omegaRED Posted October 22, 2005 Posted October 22, 2005 Hi guys and gals, First, let me introduce myself: My name is J. B., i`m a 27 year old guy from Skopje, Macedonia... And this is my story... A little more than 2 years ago, i broke up a 7 year long relationship. We were both kids when we met, and it just didnt work the last couple of years. I stayed with her mostly because i didnt want to hurt her, but as i met my current ex, i knew it was time to end it. And i did it, telling her honestly that i didnt love her, and she needs to find someone who will love her and be happy with her. Nevertheless, a short time after i started seeing my current ex. She is a beautiful girl, very open, communicative, kindhearted, intelligent and fun to be with. In short, we both fell in love very quickly. The following 2 years were the greatest in my life. I`ve never felt so happy. We`re talking near perfect relationship, with understanding, communication, very little arguements, mutual respect for our differences. For the first time in my life, i felt that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with that girl, to have a family, kids, all of it, with her. She shared those feelings. In june, she got a job. An interesting, well payed, attractive job. Everything she ever wanted in a job. She is a very ambitious person BTW. The problems started then. She had less and less time for us, what with the job, trips, other stuff for the family (her father lives in Germany, had to find work there to support the family, and only visits for a month each year) so she had the role of the "head of the family". She had nearly all the responsibily for the family and stuff that needs to be taken care of around the house. The time we spent together wasnt the best either. We stll saw each other often, but she mostly talked about her job and the likes. I then tried to point out that she was changing, and that i didnt want our relationship to deteriorate into something trivial. Then i made the mistake of telling her something i shouldnt have, saying that she couldnt (was not capable of) loving someone for an extended period of time. And that hurt her real bad. I didnt mean it really, and appologised immidiately, but it was already done. She withdrew almost completely, almost no gentle touch, no kindness, she didnt "respond" to kissing, no kind words or anything more. I apologised a number of time, begged her to forgive me, but she just said, "i will forgive you, but i cant get those words out of my head, everytime you kiss me or touch me i can hear those words". She also said she didnt know whether she could ever tell me the she loves me again. Things didnt change. We started to irritate each other over little things. Not trivial, but still nothing major. It got so bad that we found something to argue about almost daily. We just couldnt find a middle ground. I couldnt back off when i should have, and neither could she. So we ended up having a 2 week break, a mutual decision. She was in Austria during those 2 weeks, so it kind of made it easier to get through. Our 2 year anniversary was during that period, and i waited for a text msg, it didnt come, so the next day i wrote something like "I thought about writing you this msg, and in the end i decided to write you. The last 2 years were the happiest in my life, and i celebrated them on the place where we kissed for the first time, with a can of beer and Rocco, and almonds" (that was what we drank and ate when we first kissed) She didnt reply, and later i sent her another msg, saying that i didnt want to disturb her with that msg, because of our agreement. She wrote, "No problem, now dont get disturbed over this msg". And that was the whole msg. After she got back, we saw each other and things looked good, we were both calmer, but after a couple of days we started arguing again. So after a week or so, we had a talk, she said we couldnt go on arguing like this, that this is affecting her work performance... So she said we dont have a solution but to break up. I couldnt say anything. I felt that anything i say would anger her even more, so i just took it. She said that we should keep in touch, and was adamant that we`d have a second chance. At first i was saying, no, no way, but when we parted, i said, i wish you good luck at the job and everything, but i cant wish you luck in love. She said, "I dont want to have luck in love" (with someone else that is) and kissed me. The next day i called her, and asked if we could consider this as something between a full "break-up" and a time off, and she said that`s what she meant with that "second chance", and agreed to let time pass by and we`d give it another shot when we feel ready. That was a month and a half ago. Since then, i`ve sent her 4-5 text msgs, at some of those she replied, and at others didnt. We talked twice, having a nice friendly conversation, but she avoided any talk about "us". When i did bring the subject up, she quickly changed the subject. We saw each other last thursday, she was nice and friendly, but again, as soon as i brought the subject of "us", she got defensive and said it`s not the time or the place, that it was too early for us to speak of that. So that was the last contact. Continued in the second post And P.S. Very sorry for the length
Author omegaRED Posted October 22, 2005 Author Posted October 22, 2005 During the last month and a half, i was the one who initiated contact. She only sent me 2 text msgs, before my final exam, and a week and a half ago, when she got back from Austria. And replied to some of my msgs. I know my ex, and i think she still loves me, but she`s extremely good at supressing emotions. I asked her if there`s another guy she likes/loves/has, she said flat out no, and i dont want one, "we" just need time... I *think* that she got deeply hurt by what i said, and just cant let herself show that she still loves me. And i get very mixed signals. I`ve told her i missed her, and she replied "I miss my life in general, i have so much to do and so little time, i`m overworked and tired...". Yet when i said that it didnt matter how much time we spent apart, as long as we are together when she comes back, she said "That`s the most important thing to me too". That was in the same conversation about 2-3 weeks ago. Last thursday, before we met, she ran into my cousine from Germany (they were very close and she liked her a lot), and my cousine kind of blew her off, but politely, because she couldnt fake it that everything is allright, and my ex seemed truly sad and dissapointed by that. I told her, you gotta understand When she noticed i wasn`t wearing the watch she gave me, i could see sadness and suprise in her eyes. (I got another watch as a gift, so i wore that one, not on purpose). Ok, gotta go now, but i`ll finish this later when i get home.
Author omegaRED Posted October 23, 2005 Author Posted October 23, 2005 Near the end of our conversation, i asked her whether she spent some time thinking about our situation. She said "Yes, i have, but not too much, let`s just let time do it`s thing". I was dissapointed. She didnt miss me, or at least didnt let it show, which was really a blow, since we were extremely close, just a month or so ago. As we parted, i said i was ready to make a step in the right direction, and take it very slowly, and she got confused and said, this is not the time or the place, i wont be going on any trips in the next months, so we`ll talk this through when we have enough time to do so. That was that. That was 10 days ago. I havent contacted her, although i wanted to very badly, because things between us were not very clear. I mean, she said we`ll definitely give it another go, we`ll keep in touch, we wont see eachother AS OFTEN as we did before, yet she never calls. The thing that hurts me the most is that i noticed something has changed her (when the problems started, beginning of august), and she never told me the reason. She said it`s because she was tired and preoccupied, yet that was not it. She was slowly drifting away from me, and didnt want to tell me the reason. So the things stay at that. 10 days NC, she hasnt made any attempt to contact me, i`m doing better, getting in touch with many people that i havent seen in a long time, going out, trying to have fun, and to feel good. I am the person that i am. I know my faults, and i`ve been working on them for a while now. The point is, i was not me the last 2-3 months of our relationship. I`m more angry at myself for allowing her to become everything to me, i`ve lost MYSELF, MY PERSONALITY, however, the circumstances helped that to happen. I dont want that to happen again. I have a job, but am looking for a better one, one which will satisfy and fulfill me, taking steps to better myself, do things i`ve wanted to do for a while now, but just delayed them. Life is good, and it`s worth living. I`ve always said, there are no bad experiences, you learn from everything, and become a better person for it. We may not get what we want, or what we thought we wanted, but what we do get is always something thats more valuable... I believed she was the love of my life. It may even work out between us. But i`ve done all i can, the rest is up to god/fate... She is the first thing on my mind every day when i wake up, and i think about her a lot. I still love her to death. But i`m not gonna play games. I`ve been honest to her, and i allways will be. I`ve made mistakes, i paid the price. But i will not change, i try to better myself, but not change, not for her, not for anyone. It is who i am. To all you broken hearted out there, dont worry, things work out for the best, they always do. Just live the life to the fullest. Thanks for listening.
Ruff Ryder Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 Listen man take it day by day and dont do anything stupid if its ment to be it will. So just relax and take it easy.
Author omegaRED Posted October 23, 2005 Author Posted October 23, 2005 Thanks for the reply Ruff Ryder. I`m not going to do anything stupid I thought i made it clear that i`ve learned to accept it, it`s life. Bad things will happen, and i will pick myself up. Every time
Ruff Ryder Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 Well thats exactly it. life is not about how you fall its about how you get back up and i think your on the right track.
Author omegaRED Posted November 1, 2005 Author Posted November 1, 2005 Well... Here`s the final part of the story. I saw my girlfriend in town today holding hands with her boss from Austria. Anyways, i called her name, approached them, she was surprised to say the least, i was confused as hell, i have no recollection how i reacted, i just said hi, she introduced me to him, was surprised i wasn`t at work (i`ve told her i quit my present job in an e-mail a couple of days ago, but i guess she never read it). And just said a couple of things, like how are you, etc... Then i kind of turned to leave because i was distraught, she, still carrying a fake smile all the way, just motioned her head in a way that said "Well **** it, there you go" and said bye... I`ve texted her to call me this evening and explain and give me closure, she didnt respond. I`ve called her like 5-6 times in a row, just to make sure she got the msg, she didnt answer. Then i texted her again to say that i wanted to know if she got the msg and she texted me some 15 mins later saying "I`m in a meeting.". That was 5 hours ago. She hasnt called. Then again, i dont expect her to, honestly. And to be frank, i dont think i`d benefit anything from talking to her. She dragged me in the mud for 3 months, she completely withdrew, emotionally, physically and sexually, and i should have known. But we had a very communicative and honest relationship before, and i at least expected her to be honest about stuff... That`s what i cant forgive. She lied to me for at least 2-3 months. I asked her a number of times if she had someone else, saying that it`d make things easier for me... The cold hard truth, so i can move on... She said no, and i dont want noone else. She lied to me... for months... Kept me in pain... Hurting... Gave me false hope... I cant believe she`s the same person i fell in love with... I know i`m better of without her... And at least i dont beat myself up thinking what`s going on and what to do and what i could have done... But, i guess it`s all for the best. The funny thing is, EVERYONE loved her. My family, my friends, random people... EVERYONE. I see now that she just acted and played a role, because no one person is perfect. Beware of the person that seems just "too perfect" to be real. Becasue it`s just that, it isnt real... I see that she was just, in a way, using me. I was a nice prospect, had some good connections, nice family, good job opportunities, but once a "better" thing came along the way, she dumped me. The guy she could "profit" more from.The thing, again, that hurts the most is that she dragged me through the mud. Played with my feelings, put me through unbearable pain. Used me as a safety net. And i loved her with all my heart. I`m not perfect, but i`ve made lots of sacrifices for her... Anyways, i`m still in shock, i don`t know how i`ll be in the next couple of days once the image sinks in, i`m kinda relieved, because at least she`s dead to me, in a way... Anyone have any advice and experience? Are the next days gonna be better, worse or the same? I know what i need to do... And i`ll heal, and be a better man for it... Always look on the bright side of life... No matter how much it hurts...
Author omegaRED Posted November 1, 2005 Author Posted November 1, 2005 Oh and i could really use some encouragement or kind words. I`m not feeling THAT bad, i`m still confused as hell and emotions are going rampant, but i fear things for me will get fugly the next couple of days... I`d appreciate any and all words...
lamento Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 Hey Omega sorry to hear your story - seems to me this one is really playing you and getting some sort of revenge for hurting her feelings in the past.. and man is she letting you know about it. She knows you want her and you're not letting go and using that I'm afraid - also seems she hasn't been totally honest with you about her intentions after catching her with a work colleage and stringing you along for all this time. I think you did right in confronting her and it showed you have balls that will work in you favour in the future when she thinks about it. but in the long run is she really that worth it - you seem to have alot going for you.. friends and a good social and family life - there is someone else around the corner who will appreciate these factors. Alot of the time we believe what we want to and if we're lucky it might be the truth. it's hard to find out what is the truth especially with the little contact she is giving you now. Probably time to kick loose.. have a holiday treat yourself nice and have a complete break from the trouble she's causing you - she won't contact you properly untill she can see you have lost some interest and moved on from your panic for her to come back...
Author omegaRED Posted November 1, 2005 Author Posted November 1, 2005 Hey Lamento, Thanks for your words... I dont think she`s getting revenge... I believe she just went and moved on. Anyways... Look, i`m the kind of person who`ll never be unfaithful. She knows that THE ONE thing that i cant forgive or forget is being unfaithful. I`m a forgiving guy, i may hold a grudge a short period of time, but hey... If someone means that much to me, and they care for me and didnt do that on purpose or made a mistake, i`ll forgive... But NOT THIS. This is the one thing i couldnt forgive. She knows that. And she`ll never want to get back with me. And that`s fine with me. As i said, after this, she doesn`t exist for me. And i believe this started a long time ago, i think when she started to withdraw from me, around mid july, there was something there. And she led me on for months. I`m sorry, but i can`t forgive that. She didn`t even send a short "Sorry you had to find out this way". Nothing. She didnt answer the phone, no text, no e-mail... NOTHING. Not even a word to say she regrets things turned out this way. Sorry, that isn`t revenge, that`s a cold hearted, gutless, cowardly bitch. I KNOW she really, REALLY, doesn`t care, or have any respect for me (let alone love me). If she did, she`d make at least the smallest attempt to apologize or step up and explain or give me closure face to face. She`s a coward. I`ve always been honest and if push came to shove, i`d have the balls, courage and respect that person i didn`t want to be with to at least give them the truth or not lead them on. When i broke up with my former gf, i told her loud and clear, things changed, i needed different things, the love died, there`s NO CHANCE we could be together. Sorry, the truth hurts, but it`s better that stringing someone you "care about", "respect" or, god forbid "love" for months. It just doesn`t go that way.
lamento Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 Sorry, that isn`t revenge, that`s a cold hearted, gutless, cowardly bitch. I'm glad you said it - that's a start. seems like it to me too..
Author omegaRED Posted November 1, 2005 Author Posted November 1, 2005 Heh... Yeah well... To tell you the truth, the last 2-3 weeks i`ve really reflected on my part in the relationship, on me and my actions, on my mistakes and really, REALLY learning stuff about myself. About my approach to the relationship. The wrong approach, that is. And really, i`ve come to think that this just HAD to happen for me to grow, mature and improve myself. But, after today... It seems that i loved and image, a mirage, a well played role, so to say... It just makes me doubt and inspect every aspect of our relationship. HER actions. Yes, i`ve made mistakes. Yes, i hurt her sometimes. But, i started to see that she is driven by interest, by ambition, and that she, while she obviously cared for me at least at the beginning, didn`t really "love" me, in the true meaning of the word. If you can just pick up and move on, and string someone you "love" along for months, knowing that you`re tearing them apart... Means you didn`t love them. Once i thought about it, she never really sacrificed anything for me. Anything big, that is. I`m orthodox Christian, a believer, my family is very religous, she`s Muslim (though they arent religious at all, her whole family). Yet, knowing that i won`t have a church wedding, and my children wouldn`t be baptised, i didn`t pressure her to convert, although as i said, she`s not religious at all. I was prepared to sacrifice something VERY important to me to be with her. She told me she`d never convert, even though she knew it meant alot to me. She even told me she`d rather sacrifice me than her job.(Not in those exact words, but that was the gist of it). She didn`t want to change, sacrifice, lose something in order to be with me. Not something big and important anyway. I, on the other hand, was prepared to do whatever it takes, since i loved her truly, and believed she loved me, and that she`s the one. In a way, i guess i didn`t love the real her. Only what she impersonated. The real one... I don`t know the real one. I don`t care about the real one. Not anymore. I just hope the pain that`ll kick in the following days won`t be as bad as the one i experienced in the last two months after we broke up... Yes, fortunately i have a few very good friends. And a lot of friends, who`ll be there for me most of the time. I`ve grown closer to my family, and i`m taking steps to better myself. It`s just that once i`m alone in my room... All i can think about is her. Damn her.
Author omegaRED Posted November 2, 2005 Author Posted November 2, 2005 Well... I`m feeling worse today... I just can`t believe she could do this to me. I was heart broken when she broke up with me, i was in a lot of pain, but now... The pain is almost unbearable. She didn`t care to at least to say "Sorry things turned out this way.", "Sorry you had to find out like this". Nothing. It`s as if i no longer existed in her world. It would be at least the decent thing to do, to appologize for what happened. Just say sorry, didn`t want to hurt you... But no, i ceased to exist for her. How can one you loved with all of your heart and who professed their undying love for not have the least bit of empathy for you, or what they purpously put you through? I mean... I`m not that angry that she left me for that guy... But the way she did it... The way i had to find out... They way she acted when we saw each other... It`s like it wasn`t her anymore. Noone that was with you for 2 years, shared the good and the bad, made plans, who you sacrificed alot to be with, should be capable of inflicting so much pain. I dont know what i`m feeling, i don`t know what to do, nothing brings me joy these days. I just wish the pain would go away...
patwheel Posted November 2, 2005 Posted November 2, 2005 i know how it feels man. im going through the same exact thing. my girl is out, partying it up and she is looking at other guys, if not is with another one already. but this just makes us stronger, and you cant, i stress cant let yourself down just because she is not thinking about you anymore. nothing and no one is worth the pain that were going through, and trust me, I am down and out at some times just like you. no matter what, I know that my closest friend are here and so is my family, and that's all that matters. good luck and be strong
Author omegaRED Posted November 8, 2005 Author Posted November 8, 2005 LOL Well, a new development. After a week since i last saw her, she texts me while i`m in Belgrade to visit my good friends (i really feel rejuvenated, not all that great, but WAY better than a couple of days ago). She says she finally has some time, had colleagues from Austria over (d`uh!) and some other s***, and asks me when we could meet and talk... WTF?!?!? NOW she wants to talk? Where was she the last couple of months? The last week even? When she didnt respond to a single msg or call? I`m gonna maintain NC, i`ll think about texting her after a few days have passed, but i really don`t see a point in us having a talk. Actions speak louder than words, and her actions made the story quite clear... Any thoughts? I mean... I have some doubts now... I believe they were holding hands when i saw them, but i could be wrong... Though it`s highly improbable, and the way she treated me and talked to me really didn`t leave any other option than her being with that other guy...
chocolate_boy Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Ok, you, Patweel and I are all feeling pretty much the same if you read our stories. My ex did exactly the same thing, just withdrew from me one day (2 months ago to this day to be precise) after I messed up and neglected her one weekend, and was too proud to sort it out. I made a mistake, and I let her know that, reassured her over and over how sorry I was and how much I loved her etc. However, our story is like yours, she ignored my sms for a week, and my email, then out of the blue I get an email that's all like "hi honey, hope you're having a lovely week, fancy a coffee so we can have a chat xxxx " so I went to meet her, we spent 40 mins just talking about nothing (her at uni, my upcoming trip to australia), thought I'd at least extend the arm of friendship and see where it got us... I like you, believed she did love me still (she made a massive effort, drove across town in rush hour traffic, put on her best clothes, did hair and make-up like she was meeting me for a date!). Take it from me, I felt worse after seeing her, we avoided relationship chat, she sort of hinted she wanted time out from love-life, I have since learnt she has been kissing a guy she works with on works nights outs regularly. After our meeting, I emailed and tried to be nice, told her it was nice to just chat the other day, did she fancy lunch this week, her call this time, I'll drive over to her.... No reply what-so-ever.. been over a week now, nothing. Don't let her do to you what my ex has done to me, it set me right back to square one, and I feel like she's neglected me all over again. Think first...
Author omegaRED Posted November 8, 2005 Author Posted November 8, 2005 Oh, believe me... I mean, this sort of should be a conversation about where we stand but... You know, i felt pretty ****ty when i got the msg, even tho it was friendly and all that, and i can imagine how dreadful i`d feel after seeing her. So no, until she makes a REALLY, really great effort to contact me, i`m gonna live my life... I`ve been doing better these days, and i don`t want to fall back. You know what, i don`t even have a great urge to call her. I don`t want to relapse.
Author omegaRED Posted November 12, 2005 Author Posted November 12, 2005 Well f**k... I texted her today, asking why she wanted to see me. She answered something like "Well you said you wanted to see me/talk to me last week, so i texted you once i got some time"... We agreed to meet on monday, although i wanted to sooner, but she said she doesnt have any time this weekend. We live like 15 mins apart... But i guess she`s obviously got something better to do. Now, i know i messed up, but... I think i did the right thing. I mean, i hate to admit it, but ever since i got that msg from her, i got that nagging feeling and hope that i was wrong, that she started to miss me etc, and i unwillingly started to get my hopes up... Not too high, but still... And i could have ignored her and never spoken to her again, but i`d still have that hope that she`ll call me and tell me she wants a second chance. I contacted her, well, mostly because i WANT to get shot down. I WANT her to tell me there`s no chance, that she`s happy etc. So that fake hope dies. It`s probably gonna kill me to hear it all, but i guess it`s better to kill that hope than to live with it, unable to move on fast enough (or at all). Basically, i don`t know what to say or ask... I just want it to be final, instead of "let time take it`s course and we`ll see". So how do i go about it? Confront her for lying to me? Ask her why she ended it the way that she did? Why she insisted that we`d have a second chance, even though it`s pretty clear she was either cheating or wanting to be with that other guy? Talk more, or just ask simple questions and listen? Let my anger out and tell her off, or be cool and tell her i`m only dissapointed in her? Any opinions? Advice on how i should act/do when we see eachother? This isn`t going to be some pleasant friendly chit-chat, we both know why we`re meeting...
Art_Critic Posted November 12, 2005 Posted November 12, 2005 Don't go see see her.. she is only going to hand you your heart again. The writing is on the wall .. She waits forever to text you back then says she wants to meet you because you wanted to meet her.. She is just being nice trying not to be a biotch towards you.. Take the hint and walk away from her..She gave you the hint.. It's up to you to use it
Author omegaRED Posted November 12, 2005 Author Posted November 12, 2005 I get your point Art_Critic... But don`t you think it`d be easier for me to move on if i know that this is it, final, etc..? On the other hand, she`ll probably be nice and try not to hurt my feelings even more, and i guess she won`t give me the truth, or that final "It`s over, i lied to spare your feelings, i wanted to be with him for a while". She`s probably just gonna cover the truth and be nice. God damn... I WISH she`d give me that, well, let`s call it "closure", but i don`t think she will... It`s pretty obvious that it`s over, yet i WANT that finality...
Art_Critic Posted November 12, 2005 Posted November 12, 2005 She is not going to give you your closure.. she is just that sort of person. If you force her for the closure she will tell you all the things that you want to hear to get your closure but you won't hear/believe them because you will know deep down that you forced her to give you the words. It won't work.. She will just hand you your heart back to you shattered and you will be back at square one.. Take her hint...
downcydeguy Posted November 12, 2005 Posted November 12, 2005 I say go and see her as scheduled. She is not wanting to get back with you at all. She has gone through the getting over you period and has moved on. She's now able to see you face to face without getting angry or hurt. You have to stay civil and calm the entire time. I think that if you tell her that you do not want to try again but just need her to come clean on her actions, she may honor your wishes. Let her know that you need to get the truth so you can learn from it. Swallow your pride and convince her that you're wanting to use the info to fix your own personal mistakes. I am hoping to get the chance to see my ex one final time as well. I completely agree with you on needing closure. Some don't believe in it - others do. I do. Go see her Monday and keep your cool. Write down all the things you want to ask or tell her. Good luck my friend.
Author omegaRED Posted November 12, 2005 Author Posted November 12, 2005 Thanks for the replies AC and downcydeguy. Any dumpER who is/was on the other side of the fence care to offer some advice? Anyone else been in my ex`s position, how`d you act? Would you come clean and give closure? If so, what`s the best way for me to get the closure, the truth, no sugar-coated BS? I kinda want to tell her how much she hurt me and how angry i was/am, but i don`t think that will move her at all. I don`t want to be her friend. I`m pretty sure i wouldn`t give her a second chance, even if she wanted it. I believe that they sometimes work, but not when there`s another person, and feelings involved. Honestly, i just wish to get that "closure" thing, if that`s possible, and then for her to dissapear from my life. I cannot forgive what she did. I`ve lost nearly all respect for her. Yet a part of me still wants to hear that final "It`s over" from her own mouth.
Nikita20 Posted November 12, 2005 Posted November 12, 2005 You know you have your closure, but you are not willing to face it. You are in denial. I believe that you are still wishing and hoping that you will get back together. She has moved on--she is seeing someone else. Why do you need for her to tell you in person that it is over? That's like asking for another bullet in your heart. I am in the same situation as you are. I feel like I have no closure. I know that my ex is already seeing someone else. I'm sticking to the NC in order to move on and heal my heart. Personally, I don't think that this relationship between your ex and her boss will last. Work relationships are very risky and short lived. As the saying goes, "You never s**t where you eat." This is just a rebound and her way of coping with the loss. From what I read in previous posts, when the rebounder's new relationship fails, they feel twice the pain because they didn't take the time to go through the grieving process. Stick to the NC and have faith that things will get better for yourself. Do not see her.
downcydeguy Posted November 12, 2005 Posted November 12, 2005 I understand what Nikita is saying but can't say that I would listen. We all handle breakups differently, and sometimes we need "closure" - no matter if it's another bullet or not. My ex ended it a month ago over the phone, while 1000 miles away, and I haven't had one single ounce of contact since. Before she hung up, I asked her to see me one last time after she gets home (Dec. 22nd) and she said "doubt it" and that was it. I feel exactly as you do Omega...I know that even IF she meets me, she'll hide the truths, but I still need to try. Afterwards, I can at least know that I did all I could for closure. But that's just me I guess. If you can handle it, go see her. A new life will begin on Tuesday.
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