R1PPED Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 ok this may seem like nothing to most of the post here, but any advice anyone can give or any experiences anyone wants to share wouldbe truely appreciated. ill give you the whole scoop on my situation. i met this girl about three months ago. we are both 17. she is a junior and i am a senior in highschool. one problem, i live in new york and she lives in new hampshire. to me it is not to much distnce at all. it is only a three hour trip to her house so i can bare. so anyways, i started talking to her seriously about a month or so ago. i soon realized i had deep feeling for her. we started talking and soon enough a week later i was over her house and we were making out. i asked her if she was willingn to try a long distance relationship abdf she said she wanted to take it slow and i had no problem at all with that considerign it is a first relationsihp for both of us. i went over her house for about every weekend for about 4 weeks. i couldnt have felt better. i had the girl of my dreams, smart funny energetic and sporty. i made good friends with her sisters and her parents. we all got along very well. so about a week ago, me and her were talking on the phone, this was the only weekend in september we were not together. so we were talkign and everything was going fine and then i brought up the subject of us and she told me she did not want to take the relationship any furhter. i didnt know what to say so i just agreed with what she was saying. she told me she had alot of work with school and with volleyball and work. it did take up alot of her i time i could see. so after alittle bit of useless chatter we finally hung up and i just didnt know what to do. that night i was jsut sick. i couldnt get her off my mind. i though that we could have stayeed together for longer than a month. i talked to her the next day and told her how i really felt and that i liked her soo much. she told me that she liked me also but she just had a lot of work and taht sometimes she wasnt sure of her feelings at times. she told me she needed to find herself. so i havent talked to her and it has been a week and two days since. i figured if i kept no contact up for a little while she might realize that she really does like me alot and we could get back together. im seventeen and im an extrme romantic. does anyone think that someone can be too young to want a serious relationship because i feel as though i am the only one my age who wants to find someone they truely love. i really like this girl and i am pretty sure she likes me and as her mother would say, she is just scared. i know that everyone in her family totally loves me but im having trouble figuring out if she feels the same. i really like this girl and i dont want to lose her, even though i have only had her for a month. any one with advice on what to do in this situation and what i may have done wrong, i really want this girl back. i dont look at any other girl the same way now that i met her. she is the only one that catches my eye. i guess i have gotten my mind off her in the past week but that doesnt mean i would not give anything to have her back. i really like her and she is an awesome girl and i know she meant no harm in breaking up with me. i really believe that she just needed space. do girls ever jsut need space or is that just a front they put up to get rid of someone? am i worng to believe she is sincere? i like her so much and any opinions would be appriciated. sorry for the novel up there... thanks for you input
Merin Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 I don't think you did anything wrong. In this case, it really could be she does need her space. To begin with she is still in high school (as you are) and so I'm sure she does need to be focused on school work... secondly you said she plays volleyball, so again that is keeping her busy, plus she has a job... Add to the mix that you're long distance, so pretty much the only time the two of you could spend together is on the weekends, when she may really need to be doing or concentrating on other things... Again, I want to say I don't think you personally did anything wrong... I just think she is young and has a lot going on and isn't sure right now about trying to "juggle" a relationship on top of the other responsibilities she has going on.
Author R1PPED Posted October 4, 2004 Author Posted October 4, 2004 does any one think that a first relationship can end up to be the last realtionship? in terms of going the whole way? im seventeen right now if that helps much i would not mind if that special someone ended up being my wife later in life. im not scared fo commitment at all. am i part of the minority or am i just weird? any suggestions appreciated.
Merin Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 Originally posted by R1PPED does any one think that a first relationship can end up to be the last realtionship? in terms of going the whole way? im seventeen right now if that helps much i would not mind if that special someone ended up being my wife later in life. im not scared fo commitment at all. am i part of the minority or am i just weird? any suggestions appreciated. I won't say that there aren't any "First Relationships" that have lasted... but generally speaking, no they do not last. There are several reasons... * You haven't had a lot of life experience to really know what you want. * People grow and change, and it's not always together (granted this can happen even as adults) * Often couples will feel that they missed out on being "single" and begin to wonder what else or who else might have or may be out there. Again, I'm sure that there are some that have lasted... but odd's are not in your favor.
Frylock Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 Well here's an inspirational story, I still don't know how mine will play out. I know she wants to be with me right now, but the future is a different ballpark. I don't know if it will work out in the end, but no one knows the future... I'd like it to, but I know that she will grow up and wonder about other people. Anyway. here's my story. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t49095/ Read back from the beginning (links contained in there) if you wish.
Author R1PPED Posted October 5, 2004 Author Posted October 5, 2004 thanks for the story frylock, i think friends with benefits is total B.S. Sex should have meaning behind it. not just something to fulfil human need another question. if the other person calls you is it essentially breaking no contact? how about if you only talk for a few minutes and then tell her you have to go?
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