Need some serious about this breakup thats been on my mind for awhile

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OK! So I've been dating this girl for over a year now until we broke up in the beginning of November... After the breakup she wanted too be " Friends with Romantic Interest " I asked her what the heck was that ?" And she didn't give me a Response.. So I asked a few friends of mines and hers they said its FWB. So now in my mind I'm confused because she always told me how she hated pervert guys and guys who were into her body and not her.

 

Any who! So Let me go back a to what was said during the breakup -_-! She said to me that I was too 1.) nice, and 2.) she felt I needed to be with someone more family Oriented, and 4.) be there for me when I need them and 5.) that I was too romantic and on top of it all she stated I was too good for her!. (( What a load of BS in my book)) . As Much as I tried to convince her to stay and be with me and that she was good enough for me she didn't seem affected by it. Plus in a way she seem like she was kinda enjoying it and playing some game or something because she had some small grin on her face which really ticked me off for the most part.

 

 

Note: I thought and wonder to myself if she was even listening to any of the words she was spitting out because for one she has strong family values and she always been there for me.. ( Don't even know why I wasted my time.... Love I suppose )

 

A few days later after she suggested the whole Friends with Interest I couldn't go through with that nor did I agree to it So she wanted to be just friends I Said " OK "... So we are at work one day and for a whole week we haven't talked to each other in awhile. Now we normally talk on Facebook, but I don't normally get on there alot or I'm to busy. So one day i got on and I noticed she deleted me off Facebook! o_O.. So when I confronted at work about the whole FaceBook dilemma issue she got all defensive about it saying " Since we don't talk to each other in person or on Facebook we might as well not be friends and that when we see each other at work we should ignore each other "... So now!! I'm shocked, confused and lost and mad all at once...So I said to her " there's been plenty of times we haven't spoken to each other and you didn't have a problem with it before til now!" . So she just shrugged her shoulders like it didn't matter. So I suggested to her at the bitter end as a last resort of maybe fixing stuff I asked " Well can't we at least say hi and bye for the most part and be civil adults about this " Again Nothing. So I took it as Whatever and left......

 

 

Weeks went by after that Incident we been avoiding each other and completely not seeing or talking to each other period. So far this has been going on for a month. Lately I been noticing her coming around Checking to see if I am there or Standing in a spot acting like she doing something when she clearly spying me or something in a sneaky way. Its like she giving me hints to come and talk to her, but she is not making the effort to come and make peace with me when instead she just being nosy and avoiding me and giving me these cold stares.. I dunno what to do anymore or say to be honest!

 

 

 

 

What do you guys make of out of this?? So just be honest and give me the hard cold truth please.....

 

I would talk to her but she gives me cold looks and stares and when the last time I tried to approach her she turns her back on me and walks away like I'm suppose to chase after her....

 

The reason right now I am not talking to her is that she said that we shouldn't be friends or talk to each other, but she told me that if I wanted to talk to her or make plans to hang out that the ball is in my court to make that move... Makes any sense, right.. No! You can't force someone to be friends with you or love ya so IMO the ball is in er court.....( Forgot to add that in the story -.- )

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The cold, hard truth is simple: she's playing games.

 

You were right not to do the post-breakup FWB. Take it from me, it always ends in total disaster. However, post-breakup "friends" is hardly much better. If you haven't been talking, just continue that. Block her from facebook, ignore any communications, and if you think she's giving you "hints to come and talk to her" then just ignore it. If you guys have to see/talk because of work, just keep it strictly business.

 

You don't want to be involved with somebody who's playing these games.

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Hey I would rather a person come and tell me the full fact truth then a two faced lie. Thanks btw.

 

 

Well, as you know like i said she wanted to do the whole fwb, right... She was crafty I'll give her that much. Because how it started after the breakup we took lunch out together and she started feeding me fries and nuggets from Mcdonalds, right. So in my mind I felt like we were still a couple and together. Why I say she is crafty is because my (girls) as friends told me that she seems maniuplative playing with mens emotions. At the time I didn't want to beleive that, but I had to come on here to get confirmation, ya know.....

 

 

Then the second outing which was the last time we would ever hang out again we took lunch together at a ice cream shop were we both pitched in to buy a smoothie together. So as we walked back work I felt like we were a couple for some reason or she was just throwing mixed signals at me. So I reached out for her hand and held it til she pulled away which was about 10 secs. She didn't complain or say anything bad about it so I reached for it again and this time it was quicker then the first. So I ended up giving up on that attempt.

 

 

What got me was she slipped up and said to me that an old Ex bf dad came by her house few days back and wanted to hookup her up with his son again o.O! I didn't say anything I just listened and wonder. Then she told me about another guy at school that she talks to and sits next to in class who also for some Strange reason works and does the same job as me and works on computers.

 

 

When she broke up she made a statement that we wouldn't talk about current crush or bf/gf to each other. So I said OK at the time, but she fell through on her promise which then made me drift away from her a little.