dazed343 Posted May 23, 2005 Posted May 23, 2005 I know that in a few other posts I had complaints about things that were going on in my relationship but it ended this weekend and I’m feeling so down and so sorry for myself I don't know what to do. I just want a clock that I can turn backwards. We talked late last night on the phone for sometime about things but I think all that did was bring me down further. I don't know where to start really but she has kids and me being young still (early twenties, same with her) I had allot of trouble adjusting. I know to any mother there kids come first and so because I had doubt she ended it. Another small part was that she never told me until last night was that she still has feelings for someone she dated and has been friends with for life, but that I can understand. I only dated her for 2 months, and actually I moved in with her after 2 weeks so things were going super fast. I feel so down and low because I've never really been happy in any other relationship I've had and now in a second its over and done. When we talked yesterday she said she still wants us to be close friends and hang out. At first she though it may be better if we do NC because she's having a hard time too. Were going to remain close friends but the hardest part of the talk was not being able to do anything when we are together. When I picked up my stuff from her place there was some affection but she said to me last night she doesn't want that when we see each other. She said maybe in the future she may want to kiss or go further but she doesn’t want me thinking because of that we will get back together or there is a chance of us being able to get back together. I think that’s the hardest part of it all. Some people can be friends with the other sex and do thing and both will think nothing of it like its just for fun but for me it would really screw with my emotions. Today I’m suppose to be going down to see her though I know how tough its going to be on me not being able to show affection and knowing its never going to be the same. She mentioned to me that if it’s meant to be it will be in the future but for know we have to remain friends and inside I’m killing with hurt. I’m so sad that I’ve lost her but I should be so happy that it happened.
loveisallaround Posted May 23, 2005 Posted May 23, 2005 This is tricky! I'm in (or I was) in a similar situation: A shorter relationship that in actuality was very long due to the emotional connection we developed so quickly. Simply put: You need time alone right now. I'm on solid weeks of no contact (he hasn't tried to contact me either) and I've been doing better and better everyday. Although my ex wants to be close friends - I don't think I'll be ready for that for a long time if ever. I don't want to edit him out of my life, but I'm not willing to engage in a friendship that is bound to be emotional trailmix forever. Keep strong. Keep to yourself. What should happen will happen.
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