Mermaiden Posted September 5, 2005 Posted September 5, 2005 Ive written about my situation with my ex-byofriend, ex-friend here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=565904#post565904 In a nutshell, after we broke up and tried to be friends, my ex kept needling me to be his glorified maid/gopher/secretary even though he had a new girlfriend already. When I told him I would be his friend but wouldn't do any chores or stuff for him anymore, he abruptly got furious and stopped talking to me 3 weeks ago. Last week he emailed me just an unhappy face out of the blue. I let my curiosity get the better of me and emailed him why was he sending me cryptic messages. 3 days later all he wrote back was, he broke down and only texted me cause he was so upset because i had 'abandoned him' and he didnt have help to get ready to go on his vacation..... On his vacation with his girlfriend that is. Yes, his girlfriend. I keed you not.............. OMG what a manipulative maniac. He was blue because he no longer had me as his little slave girl helping him pack to go on vacation with a new woman. Oh why can't 'Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind' be for real and I could erase his *ss out of my memories !?!!? Anyhoo, I live merely 75 feet away from him, less than a block away from me and I think it will suck beyond words to have to see him in the future. Has moving from your ex helped you or do you know of people who've moved to get a fresh start from their exes ? Do tell please ! Thanks guys !!
Author Mermaiden Posted September 6, 2005 Author Posted September 6, 2005 Update, OMG Im very upset right now, don't know what to do ! So get this, my ex bf, ex friend apparently got back from vacation tonight and has launched a full fledge verbal attack on both my answering machine and my cell phone. He just ran out my answering machine leaving a 10 MINUTE long message telling me why I am the worst friend ever because I wouldnt keep doing stuff for him after we stopped dating. He said I only did nice things for him while we dating because I wante dhim to marry me and because I wouldnt keep doing them as a friend it shows Im "cold, unfeeling, a user, selfish, not to trusted and a betrayer" And then he said a million other nasty little things. I dont need him launching verbal assaults on me. I dont think I should call him back. I need my phone numbers for my business so I cant easily change them. This guy is so beyond horrible, I feel freaked, I thought he was going to leave me alone at least. :( :( I would move immediately and start over somewhere else if I could, but there is no way for me to move until Spring '06
sanne Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 please don't take what i have to say harshly or too personally. for a man to think he can ask his ex-girlfriend to do his own chores for him when he has a new girlfriend already shows a profound lack of respect. this man treats you so horribly i wonder why you even bother wasting one ounce of mental energy on him. you need to distance yourself as far as you can from this man and never look back. don't walk, RUN the hell away from this loser. cut off all contact immediately. never speak to him again. move on with your life. you had hte unfortunate experience of dating a complete loser, but you don't have to put yourself through anymore misery.
Author Mermaiden Posted September 6, 2005 Author Posted September 6, 2005 please don't take what i have to say harshly or too personally. for a man to think he can ask his ex-girlfriend to do his own chores for him when he has a new girlfriend already shows a profound lack of respect. this man treats you so horribly i wonder why you even bother wasting one ounce of mental energy on him. you need to distance yourself as far as you can from this man and never look back. don't walk, RUN the hell away from this loser. cut off all contact immediately. never speak to him again. move on with your life. you had hte unfortunate experience of dating a complete loser, but you don't have to put yourself through anymore misery. one of his friends (a female one) just called me at 2 AM after he finished calling my answering machine. I dont even know this woman. She had the nerve to say I shoudl've kept helping him cause he is a great guy and that was just calling to tell me that she will be his friend (slavegirl) and will gladly help him since I 'refuse to'. Great he has another one under his demented evil hypnotic spell I calmly told his best new friend to not call me either and she's welcome to go help him all she wants. Yes Im done with any contact with him. Im moving as soon as I can also.
pippen_2k Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 This guy is an absolute dick! For real Tell him next time you talk to him, that if he leaves anymore evil messages or hounds on you, you will call the cops. No need for fools like this in your life.
Outcast Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 This guy is clearly a loon, as are his friends. You are well rid of him. Absolutely tell him if he calls again that you will contact the police. He is now guilty of harassment.
upsetnhurt Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 Do yourself a favor and keep all of these messages for quite sometime. Sounds as if this is going to get uglier and you need to start documenting a trail of behavior by this guy and his friends. No need to be scared yet better to be smart. If your answering machine is filled....go out and get another one. Please do this as I have been through it and you can't underestimate the stupidity people will do........ At the very least you should be so glad that you are not with him anymore. He saved you a ton of unhappiness far down in the future by showing you his true colors today.
Author Mermaiden Posted September 6, 2005 Author Posted September 6, 2005 Do yourself a favor and keep all of these messages for quite sometime. Sounds as if this is going to get uglier and you need to start documenting a trail of behavior by this guy and his friends. No need to be scared yet better to be smart. If your answering machine is filled....go out and get another one. Please do this as I have been through it and you can't underestimate the stupidity people will do........ Thank you, yes I already went and bought another anwering machine. One thing that disturbed me that he said on the machine was I better delete and not save any emails he ever sent me over the years. Scary control freak.
Art_Critic Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 You need to talk to the police .. Maybe even file a report and get the harrasment on record. They may then take the old answering machine as evidence and protect it.. Use your head and don't give him so much as an inch to play with. This isn't going to just go away.. you need to protect yourself from him in some fashion
Kitteney Posted September 7, 2005 Posted September 7, 2005 ... answering machine messages, voice mails, e-mails, letters, etc. you might need them later. (FYI: messages left on answering machines/voice mails are typically exempt from wire tap restrictions because the person KNEW their words were going to be recorded before they opened their mouth.) keep a journal with dates, times, who said what and how you felt (scared, nervous, anxious, sick at your stomach) as a result of the contact. and yes, moving does help. when you do move, get a post office box in a neighboring town/or another zip code within your city. submit a change of address form to the post office to have all of your mail forwarded to the po box. remember that as a part of fraud prevention, the post office sends a confirmation of the change of address to both your new and old addresses. as a result anyone you left behind will now have your new address. if it's a p.o. box, you're hidden. if it's a physical address (house/apartment), you're a sitting duck.
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