jobaba Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 Somebody describe this feeling to me? And how could you get it after meeting somebody for 2 and a half hours, half of which has been spent pigging out on your Braised Short Ribs with Brown Turkey Figs and Creme Brulee. Don't get me wrong. I have fallen trap to all the other sucker feelings of romance such as crushes, love and emotional attachment, but butterflies I'm not sure of. So describe...
ShannonMI Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 Somebody describe this feeling to me? And how could you get it after meeting somebody for 2 and a half hours, half of which has been spent pigging out on your Braised Short Ribs with Brown Turkey Figs and Creme Brulee. Don't get me wrong. I have fallen trap to all the other sucker feelings of romance such as crushes, love and emotional attachment, but butterflies I'm not sure of. So describe... It feels like your stomach is filled with literal butterflies. Or like a nervous stomach. Have you ever had that? Not the type that makes you sh*t your brains out, but just the flippy floppy kind. It's a good feeling:p
Nexus One Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 It feels like your stomach area is being tickled from the inside and the tickling feels like a multitude of butterflies are flying inside of you and tickling you with their flapping wings.
iris219 Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 Butterflies are an involuntary physical reaction to intense attraction. I got them for my ex from across a room and I still get flutters sometimes when I run into him, even though I don’t want to be with him. With him, it’s something to do with pheromones. When I run into him I sometimes have this urge to smell his hair, though I never desire sex with him anymore. Butterflies aren’t always immediate, but I don’t need to hours to decide whether or not I feel intense attraction, and it goes beyond just finding someone physically attractive. And while they are nice, I don't think they're necessary for a starting a relationship.
Soxfaninfl Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 The butterflies only last for a certain amount of time. It varies with each relationship.
El Brujo Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 It feels like you've swallowed a live octopus. A very pissed-off one.
kaylan Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 butterflies = loads of chemistry created by a great amount of attraction. Read this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t311527/
chryssy83 Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 I LOVE butterflies. I have to feel them to get into a relationship, I think.....love them.
spice4life Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 You know that feeling you get in your stomach when you drive over small hill or dip in the road? That's the butterfly feeling. Another way to describe it is what a kid feels thinking about all the toys they are going to get as they are laying in bed on Christmas Eve.
TheFinalWord Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 Somebody describe this feeling to me? And how could you get it after meeting somebody for 2 and a half hours, half of which has been spent pigging out on your Braised Short Ribs with Brown Turkey Figs and Creme Brulee. Don't get me wrong. I have fallen trap to all the other sucker feelings of romance such as crushes, love and emotional attachment, but butterflies I'm not sure of. So describe... I've only had it one time. When I was in the girl's presence I couldn't think straight and my body literally shook. It is a good feeling I hope to have it again someday. Unfortunately, the girl didn't like me It was one of those feelings that I had to say something to her, even though I estimated I only had a 5% chance of success. Better to know and not live with regrets!
Woggle Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 It sounds like something that would make me take some Pepto Bismo.
lululucy Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 It sounds like something that would make me take some Pepto Bismo. hahaha The happy butterflies feel a lot like nervous butterflies that I get when I'm anxious or about to do something nerve-wracking. But the happy, boy-related ones make me happier than the anxiety ones I don't know that they ever go away in my experience, not until I fall out of love with someone. I've never had butterflies for someone I haven't fallen in love with.
DirtyDancing Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 The best description of butterflies I can give is this: your stomach flips and turns (I like the swallowing a live octopus reference)! Shaky knees and increased heart rate. Ahh.. it's wonderful...
Woggle Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 This description doesn't sound so wonderful. It sounds like food poisoning.
carhill Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 Since it is a rare occurrence for myself, and in marked contrast to the anecdotes offered, I find it to be a marked serenity, as if discrete aspects of the person meld into one vision. I recall mentioning one time that it was like I could see their entire life. I recall, in one instance, where such an initial perception later melded into what apparently is being described by others and, ultimately, that dynamic proved to be quite unhealthy for myself. My mistake was thinking the initial serenity, followed by the 'butterflies' in the abdomen, was a sign of progression, rather than my instincts telling me that my initial impression was erroneous. I confirmed this decades later with another similar occurrence, but with professional help in the interim to better see the dynamic and accept it for what it was. One data point....
grkBoy Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 It's all just deep lust. The problem IMHO is too many REQUIRE this so much that they easily get played by those who are able to make that feeling happen in anyone.
pandagirl Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 The men I've ended up having the deepest feelings for did not start out with fireworks. Yes, there was attraction and excitement, but there was also a comfortable feeling and peace that made me feel confident and self-assured around them. I associate butterflies more with lustful crushes.
Author jobaba Posted January 4, 2012 Author Posted January 4, 2012 It feels like your stomach is filled with literal butterflies. Or like a nervous stomach. Have you ever had that? Not the type that makes you sh*t your brains out, but just the flippy floppy kind. It's a good feeling:p Can't say I have. And I'm glad. It's all just deep lust. The problem IMHO is too many REQUIRE this so much that they easily get played by those who are able to make that feeling happen in anyone. Yea. That's what is sounds like to me. Another symptom of a crush. I understand why people need that lust to start a relationship. But it's been nothing but trouble for me. As far as your second comment, I've learned one thing over the past year or so. The PUA tactics have a LOT more effectiveness than people give them credit for. There's so many women posters on online forums who depend on emotions to make their decisions. Spot on bro...
Feelin Frisky Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 (edited) "Butterflies" is the release of "fight or flight" adrenline by the brain in response to social exposure on a personal level to unknown outcomes of immediately subsequent actions or interactions. Yes, there are some folks who use the term to imply the "sparks of attraction" but more often than not, butterflies means tension in the gut, flushing of the face and ears with blood (blushing), and sometimes shaking hands and quivering voice--giving off the appearance of abject terror. It's a horrible, horrible feeling to me and I'm so glad my anti-depressant just happens to have cured me of it entirely (or at least while I continue to take it which will likely be forever--why mess with success?). The "sparks of attaction" may also involve some release of adrenline but it's very different than social anxiety that most people usually think of as butterflies (except apparetnly for the several Love Shackers who have posted before me saying how wonderful the feeling is). Edited January 4, 2012 by Feelin Frisky
silvermercy Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 "Butterflies" is the release of "fight or flight" adrenline by the brain in response to social exposure on a personal level to unknown outcomes of immediately subsequent actions or interactions. Yes, there are some folks who use the term to imply the "sparks of attraction" but more often than not, butterflies means tension in the gut, flushing of the face and ears with blood (blushing), and sometimes shaking hands and quivering voice--giving off the appearance of abject terror. It's a horrible, horrible feeling to me and I'm so glad my anti-depressant just happens to have cured me of it entirely (or at least while I continue to take it which will likely be forever--why mess with success?). The "sparks of attaction" may also involve some release of adrenline but it's very different than social anxiety that people usually think of as butterflies. A bit too clinical for my liking. And I work in the medical field. lol
Feelin Frisky Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 A bit too clinical for my liking. And I work in the medical field. lol The truth is what it is. It's not little magic fairies doing the macarena in your tummy--it's adrenaline doing a number on your central nervous system.
silvermercy Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 The truth is what it is. It's not little magic fairies doing the macarena in your tummy--it's adrenaline doing a number on your central nervous system. I would like to think there is something more than just brain chemicals when two people fall in love. If you break it down like that, you just won't go far in dating or in love or whatever else you want.
Imajerk17 Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 I would like to think there is something more than just brain chemicals when two people fall in love. If you break it down like that, you just won't go far in dating or in love or whatever else you want. I think FeelingFrisky nailed it. Sorry ladies, but there's no Magic Fairy (or Universe or whatever) who brought the two of you together because It Was Just Meant To Be.
silvermercy Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 I think FeelingFrisky nailed it. Sorry ladies, but there's no Magic Fairy (or Universe or whatever) who brought the two of you together because It Was Just Meant To Be. Then you won't go far either. lol I can always send you both some spare oxytocin supplies we have in our lab. Encased in beautiful colored vials of your choice.
carhill Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 An interesting dichotomy to ponder is, for those who have experienced it, the differences between 'butterflies' (whatever the individual's perception of those are) which are immediately experienced upon exposure to the other individual and those which are experienced at some point in time far beyond that initial exposure. Where do those come from? When we read the stories of someone 'falling in love' with their best friend (and it being mutual), how does that butterfly process work? How did those people wake up one day and perceive each other differently than they did only the day before? While describing and analyzing the human experience can be a fascinating journey of discovery, the fun and true gift IMO is *living* it. Falling in love and those butterflies are part of the gift; a gift some people have never experienced. Regardless of the outcome, such is a gift I would wish upon anyone.
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