icoN Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 Ok, well I have never been in a relation before, and my biggest fear is rejection, all my friends who got dumped/rejected, took it so bad (not to any extremes) but were just sad all the time. And I have just decided to lay off trying to find a girlfriend for the time I am in highschool, but recently there has been this girl who has caught my attention, here is the story. And if you take the time to read this I thank you very much : Me and her were in band and i didn't know her at ALL, she was just another girl, and it came christmas band production, and the teacher was getting the spelling of everyones name for the bochure for the audience, and when she came to me the teacher asked for my last name and this "random" girl shouted out my last name, I was . I noticed she had a shirt on from a camp I went to, we talked for a bit about it, and she commented on my hair (I tend to gel it, but it was down) she felt it, and said "Ooo smells nice, feels soft" etc...and then when we were going into the gym, she stopped me and kept getting in my way on purpose, you know how people do that flirtingly, we smiled, I was even more confused, cause she is a grade younger than me, and I have never seen her in my life. So then I was like hey maybe she does have interest in me. So for once I decided to actualy do something, but not by myself . My friend and I biked to her house and used the lame "Oh, I guess so and so doesn't live here" she offered us to come in for water, we talked for an hour, and she said lots of her friends go fishing, and paintballing in her backyard, and said we could come over whenever(so im going to do that some day) then we took off. A week later, I asked if me and my friend could come back to fish, and she said "Yes, just call me before you come over" and I said "I don't have your phone number, but its probably in the phone book" she replied "No No, *gota pen* and wrote her number on my arm. Recently my friends tell me to talk to her more, and I say "Hey how is it going" (just striking brief convo.) but all her replys seem so forced, walking quickly, noding, only smiling. So I don't think I am getting anywhere. A bit about her, she is popular in the sence that everyone knows her, but not nessesary friends with, she could easly be the next american idol, writes her own music, and has the same morality as me, and is friendly to everyone, its not possible for her to hate...which is what I am afraid of, cause I have been trying to figure out if she has any interest in me at ALL...but it feels like I am doing all the work...AND lots of my friends figured that she isn't a kind that likes to date, because she has never had a b/f (surprisingly). So...I guess my question if any, would be, How do I find out if she shows any interest in me?What is a good way to talk/interact with her to become friends, in away that dosen't seem like I am stalking her. Help/tips would be greatly appreciated, because I not really good at any of this
JhnZ71 Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 I dont know man... She probably likes you, but if you dont show her that you like her back then she wont go for it. Ask her if she wants to go fishing with you. STOP bringing your friend. She probably figures since you brought your friend that you arent intrested and just want to go fishing... which is clearly not the case
Author icoN Posted October 5, 2005 Author Posted October 5, 2005 Hmm...I was thinking about biking over myself, but I thought that would be SO weird, and she has huge forest in her backyard, and I was planning to say "Hey mind if I just go on a trail" and she would say yes and when I am about to leave, ask her if she wanted to join, but then that brought me to the thought that maybe she is confused like I am, and had no clue what is going on, so thats why this week I was trying to talk to her more, but, I have kinda abolished that plan. Thanks for the reply though
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