Guest Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I am 17, I ahve been dating a girl for 4 years now and she has appeared to be truly in love with me...I had bought her a fairly expensive ring and we did get engaged...dont judge this because i am young. We had sex and yes we were both virgins..I was truly in love with her. We had gotten caught having sex and she is grounded from seeing me but we can email and she used to sneak calls. She used to tell me shed risk anything to see me. Recently though, she has been reading my emails...but not responding. And she hasnt been answering my calls...i have even gotten desperate to the point wher ei dont even block my number id if her mom sees it and calls the cops, I want to talk to her. She had called her friend now to tell me she wants a break...and I alter found out she had been seeing another man who is 3 years older than her shes 17 as well, and she had almost cheated on me before. I got angry and sent her rude emails in which i called her vulgar names demanding an explanation that i have appologized for...I just want to hear her tell me, in her own words. I have been crying constantly, im growing dillusional, i cant eat, and have contemplated suicide. I dont want to live with out her I love her I swore to her id marry her and she swore the same...we almost had a child who died in the womb sadly and she swore on his grave shed always love me...and now this how could she do this to me. Idk what to do anymore, her parents loved me like a son but they felt the need to punish us and they are strict when it comes to rules. I'm afraid to tell her mom what my girlfriend has done to me for fear her mom will yell or threaten me. And I cant get any of my friends to call for me...I dont know what to do Please help me.
junkboy Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 It sounds like if your girlfriend has asked you for a break and she is seeing someone else, that she is done with your relationship. This is not the end of the world although it may feel this way. She is your first love and I am sure it hurts like hell. I have felt this way before, but it gets better with time and doing things to get over it. We all say things in relationships and make promises that we cant keep if the relationship is to end. It really sucks when someone doesnt mean those promises. I would not try to contact her any longer. I would not try to get to her through her family or friends. Sounds like you may need to start to let her go. I would only contact her after you have healed from this. If you are depressed and contemplating suicide; first know that this will not help get her back. Actually, it will make things worse. Second, you should consider speaking to a counselor about your feelings and get help working through your loss. You will be much better off in the long run. If you are interested in trying to get her back, the best thing you can do is to move on. Give her a chance to really miss you. Dont contact her. It is said that most girls once they are done, they are done and it is rare that they come back, so just know that. Although it may not feel like this right now you will heal from this experience and you will meet someone else and you will love again. I am 33 and I have suffered many heart breaks and I am always encouraged by people who are older than I am who are finding new love. It will happen. Hang in there and try to focus on yourself right now. Try to focus on things that you need in order to feel better. You are not going to get the response that you want from her right now. Maybe in 6 months you can contact her and you two can be friends. Try to take it one day at a time. Hang out with friends, dont drink or anything to try to get over it, work out or something to work off some steam, etc.
Sonic_chaos Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 Ive just broke up with my girlfriend too, *she broke it off* yep it hurts like hell. So we all know or have known what your feeling right how, The not feeling hungry when you are, feeling down, dejected. . Ive been very down and im very emotional at the moment in songs that are people that break up and such.Just my way of dealing with it. You have to will learn to let go, if you dont you will most certainly be ill. I met her on the net so i have tried to erase everything i can* even if its just outta sight* Even tho i havent erased it. Her cell phone is still in mine.i wanna erase but i soo wanna think she will get in contact again, So Junkboy's advice has at least helped me into thinking that i have to let it go. Ive done it with other girlfriends as well, kept the number but in my wallet just in case. In case of what i dont know. But i never did call her, not once. You are alittle different as you are very emotionally involved as to a point you nearly had a child of your own. Which is sad to hear it didnt turn out right. But you are only 17. I know its easy saying that, from this side of the fence but have a read of the other side of the forum with how to cope. Ive been sat here for the past 2 hours reading, and it is little by little helping me to come to terms with that i need to do to get over her. I dont wanna spend the rest of my life thinking if she's ok and what is she doing now.. etc.. she wont be doing the same for me i know that much. She will be hurting excatly the same, but she has the strenght over you, as you are nearly begging her to take you back.. And that doesnt look attractive to a women/lady/girl. If she wants you, she knows how to find you.. ive not been here long *only since i myself started having probs* but ive learned alot from these guys.. Theres just normall average people who hurt the same as you. Let go man..
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