MMBastard Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 ok, I've let go.....but it's all f'd up. Haven't contacted in a few days....and while y'all gonna go, Yup dude, that's a right thing to do.....well, screw you...go feel like I do and then go sayin' that's a right thing to do . Naaah, just joking... I know it's a right thing to do. I think this is going to be a last topic starter for me here. I'll still post replies, especially to all you girls wandering why men (or MM) do things they do, how they feel, yadiyadiyada. Hopefully a male perspective helps (especially with first hand experience). I'm also gonna use this thread to reply to some posts in my other threads since they're getting quite large now. First and foremost - my favorite poster EnigmaXOXO: One of your threads helped me the most, even though it was the harshest one I got out here. Initally, I thought of you as a manhater but, i truly enjoy seeing such opinionated posts..... While you might be aiming at a sobering effect through your posts...some might actually be ready for such straightforwardness. Your views are very healthy, however, your judgment might not be.....most people don't come here to be judged - they get plenty of that in their communities, from their friends and family...... BTW love the Navajo and Senneca sayings. To Karlise, KissMyTiara, Butchey, MrSpock, Merin and naive2001: Nice to see a sense of camaraderie out here, and I think your posts greatly do help everyone out here. I wish you all the best with whatever you're going through..... I enjoyed your perspective. To whichwayisup, otherwomen and g_tabatha: thx for being kind. That was cool and a welcome break.....Good Luck. And finally...................ssssss: I AM SO SORRY, truly am. When you understand I'm not blaming you for absolutely anything, you'll understand me. 4:52. You think you're a player and that you broke my heart but I knew your game right from the start. I saw your game and I played it too, so laugh stupid player cause the game's on you! is quite contrasting to I had no idea how mad and dissapointed I was until I read all this I know you just a bit better than that. You're a wonderful girl and again I'm sorry. The "sick" reason for inviting you here was only, and only, because this place has truly opened my eyes to certain things and it helped. I'm glad it helped you as well. And to answer some questions in regards to my (still) wife,her knowing of all this....... My wife knows about ssssss for several months now, and we have talked countless hours about the entire thing. We've always been able to communicate....even when **** gets tough. WE've even seen a marriage counselor (obligatory here when you're filing and your child is less than one year old) and it helped us understand the reasons for **** in our marriage. Aside from these reasons, it is apparent that love has left the building. We had five years prior to getting married in which we spent the entire time together (literally sharing every moment...even at work for a while). Neither of us has gone out with friends for 5 years.....and we just killed it. We still communicate, spend time with our kid, but it isn't even remotely where it was. And just to be safe......I don't want anyone saying "well yeah, but that's normal, things turn into that after a while...". We are very aware of that, but if we can't be 100% to each other it's just a matter of time something like this happens again. We both agree we'll give our all to our kid....as she is a world to both of us. And as far as ssssss goes......she was the only person who managed to change my perspectives in life. I mentioned already that my convictions were solid as a rock prior to meeting her. All I wanted in life was a successful career, a family and a house with a yard where my kid would play. Ssssss showed me so many new things, showed me there's more to life than just work, work, work, and showed me I was 27 rather than 77 . Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to run away from my responsibilities.....I'm very aware of them. OK, gonna go now. Even though I'm probably one of the few men out here........thanks you guys, You've been tremendous help. Wish y'all all the best. P.S. I just gotta remark on the general MM sindrome again. I was thinking about this in my car today........while (again) most will never leave their wives........I thought of my dad as an example. He had an OW for about five or six years....during which time he continued living at home (my mom knewabout this). Today they're married and have a kid and are quite happy. So, what I'm basically saying is, his OW knew how to handle him, handle the situation. She judged him as a person and stood by him. Conclusion,......you all (to a very large extent) know your MMs.......appraise the situation and if there is hope.....don't give up. You're defeated only, and only then when you've given up trying.
whichwayisup Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 WOW MMB, quite a post there! I think you're doing the right thing, put all your energy right now into your child. She is the most important person right now and deserves all the love and happiness she can get!!! All kids have to have that. Interesting, this whole thing with you and ssssss. I hope you both are able to heal and move on, as well as your exwife. Just sad that a little girl got caught up in the middle of it cuz in the end no matter what pain you, sss and your wife feel, she has lost her safe environment, security and a chance of two parents together bringing her up. Yes there is more to life than work. Just too bad it took this to make you see that. NO regrets cuz obviously you needed something like that to happen, to open your eyes and change you. Some things just happen and it's maybe best to ride it out until it's ready to stop. Can apply that into any situation of why things happen! Or who you meet and why. Have a good one!
Author MMBastard Posted September 20, 2004 Author Posted September 20, 2004 i just saw meanon on the members list and remembered I forgot to thank her? in my thread.................thx, your posts were amazing.....thx again
Merin Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 MM, Crap! I haven't kept up on the thread you had orginally posted regarding your situation... from this post I'm assuming you asked your girl to check it out? Well, anyway... IF nothing else you've learned it is so unfortunate that it had to be at the expense of other people and at your own expense in pain... costly isn't it? I give you credit where it is due regarding your little person... thank God you've got your head on there. Regardless of who else comes into your life, or leaves it for that matter... little people are forever:) So I applaud you in seeing that and doing what you need to do to make sure she is okay. One of the best pieces of advise I've ever been given in my life came from my Dad... Be True to yourself... I really believe that IF you do that, eventually you will find yourself exactly where you're meant to be. Good Luck to you, and take care of your lil angel.
ssssss Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 Originally posted by MMBastard And finally...................ssssss: I AM SO SORRY, truly am. When you understand I'm not blaming you for absolutely anything, you'll understand me [color=blue]You have no idea...about anything...the only thing you really know is how to lie...but I'm used to that...does it really matter anymore??? it doesn't, but I hope that one day you'll understand what you did and how many people you f***** up in the process...and one more thing - I was ready to "fight the wars" for you! but you just had to f*** up everything, right? cause life was too boring for you. you know what? I'll get over you eventually, I already did in a way, but you...you'll understand one day, hopefully, what you had, and what you don't have anymore cause of your sick mind...and you'll have to live your f***** up life knowing you had someone who cared about you so much that even all of your lies, manipulation and all the **** that you did to me didn't matter cause I loved you so much that I had put myself on the last place and you as my priority... If you're wondering when - every time I was with you, you lied to me, and I still kept coming back...I will find someone who is capable of giving me 100% of himself...cause that's what I deserve. I never ever wanna be the second in anyones life. and don't expect me to say 'hello' when I see you cause it hurts too much knowing that the only person for who I thought that he's "the one" is the person who hurt me the most...never forget that...and whenever you wanna send me sms, e-mail or whatever, just remember what I think when I see you - the biggest disappointment of my life!!! you don't have to divorce your wife, leave the house or whatever (though I really don't believe you ever would)...not for me...cause if you really wanted me and loved me, you'd do it yourself without me begging you to do that... see, I'm a bit smarter too since reading some of the posts here...thanks to all the people who cared enough to answer even though they've never seen me...isn't it interesting that you had to come here to find out how I feel about what you did from the people you've never seen... thanks to everyone for sharing their opinions...[/color] [color=red]"May the Lord bless you and protect you, may the Lord's face radiate with you because of you, may HE be gracious to you, show you His favor and give you His peace." Numbers 6:24-26[/color]
Author MMBastard Posted September 21, 2004 Author Posted September 21, 2004 This is one of the rare times in life where I'm speechless (you know this does not happen to me).....................I wish I realized...................F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K,F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K, F**K.....................
Papillon Posted September 21, 2004 Posted September 21, 2004 You dumbass. How could you let Jennifer Hewitt down like that? Sheesh...some men get all the luck and then bust it up
Author MMBastard Posted September 21, 2004 Author Posted September 21, 2004 I know....................well you see JLH to me is one of the best looking people in the world......and i once told her she reminded me of her so much.....................AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
ladyangel Posted September 21, 2004 Posted September 21, 2004 ssssss - I'm sorry to hear about what you've been through. Hold your ground; you will be glad you did. You will look back on this as a learning experience and something to make you better able to make the right decisions in the future. I wish you the best. Do yourself a favor and go out and get this book: 50 Ways to Let Go and Be Happy: Happiness Is the Best Revenge by Chuck Spezzano. Get your revenge...be happy.
ssssss Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 Originally posted by MMBastard VT Ha, ovo smo nas 2 oko tebe a ti jadnicak u sredini, ni sam ne znas koju volis...interesting!!!
Author MMBastard Posted September 22, 2004 Author Posted September 22, 2004 a jooj nemoj me j..... ubit cu seeee....nemos ni nesto lijepo napisat da ne dobijes po picki.....gle ovdje se moze na 'rvatskom psovat kolko 'oces i nitko ne zna......................VI STE SVI KURVINI SINOVI.......nema cenzure sorry for the language change again folks....we'll stop floodin' the board with it.......
ssssss Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 Originally posted by MMBastard a jooj nemoj me j..... ubit cu seeee....nemos ni nesto lijepo napisat da ne dobijes po picki.....gle ovdje se moze na 'rvatskom psovat kolko 'oces i nitko ne zna......................VI STE SVI KURVINI SINOVI.......nema cenzure covjece, postao si tako romantican da si jednostavno neodoljiv.....strasno!!!!!!!!!!!! samo sam komentirala ono sto si sam "napisao"! jel se moga ja zaliti na tu tuzbu i sta mi sve treba za to? rekli su mi da probam nesto kemijati da mi treba vozacka jer putujem u Vz. na fax. a link je samo provokacija na tvoj avatar!
Papillon Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 I'm gonna sound like Dave1234, but here goes sssssss: Ha hah , this smo us 2 about you and you miserable woman mid , nor unattended does not znas koju volis. interesting!!! MMBastard: and jooj nemoj me j. deleterious cu seeee. nemos nor nesto nicely write down lest dobijes per picki. gle hereunder does moze at an 'rvatskom inveigh against kolko 'oces plus nullify does not zna. YOU STE ALL WHORE Synod. does not have censorship sssssss: covjece , limited space them so that romanticism yes we do them simply irresistible. zest!!!!!!!!!!! merely unattended comment out it hundred them unattended " written "! jel does could I suffuse at an here tuzbu plus sta we whole is required for it? she said have been we yes we do trial nesto chemistry yes we do we is required freight because vagrant into a Vz. at an fax. and linker had merely provocation at an yours avatar!
DerangedAngel Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 Yeah. Sure. I totally follow. Zest! -DA
Papillon Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 I'm never gonna watch Jamie Oliver with a straight face again
DerangedAngel Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 I'm never gonna watch Jamie Oliver with a straight face again You mean you've watched him with a straight face before?! -DA
Author MMBastard Posted September 22, 2004 Author Posted September 22, 2004 Darn it, nothing important........we were just saying how cuss words in Croatian don't get censored and we can cuss all we want.................happy?
DerangedAngel Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 happy? Oh, very much so. Thanks. -DA
Papillon Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 Oh for zestsakes! I've zested it all up! I need a gorgeous woman to zest my brains out!
DerangedAngel Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 limited space them so that romanticism yes we do them simply irresistible. zest!!!!!!!!!!! I have that zesting 80's song in my head. She's so fine... there's no tellin' where my money went... da da da... and blah blah... Simply irresistible! -DA
Papillon Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 Peter Gabriel? Oh no - you evil woman! It's stuck in my head now too! Quick, Winamp, bring me some relief! Hmmm....what'll it be? Ah..."Great big lie - The Tea Party"
Author MMBastard Posted September 22, 2004 Author Posted September 22, 2004 it's robert palmer, not peter gabriel..............what has this thread turned into..................
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