JoL Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 For those who have no idea what im talking about in this post- i posted about a guy i was involved with- http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t75817/ An update on the situation is as follows.. SO I get into work today after being off sick for 2 days and what do i find? The gift i got him on his birthday thrown on my desk. It's just a stuffed toy, but there it was, on my desk, he had just dumped it there. This toy used to bring us hours of amusement and was a private joke between us. By dumping this on my desk he is trying to get to my very core to hurt me- i was FUMING when i came in to work.. Every single person has said DO NOT REACT....DO NOT GIVE IN...DO NOT GIVE HIM THE SATISFACTION. Just ignore him. Go about your business as normal. This is what willl make him even more upset and frustrated because he has realised. 1. ignoring me didnt work- i havent given in. 2. flirting with another girl didnt work- i ignored him. 3. now he is trying to "rid" himself of things that remind him of me... i wonder what the next step will be when this doesnt work?!! He could have thrown the toy away if he didnt want it- by giving it back he is trying to make a statement- i know this. He is a child! And i refuse to continue to play these games. So i just took the toy and dumped it in the back of my drawer at work, i didnt say anything to him, and i went about my business as normal. He briefly walked past me during lunch and looked me in the eye, i just looked away and kept talking to my friend. Everyone has also been commenting on his behaviour at the xmas party and how he made a total fool out of himself- and how everyone thinks he is such a jerk. So this is his latest tactic..what a joke!!!!
slubberdegullion Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 First of all, it's good that you're feeling better. Then again, if you were still sick, I'd recommend that you plant a really wet kiss on the fellow, complete with major tongue action. Then he'd get too. Donate the toy to a children's charity or something like that. And DON'T get involved with people at work! I'm not sure why you were fuming so badly though. You knew that the dude was an a**h*** anyway, so did you actually expect some semblance of maturity from him? Let him play his games if that's his thing. You can't control that, but you can control your reactions.
morrigan Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 Not reacting and total NC is the best way to go. Don't lose your temper at work and wreck your professional reputation. Confronting him will let him know him that he is affecting you and encourage him to harass you even more. If he starts leaving harassing notes/email, you need to go to your supervisor and report him. Hopefully he'll stop this crap soon enough.
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