dgiirl Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 Yeah I know what i said about relationships, but anyways I put up my profile on one of those online match maker sites. Mainly out of curiosity and to gain some practice on talking to men. Is there any etiquette I should be aware of? And when do you tell them you're currently separated and getting a divorce? I dont want to make it a big deal, but should i tell them on the 2nd email, 10th email or when it comes up or should i bring it up? I'm also planning on moving and all of these guys are local to my current city.
Art_Critic Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 And when do you tell them you're currently separated and getting a divorce? Doesn't the site have a marital status for separated ? instead of single ? I think you should put it in your profile. I know when I'm on a dating site I expect women that are on there to be single .. I know your going thru a divorce but that info might be pretty important to someone If you don't put it in your profile the guy will feel suckered and lied to.. At least if it is in your profile and you find a guy then you know it won't be a problem to him just my 2 cents..
Author dgiirl Posted January 22, 2006 Author Posted January 22, 2006 The one that i'm on, it is not. Doesnt say a thing about relationships or even if they have kids or pets. Now you making me second guess myself. I put my profile on for only two days and got bombarded by emails/smiles. (I guess I'm cute? So I hid my profile for the time being.
Art_Critic Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 The one that i'm on, it is not. Doesnt say a thing about relationships or even if they have kids or pets. Now you making me second guess myself. I put my profile on for only two days and got bombarded by emails/smiles. (I guess I'm cute? So I hid my profile for the time being. Well just reply to the ones you like and somehow casually mention in the first couple of emails that you will be moving after the divorce is final.. That should do it
Author dgiirl Posted January 23, 2006 Author Posted January 23, 2006 Do's and donts. How long do you correspond before exchanging messenger? How long do you correspond before exchanging phone numbers? How long do you correspond before meeting in person? How do you make things safe on a first date? What do you do if you got a weirdo?
vampira Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Do's and donts. How long do you correspond before exchanging messenger? If you think they seem interesting and worth getting to know a bit better, go for it. You can always 'delete' with messenger anyway. How long do you correspond before exchanging phone numbers? I waited a couple months but some people are more at ease talking over the phone, so whatever feels right. How long do you correspond before meeting in person? That's a tricky one because if you leave it a while and start to develop feelings, there is a greater potential to be disappointed because you built up hype over the whole meeting thing. Then again, if you meet too soon, you wont have had enough time to determine if they are 'suitable' (for want of a better word). How do you make things safe on a first date? Meet in a public place, day time is arguably safer than night. Let a friend know that you are meeting them and tell them where. Also perhaps organise an appointment or meeting with friends later that day so that you have a good excuse to rush off if need be. What do you do if you got a weirdo? If they are mildly weird, give them a chance. It's always gonna be slightly awkward anyway. If they are really weird, might be time to rush to that appointment or meeting with friends!
littlekitty Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Do's and donts. How long do you correspond before exchanging messenger? How long do you correspond before exchanging phone numbers? How long do you correspond before meeting in person? How do you make things safe on a first date? What do you do if you got a weirdo? The answer to the first 3 is when YOU feel comfortable doing so. First date, meet some where very public, try for during the day if possible, maybe just for coffee. Have a friend be aware where you are and what you are doing and arrange for them to call you on your cell say 20 minutes into the meet. That way if you get a weirdo you can make your excuses (urgent phone call = urgent problem) and leave. If you're happy, you can let your friend know, and then ensure you tie up with your friend at the end of the meet so they know you are safe and sound. Good luck, go with your gut instinct and enjoy it. I met my SO online, and we're in and happier that we ever could have wished for!
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