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PhillyDude Established Member

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Now it's easy to be depressed right now but I am going to be strong and stay positive. I was not expecting to see so many of my friends posting about their girlfriend in one day. I am happy for all of them even though I sit in my drawls alone.

 

So I plan to stay up to 4am in the morning to figure this dating out so I can be with someone in a couple months.

 

 

 

Anyone else in this situations? All your friends are happy and involved while you are single?

 

 

BTW: Remind me not to go on Facebook on Valentine' Day

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KungFuJoe Established Member

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I was gonna send you a friend invite....but then I though I better not......

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Green Light Established Member

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Stay far away from Facebook! It can only bring you down in times like these.

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PhillyDude Established Member

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I am so pissed right now, my entire face is HOT and too mad to go to sleep.

 

 

I will get this figured out, if I have to stay up all night. I can figure everything else out except this dating mess.

 

I figured out how to do Algebra

 

I figured out how to do fractions

 

I figured how to write term papers

 

I pass all my courses in college and got my degree

 

 

 

Why the hell is this dating mess so complicated?? WHY??

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KungFuJoe Established Member

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I am so pissed right now, my entire face is HOT and too mad to go to sleep.

 

 

I will get this figured out, if I have to stay up all night. I can figure everything else out except this dating mess.

 

I figured out how to do Algebra

 

I figured out how to do fractions

 

I figured how to write term papers

 

I pass all my courses in college and got my degree

 

 

 

Why the hell is this dating mess so complicated?? WHY??

 

Algebra? C'mon...everyone knows chicks only dig dudes who can do Calculus!

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Couple of choices here. You could go the "Manti Te'o" route and get yourself one of those fake girlfriends. Or, you could go on facebook and brag about how life is great being single because you have all the freedom in the world (despite this not being true).

 

Your choice of course.

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mesmerized Established Member

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Don't go on facebook, problem solved.

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And I think the picture of my friend with him and his girl kissing each other as his primary facebook picture was kind of goofy

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maybe you can focus that rage into improving yourself. ****ty players don't win championships.

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PhillyDude Established Member

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maybe you can focus that rage into improving yourself. ****ty players don't win championships.

 

 

You right about that

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maybe you can focus that rage into improving yourself. ****ty players don't win championships.

 

I don't know about that. They still give a Super Bowl ring to the punter....

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Now it's easy to be depressed right now but I am going to be strong and stay positive. I was not expecting to see so many of my friends posting about their girlfriend in one day. I am happy for all of them even though I sit in my drawls alone.

 

So I plan to stay up to 4am in the morning to figure this dating out so I can be with someone in a couple months.

 

 

 

Anyone else in this situations? All your friends are happy and involved while you are single?

 

 

BTW: Remind me not to go on Facebook on Valentine' Day

 

There's nothing wrong with being single, aka a loner. I fit that bill perfectly and have just finished up with the 2 women I've been messing with. I've come to realize that I just don't need them anymore. Find happiness from within. You don't need an annoying dame to fulfill it. And believe me, they're all annoying these days. ;)

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MrCastle Established Member

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You're looking at the boyfriend/girlfriend scenario through rose colored glasses. Some things are cool about it. Some things suck.

 

Some of those guys had to watch magic mike, have to tag along shopping while a football game is on, have to explain every female friend they add on facebook--how they met her and what her function is in their life, if they want to hang with friends they have to get the ok from their SO first.

 

I can go on and on. Bottom line, nothing in life is perfect. Right now your problem is lack of intimacy. But once you get it, you'll be faced with other kinds of bs you're not currently facing. Be happy for that.

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You're looking at the boyfriend/girlfriend scenario through rose colored glasses. Some things are cool about it. Some things suck.

 

Some of those guys had to watch magic mike, have to tag along shopping while a football game is on, have to explain every female friend they add on facebook--how they met her and what her function is in their life, if they want to hang with friends they have to get the ok from their SO first.

 

I can go on and on. Bottom line, nothing in life is perfect. Right now your problem is lack of intimacy. But once you get it, you'll be faced with other kinds of bs you're not currently facing. Be happy for that.

 

Well, None of these things applied to the relationships I've had. I highly doubt any woman would make her boyfriend watch magic mike or go shopping when a football game is on. You have a pretty bad idea of how relationships are :laugh:

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Well, None of these things applied to the relationships I've had. I highly doubt any woman would make her boyfriend watch magic mike or go shopping when a football game is on. You have a pretty bad idea of how relationships are :laugh:

 

No, because I know of men who have had to do such things. I don't base what I believe on silly storylines in sitcoms, I look at what my friends are actually going through.

 

Either way, relationships are all about compromise.

 

Relationships = I can do some things I like to do, but also have to do some things I may not like. I also have to ask permission to do certain things.

 

Singledom = I can do whatever I want.

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You have to realize that 2/3 of the stuff you see on FB is not reality... or a distorted version of reality. Lots of people present a idealized version of themselves on FB. Everything is wonderful, perfect, never a problem.

 

If these are friends who never post about a bad event, bad luck or a bad day then they are BSing you to some extent.

 

Odds are they are not as happy as they say they are.

 

Be that as it may they have GF's and BF's. When it really gets bad is when they start getting engaged and married off. At that point you will loose your friends, as they will start to only be friends with other similar couples...then couples with children about the age of their children.

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Relationships = I can do some things I like to do, but also have to do some things I may not like. I also have to ask permission to do certain things.

 

Singledom = I can do whatever I want.

 

If by being able to only do SOME things that you like, implying that you have to cut out the having sex with multiple people then you place too much importance on that and you shouldn't be in a relationship for as long as you think like that.

 

In other words if you enter into a relationship and truly miss having sex with more than one person then do not be in a relationship.

 

(Not speaking to you Castle, but the you in general)

 

People do things all the time that they may not like but it helps them grow and expand their mind.

 

I personally have never needed permission to do something. Relationships like that involve at least one insecure person and they shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with.

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How many of the women they are going out with would you have as a gf? Did they settle for the sake of not being single? From your OP in regards to having a deadline...that's a great way to end up in a relationship where you settled just for the sake of not being lonely. Okay in the short term I guess. I agree with the others who say stay off FB for a while. It can suck when all your buddies are in relationships. Try to catch up with them regularly (drop in at their place or hang out with then (not just FB)) so you don't get cut out of their life when they get wrapped up in couple land.

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If by being able to only do SOME things that you like, implying that you have to cut out the having sex with multiple people then you place too much importance on that and you shouldn't be in a relationship for as long as you think like that.

 

In other words if you enter into a relationship and truly miss having sex with more than one person then do not be in a relationship.

 

(Not speaking to you Castle, but the you in general)

 

People do things all the time that they may not like but it helps them grow and expand their mind.

 

I personally have never needed permission to do something. Relationships like that involve at least one insecure person and they shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with.

 

With the right person, I could limit myself to one partner sexually, no problem. It's the freedom issue that's a problem, and yes, it does come up on occasion.

 

You can't do the same things you can when you're single and have no one to answer to as you do when you have a commitment to someone. You just can't. It's not two single people living separate lives. It's two people involved in one relationship, and takes sacrifices and compromises from both sides to have a healthy one. Something I'm not ready for at this point in time.

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You can't do the same things you can when you're single and have no one to answer to as you do when you have a commitment to someone. You just can't. It's not two single people living separate lives. It's two people involved in one relationship, and takes sacrifices and compromises from both sides to have a healthy one. Something I'm not ready for at this point in time.

 

Besides the casual sex what things are you unable to do in a relationship but can when single?

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Besides the casual sex what things are you unable to do in a relationship but can when single?

 

It's not solely the stuff I touched on before in my previous posts but also the time being spent. It's another person cutting into your time. Most of my friends, when they enter a new relationship, I don't hear from them for a month or so. Every ounce of free time they have is spent with their SO. Which I understand. But right now, being focused on school and career, I like to spend my free time doing things I want, when I want. A girl is just going to be another person to cut into my free time, and understandably so. And in that time spent, we're gonna be doing things she likes, that I may not necessarily like, and vice versa. You just can't put relationships on hold. That's a recipe for problems/failure. Look at all the threads made here by people whose SO's put school or work ahead of spending time with them, the relationship isn't getting nurtured.

 

Like I said, you are committing to someone. When you're single, you have no commitments or responsibilities, and right now that makes more sense for me.

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Pyro Established Member

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It's not solely the stuff I touched on before in my previous posts but also the time being spent. It's another person cutting into your time. Most of my friends, when they enter a new relationship, I don't hear from them for a month or so. Every ounce of free time they have is spent with their SO. Which I understand. But right now, being focused on school and career, I like to spend my free time doing things I want, when I want. A girl is just going to be another person to cut into my free time, and understandably so. And in that time spent, we're gonna be doing things she likes, that I may not necessarily like, and vice versa. You just can't put relationships on hold. That's a recipe for problems/failure. Look at all the threads made here by people whose SO's put school or work ahead of spending time with them, the relationship isn't getting nurtured.

 

Like I said, you are committing to someone. When you're single, you have no commitments or responsibilities, and right now that makes more sense for me.

 

When you hang with friends they too are cutting into your me time and you have to compromise when making plans with them.

 

The key is to find someone whom you have much in common with so when they want to do something or suggest something, then it is something that you are excited to do and you don't look at it as having to do what they want to do as if it is a chore.

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Besides the casual sex what things are you unable to do in a relationship but can when single?

 

Even just having to answer their texts/calls, to inform them where you are or where you will be, to plan your weekends with them in mind...For freedom oriented people, it feels like a leash around your neck.

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Even just having to answer their texts/calls, to inform them where you are or where you will be, to plan your weekends with them in mind...For freedom oriented people, it feels like a leash around your neck.

 

Answering calls or texts is a chore?

 

Yes you need to let them know where you plan on being as that is common courtesy when in a relationship. That shouldn't be a chore either.

 

Weekends usually involve spending time with friends and your SO is a friend so how is that a chore?

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the grass always looks greener on the other side, mate, don't sweat it.

people who post pics of themselves and their SO totally inlove are so silly... because most relationships end tits up, at some point... and you will know it, I will know it, all of your friends will know it, the moment the lovey dovey pics don't show up anymore.

 

God forbid that person cheated or treated them poorly - the whole FB universe will find out. You may be jealous of them now... but you won't want to be in their shoes later.

 

My rule number 1 of fb: NEVER EVER put pics in a romantic posture, it's like a contest against myself... and one of us will lose, in the end.

 

Focus on yourself and on being happy. Trust me, your mates are just as green with envy when you put pics of you and your friends with hot chicks around, always different girls, always cute, at various events, in various places, because you are your own master. Don't idealize relationships and do enjoy this stage of your life of singlehood, it's cool, it'll carve your personality.

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