troubledwaters Posted May 16, 2004 Posted May 16, 2004 we've been going out for about 4 months, too soon to conclude what he's like but im so confused.I now regret making the first move on him, i really thought he's a nice guy.... now i think not. Its hard for me to understand my man coz he seldom calls me.... sometimes once in 10-20 days but according to him, he's trying his best. we live and work half an hour away from each other and yet we hardly meet. One thing i do know is that his social life is active with lots of friends, im hardly invited to follow. he's wonderful when we're on dates but that's the only time i have his attention. he never picks up my calls or texts me back. in other words he's never there for me. his best friend works with me, who introduced us 3 years ago, always asks me about him over lunch and tea and i'd just smile and give little comments like "oh i have not talk to him in a while" but i'd never elaborate on full details of my relationship with my man. his best friend surely talks with him over drinks bout 'us' and all. he gives me the impression that our relationship is okay and that my man is so so so busy and has no time for me. Now he's totally ignoring all my calls and messages. The last thing he said to me in a text message two weeks ago was that his work is a priority for him, he knows we have not been spending time together much, he feels he's selfish (didnt indicate if he wants to change) and that he didnt want to do that to me. "the didnt want to do that to me" part..... is that my hint that he's dumped me coz i sure looks like it. since he doesnt wanna talk to me or try to resolve this on either phone or face to face, if i can find the strength to move on, can he question or blame me? I'm just dont find a point in calling till he picks up, or like waiting 20 days is not enough should i give it 20 more. i dont believe he's the kind who'll sleep around, but you'll never know. Im sick and tired and i want out! Now i have to deal with letting go of all my feelings for him. It's tough. I cried so much for this guy before i can laugh enough with him, you know what i mean.
MrsSandman Posted May 16, 2004 Posted May 16, 2004 this happened with my ex ex b/f.he went ignoring for like 2 weeks.i thought he just wanted his space til my friends told me he was going out with another girl.i suggest u ask him straight up what shi problem is.don't wait out on it
Fancy Posted May 16, 2004 Posted May 16, 2004 What could you possibly be gaining from this relationship? Absolutely nothing from where I sit. Clearly you're a verrrrrry low priority in this guy's life. Why waste another second sitting around waiting for him to call? If a guy wants to be with you he finds the time. Period. He claims his work is a priority, yet he still finds time to get together with his friends. But not with you. Read the writing on the wall. You need to ditch this whole idea and focus on finding someone who's willing and able to spend time with you and to see you more than once every 3 weeks. The longer you remain in this situation, the worse you're going to feel about yourself.
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