Tallgirl91 Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Hi, I am 17 and really tall (6ft). My whole life, I have been picked on for being really skinny and taller than most. Not only have I never had a boyfriend but I have never been kissed! My lack of relationship experience and my history with being ridiculed...has led me to develop insecurities when I'm around boys. I am terrified of them, and incredibly awkward . My mom told me that she doesnt think I am ready for college because of this and I agree. What is wrong with me? Why have I never been kissed or had a boyfriend? How do I overcome this? Photo of me compared to my normal sized friends: http://i99.photobucket.com/albums/l282/KOOL12_01/315966_241759525875564_100001245562655_685098_823632334_n.jpg
El Brujo Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Hi, I am 17 and really tall (6ft). My whole life, I have been picked on for being really skinny and taller than most. Not only have I never had a boyfriend but I have never been kissed! My lack of relationship experience and my history with being ridiculed...has led me to develop insecurities when I'm around boys. I am terrified of them, and incredibly awkward . My mom told me that she doesnt think I am ready for college because of this and I agree. What is wrong with me? Why have I never been kissed or had a boyfriend? How do I overcome this? Photo of me compared to my normal sized friends: http://i99.photobucket.com/albums/l282/KOOL12_01/315966_241759525875564_100001245562655_685098_823632334_n.jpg You're not bad-looking at all. But you have to get over your fear and go out and pick the boys you think you like, unless you'd rather be a wallflower and get hit on by jerks. BTW stay away from the ones who STARE like you're from another planet... believe me, I know what I'm talking about... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WoDW8xQKA_I
Cracker Jack Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 You're a beautiful young lady. There's nothing wrong with you. You're also only 17. It just hasn't happened for you yet. There's no timetable on things like this. I think you need to just stop worrying about this and not base your lack of experience on anything other than timing. It's also possible that guys really are into you but are a bit afraid to approach you.
Casablanca Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Very pretty...guys at your age are 1, immature and 2, most guys do not like someone taller than them, you'll find someone, no worries at your age
LoveAshley Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 You look good and with your build, have you considered modeling? Guys are weird in high school. They are afraid of what their friends think about girls they are into. I bet as soon as you graduate, they will come around. It's what happened to me, and I wasn't anywhere as cute as you when I was 17, but Ive recently had 2 of the most popular guys in my grade admit they always liked me. Ha. Funny how things work.
refurb Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 (edited) Assuming this isn't a troll, a few comments: - You're quite attractive and likely intimidate some boys - Go to college, preferably far away from home. The only way you grow up is to do stuff that scares you - You're tall, so guys who are shorter than you will automatically assume you're not interested - You're 17, stop worrying so much, you have your entire life ahead of you - A lot of people don't date or have bf/gfs until college, it doesn't make you weird RF Edited November 29, 2011 by refurb
Cypress25 Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Are you the hot one in the sparkly silver dress?! If so, I think I know the reason you have no success with guys: because you look like a model and they're intimidated by you. But that's not your fault! Besides, you're only 17. Plenty of people don't date in high school. That doesn't mean you're not ready for college, I don't know why your mom said that. College is really about academics, right? Teenagers are supposed to be awkward, that's why they call adolescence "the awkward phase." Most people really come out of their shell in college. And when you get to college, the guys will be all over you.
betterdeal Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 You're going to be a right heart-breaker! You're beautiful and young. Don't worry too much about it. Maybe go to ballroom dancing classes or something sociable like that. Any single guys there will be open to dating.
LoveAshley Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Are you the hot one in the sparkly silver dress?! If so, I think I know the reason you have no success with guys: because you look like a model and they're intimidated by you. But that's not your fault! Besides, you're only 17. Plenty of people don't date in high school. That doesn't mean you're not ready for college, I don't know why your mom said that. College is really about academics, right? Teenagers are supposed to be awkward, that's why they call adolescence "the awkward phase." Most people really come out of their shell in college. And when you get to college, the guys will be all over you. I agree. At the same time, at 6' ft, if a guy is shorter than you, he might be put off. Guys for some reason are so used to being considerably taller. You will likely have great chances at men who are still taller than you. I am pretty sure I remember Tyra Banks saying she had the same problem, and she's 5'10. This is also assuming that you are social enough and have a positive attitude that men are drawn to. If you are shy, quiet, reserved, and never go out (like me) its hard to get guys, even if you are really attractive.
Feelsgoodman Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Hi, I am 17 and really tall (6ft). My whole life, I have been picked on for being really skinny and taller than most. Not only have I never had a boyfriend but I have never been kissed! My lack of relationship experience and my history with being ridiculed...has led me to develop insecurities when I'm around boys. I am terrified of them, and incredibly awkward . My mom told me that she doesnt think I am ready for college because of this and I agree. What is wrong with me? Why have I never been kissed or had a boyfriend? How do I overcome this? Photo of me compared to my normal sized friends: http://i99.photobucket.com/albums/l282/KOOL12_01/315966_241759525875564_100001245562655_685098_823632334_n.jpg You got picked on because you stood out (in your case literally). As a kid, your unusual height may have been a liability, but as an adult, it's a plus. Tall and skinny women are considered the most beautiful in our culture (hence, all fashion models are tall and skinny).
O'Malley Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Plenty of people don't date in high school. That doesn't mean you're not ready for college, I don't know why your mom said that. College is really about academics, right? Teenagers are supposed to be awkward, that's why they call adolescence "the awkward phase." Most people really come out of their shell in college. I agree. I went through the same rite of passage when I was in school -- I was the tall, scrawny redhead in the community of short brunettes. If you've grown up with the same group of people, they often perceive you in a way that is markedly different from those whom you will encounter in other places. It's very normal to contrast your situation with those of your friends, but from an emotional point of view they're not any more experienced than you. Things will change as you become an adult and the majority of people mature away from more rigid types of perceptions. What this affords you right now is the opportunity to observe and decide what you want for yourself out of life and what is healthy behavior, not only in your own actions but the interactions that others display.
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Hi, I am 17 and really tall (6ft). My whole life, I have been picked on for being really skinny and taller than most. Not only have I never had a boyfriend but I have never been kissed! My lack of relationship experience and my history with being ridiculed...has led me to develop insecurities when I'm around boys. I am terrified of them, and incredibly awkward . My mom told me that she doesnt think I am ready for college because of this and I agree. What is wrong with me? Why have I never been kissed or had a boyfriend? How do I overcome this? Photo of me compared to my normal sized friends: You are very pretty and will do very well with men once you mature. I believe college might be the best place for you to grow and experience dating. Guys can be very crazy at your age and skip over amazingly pretty girls. Plus a lot of the guys your age are still very insecure and shy. They will gain the confidence to ask you out in a few years.
ditzchic Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Wow. You are absolutely gorgeous. I wouldn't give it too much thought. High school boys are tools. They really are. When you get to college it's a whole different ball game. People stop conforming to their cliques and start becoming their own person. I have no doubts that it will be happening for you soon.
betterdeal Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Plus all the savvy, popular, bit up themselves types? They often end up getting a bit withdrawn when they leave school and enter a new community. Big fish in a small pond sort of thing for them, whilst you're more likely to have a story like the ugly duckling who turns into a swan. You'll be fine.
insertnamehere Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 It gets better, kid. High school is a bunch of ****. The worst thing about sexuality in high school is the relentless cut-throat competitiveness. Think about how many of the pretty girls get called sluts. The girls with big racks get called fat. The ones that are perfectly nice are torn down for being goody-goodies. In high school, it doesn't matter who you are or what you are. You could be spot-on the most perfect woman that ever lived and some cut-throat bitch will make up a rumor about you just to tear you down. A tall girl? ****, that's easy pickins. The other girls are cracking wise that it would be like guys sleeping with their brother. It does not matter what you've got going on, because at that age they are intent upon destroying you. And worse, the boys are scared ****less of their sexuality while also deeply afraid of being called gay if they don't do something. Seriously, kid, a pretty tall girl like you is going to mop up in adulthood. Ya just gotta get over the bridge. Not that that's real reassuring at your age, but . . . adulthood rocks. Especially for the "freaks". What makes you an outcast in high school will make you outstanding as an adult. Thankfully, all it takes is time. And that happens no matter what you do.
monkey00 Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 I wouldn't really worry about it, guys your age are just as clueless about women as they are about themselves. They wouldn't even noticed a good catch if they saw. In HS I was absolutely clueless about women and did not start dating until college. Everyone has their ugly duckling/awkward HS kid story, just sit back and laugh about it...it's quite funny.
AHardDaysNight Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 All three of the girls in that photo are pretty. So it's not your looks, whichever one you are. However, you are 17! There are guys in their late 20's and 30's who are just starting to figure out dating. You've got nothing to worry about, yet. Just focus on your schoolwork, your hobbies, and forming friendships...and I guarantee you that, sooner or later, you will get a guy who falls in love with you.
carhill Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 One quick glance and Iman sprung to mind. Young men will be intimidated, IMO. Would you consider dating multi-racially? Also, 17 is a tough age. For the older guys you're jailbait and your peers overwhelmingly will be tongue-tied. My advice is to hit the books and get the best start on college that you can. Dating and relationships will find you. The key is to be prepared psychologically for the attention which will be coming. This is where a solid family and good friends can really help. Good luck
AHardDaysNight Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 One quick glance and Iman sprung to mind. OP, maybe you just need to find your David Bowie?
carhill Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 There ya go Proving beauty/talent/celebrity isn't fickle, they've got nearly 20 under their marital belt.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Hi, I am 17 and really tall (6ft). My whole life, I have been picked on for being really skinny and taller than most. Not only have I never had a boyfriend but I have never been kissed! My lack of relationship experience and my history with being ridiculed...has led me to develop insecurities when I'm around boys. I am terrified of them, and incredibly awkward . My mom told me that she doesnt think I am ready for college because of this and I agree. What is wrong with me? Why have I never been kissed or had a boyfriend? How do I overcome this? Photo of me compared to my normal sized friends: http://i99.photobucket.com/albums/l282/KOOL12_01/315966_241759525875564_100001245562655_685098_823632334_n.jpg Indeed it goes without saying that your time in the sun is approaching FAST. Another poster in your thread said something important... (which reminded me of this: ) Y'know how, on those Animal Planet shows you might see a wild herd of some 4-legged animal, running and running across grassy fields with so many of them that the seeming 'shape' you view when seeing them all changes sorta like a Lava Lamp??? (LOL - read that again and concentrate this time) And y'know how the predatory animal comes from the side and pounces on the stragglers of the herd, or those on the edge of the herd??? Well the predators are your middle school and high school classmates, and it is beCAUSE you are just a LIT-TLE BIT taller, that those insecure predators are picking on YOU now... But your beauty and your continuing maturity are soon to land you in a different league, and it is there that you will come into your own, just for being more confident. It will be like a high school basketball player always seeming to be one of the tallest people on the court during high school, AND THEN, getting to college, and finding lots of others on (and off) the court who are taller. Furthermore, the potential male interests will be MORE mature, and less inclined to try to exploit your insecurities just to make fun of you. The guys at your school NOW are probably just the sorts who would tryyyyyyyyyyy to make one another feel bad IF (*gasp*) they dated a girl who was significantly taller than they are. Personally, I cannot think of any other single element of a woman's physicality which draws my interest more than raw height like yours. So just wait... patiently... (the patiently part will be both the difficult part, and the most rewarding part)
jobaba Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 I agree with the rest. Also, younger guys are getting taller these days. There's a plethora of guys 6 foot and over so you shouldn't have a problem. Come back if you are 25 and have never kissed a man, and I'll be waiting for you with advice...
Author Tallgirl91 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 I agree with the rest. Also, younger guys are getting taller these days. There's a plethora of guys 6 foot and over so you shouldn't have a problem. Come back if you are 25 and have never kissed a man, and I'll be waiting for you with advice... Thanks so much for all the adivice guys! I think that you all are right and I am going to TRY to not worry about this as much as I have been.
Fondue Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 I'm not much into complimenting people-- at all, in fact. I pretty much avoid it. But I have to honestly say (and I feel a bit weird saying so since you're only 17), but dang, you're definitely the opposite of unattractive. I'm not attracted to black girls, but I would definitely try to get your attention and strike up a conversation if you were legal and we happened to be in the same room .
Zed Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 Consider modeling. The modeling industry lives off significantly unusual women to make a statement. Your height, race, and attractiveness means you would do well doing runway or print ads. Consider Ann Ward a winner from America's Next Top Model. She is 6'2 and she recounted being teased unmercifully because of her height. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ann_Ward All in all, modeling would be a great confidence booster that would bury those immature guys in the dust. You are absolutely pretty and should not let high school define your future success with men. In fact, give it a few more years and guys will be hovering all over you.
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