making yourself so available, and stand up for yourself instead of bending over backwards for girls and you will land yourself a great girl.

 

Hope this helps, good luck!

 

 

FINDING A BALANCE in a relationship is hard at times, and yes i agree you should not be a push over kind of guy, its not....healthy...for a relationship. I see treating a girl like number one, there is no wrong in that and most girls would dream to find a man to be by your side always, be the shoulder when you need to let out your emotions, be there for you when times are rough, support you, thats better than any luxury, we should come to respect that boy/girl, is that what we desire(when it comes to a relationship, to see the true beauty of love, to feel it, to live it out with that special someone, i would give anything to have a girl there by my side, talk with me, wake up next to her or lay there with her, and think, while she stares off, im glad to be with this girl, who cares about me, is there for me, ......i dont know i could go on & on, dont you want that, alot of girls would, as long as youre happy with whatever the cause, i guess thats all that really matters

 

TAKE TIME OUT THINK TO YOURSELF, ABOUT HOW YOU REALLY FEEL

[mightymitch]

is this all else being equal? wouldn't you prefer a good boy with a big prick to a bad boy with a small one?

 

 

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[stoopid_guy]

First off, being a gentleman and being a total pushover are 2 totally different things. It's about balance. Every single guy I've ever met who's played the "nice guys finish last" sob story are the ones who have no backbone and go out of their way to please their girl, and there's no equality in the relationship.

Nobody likes a whiner, but some guys like going out of their way to please a lady, especially if it's clearly appreciated. Equality in the relationship? I hold the door for a lady, I'll go out of my way to walk around the car and open the door for a lady, I don't expect her to do that for me unless I'm carrying something heavy though. If she doesn't appreciate that, I'm better off without her.

 

If being "grown up" means losing my sense of adventure, free spirit and adopting a routine cinderella story life, please let me stay young and fun forever!

What I noticed when I was was in my late teens/early twenties was that girls my age were more likely to be intrigued by the "bad boys," while ladies in their late twenties or older appreciated consideration much more.

[lil_angel]

i think many times girls are attracted to bad boys because they have more sex appeal. sex appeal in the natural world is based mainly on aggression and strength, because these ensure the survival of the species. our biological instincts work the same way. there's something "sexy" about the dark, brooding, bad boys with the confident swagger, the muscular build, and the willingness and ability to throw that punch and come out on top. of course, this doesnt mean that good guys dont have a chance, or cant attract women. and of course a relationship should be based on a lot more than sex appeal. but usually that's the first quality that makes someone look twice at another person, and is also the easiest to get carried away by. if im not making any sense it's b/c its 4:40am.

personally, i've always been a total sucker for the sexiness of bad boys, but for a real relationship i want a balance. i want a good guy who's gonna treat me right, and i dont want someone itching for a fight all the time, but at the same time he'd better be a strong man who wont let me whip him, and who is capable of throwing that punch if necessary.

[stoopid_guy]

sex appeal in the natural world is based mainly on aggression and strength, because these ensure the survival of the species.

 

Absolutley true. But having strength and the capacity for aggression doesn't mean you have to use them, and a man who is truly self-confident doesn't "swagger." In situations where agression/intimidation are needed, you'd be better off with a "speak softly and carry a big stick" guy than someone who acts "macho." Another thing I've noticed about guys who "swagger," they seem more likely to cut others down (including their mates) to boost their own sense of self-worth.

[mightymitch]

i know and maybe its just the point in time where maybe the girl is experimenting or curious, and just wonders what it would be like, and when the girl gets a taste, she will eat it all up , that sex appeal in a guy, and when shes full, she will look for the dessert, the good guy, its all a matter of time i suppose, and thats what's mainly the problem, is patience, to wait for the right one

 

i think many times girls are attracted to bad boys because they have more sex appeal. sex appeal in the natural world

[lil_angel]

sex appeal in the natural world is based mainly on aggression and strength, because these ensure the survival of the species.

 

Absolutley true. But having strength and the capacity for aggression doesn't mean you have to use them, and a man who is truly self-confident doesn't "swagger." In situations where agression/intimidation are needed, you'd be better off with a "speak softly and carry a big stick" guy than someone who acts "macho." Another thing I've noticed about guys who "swagger," they seem more likely to cut others down (including their mates) to boost their own sense of self-worth.

 

you're very right. im not advocating going with all the guys who are bad news. i steer clear of them personally. my man is plenty strong and aggressive, heck he's a marine, but he's also very respectful and caring. all im saying is that for many girls, the sex appeal of the macho attitude can outweigh common sense that hes not gonna treat them right.