ZimboGon Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 (edited) Well, its been a month since the breakup. We dated for 16 months. We had a wonderful relationship, and i was always sweet and romantic to her, and she always seemed happy. Towards the end because of work and such, we started to see each other less, and someone had developed feelings for her. Because our feelings were fading, she started lying and talking to him, and she ended up leaving me for him. The guy played her like a card, though. I'm just wondering if she'll ever come back. I saw something in her i haven't seen in anyone else, and i saw a future. She's currently dating this jerk... But i know at one point in our relationship she loved me, i made her happy. I shielded her from her judgemental and harsh family and i protected her. I guess when i found out about the other guy confessing his feelings to her, i started to get very protective of her and she found it controlling, and we split up. The problem is, we had a pretty nasty break-up. She was being very cold and rude to me, lying about the break-up to people and spreading rumors, and i didn't take it well. I think the last thing i said to her before i blocked her was something along the lines of... "Whats happening to you? Why are you turning into a B****?" Anywaaays, there is this girl i've been friends with for years. I've always had a thing for her, and when i was with my ex she knew it and she would never let me talk to her. Now that i'm single, my feelings for this girl have started up again. But... I still love my ex. I'm in the middle of NC with her, i've blocked her on FB and everything, hoping one day she'll come back. Edited December 9, 2011 by ZimboGon
kkammon Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 It's possible she'll find out she made a mistake, crazier things have happened, but hopefully you're moved on by then. You deserve someone that couldn't imagine leaving you, not someone like her. Who cares if you called her a bitch, she was being one by the sounds of it! Honestly, it's only been a month. Lick your wounds, heal, and move on - if you know what's best for you. Do you want to be walked all over forever, cuz that's what she'll do if you ever take gher back. A life of this girl making you feel less than enough. Trust me, she's no good.
mike588 Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 Well, its been a month since the breakup. We dated for 16 months. We had a wonderful relationship, and i was always sweet and romantic to her, and she always seemed happy. Towards the end because of work and such, we started to see each other less, and someone had developed feelings for her. Because our feelings were fading, she started lying and talking to him, and she ended up leaving me for him. The guy played her like a card, though. I'm just wondering if she'll ever come back. I saw something in her i haven't seen in anyone else, and i saw a future. She's currently dating this jerk... But i know at one point in our relationship she loved me, i made her happy. I shielded her from her judgemental and harsh family and i protected her. I guess when i found out about the other guy confessing his feelings to her, i started to get very protective of her and she found it controlling, and we split up. The problem is, we had a pretty nasty break-up. She was being very cold and rude to me, lying about the break-up to people and spreading rumors, and i didn't take it well. I think the last thing i said to her before i blocked her was something along the lines of... "Whats happening to you? Why are you turning into a B****?" Anywaaays, there is this girl i've been friends with for years. I've always had a thing for her, and when i was with my ex she knew it and she would never let me talk to her. Now that i'm single, my feelings for this girl have started up again. But... I still love my ex. I'm in the middle of NC with her, i've blocked her on FB and everything, hoping one day she'll come back. Be careful not to use this new girl as your "emotional bandaid" to get over your ex. because you are still in love with your ex. What would you do,3,, 6 months later with the new girl if your ex. decided to come back? I know what you would do,, you would dump the new girl breaking her heart and causing her so much pain. Don't use this new girl as a distraction,,, go very very slow with her.
stunned8165 Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 Be careful not to use this new girl as your "emotional bandaid" to get over your ex. because you are still in love with your ex. What would you do,3,, 6 months later with the new girl if your ex. decided to come back? I know what you would do,, you would dump the new girl breaking her heart and causing her so much pain. Don't use this new girl as a distraction,,, go very very slow with her. Sounds like thats what happened to you huh?.. That's why I don't like rebounds. My ex went from me to him with no resolve time. You know as well as I do, feeling are going to resurface once the honey moon dies down. In my case, I think that is starting to happen. But like wilsonX says, or who ever it was, I will except nothing less than crawling on her hands and knees in broken glass.. And I am going to the broken glass has to be over a bed of hot caols to that!
Author ZimboGon Posted December 10, 2011 Author Posted December 10, 2011 Well... I wouldn't take advantage of this girl. I really do like her, i was just madly in love with my ex. I was willing to do whatever i could for her. I got to the point where i cared about her well-being more than myself. But i have also promised myself to be done with her, unless she contacts me and she seems sincere enough for me to know she will try and commit and not hurt me again. If she doesn't contact me, i won't look back. I can't after everything. However, if i was dating this girl and i did hear back from my ex... I don't know what i would do.
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