chados Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 first of all thanks to everyone who's been answering my boring treads, cant thank you enough. this is my story about how i came back with happiness, and i hope you will find this interesting or at least somehow worth reading. sometimes when your feeling like you've lost the person you love, the only person that loved you back? maybe the only person you believe will love you. as some of you might know my girlfriend broke up with me. we dated 9 months and i felt a strong connection towards her. i know, 9 months isn't really that much, but there was just something about this girl. i met her at a club which to me is a bad place to meet someone, because they often drunk and they might see you as more attractive, more interesting etc. and when they wake up the next day neither of you are the same persons. well thing is, she wasn't drunk at all, but i was, i even thought she was drunk, because everyone else was. i got her number and a few days after she agreed to watch a cinema. i was confident and happy with my life. she was happy i think, but a little bit shy. after the cinema we went to a friend of mine, i know this is kinda weird. but she didn't wanna go home yet, and i lived about 1 hour away, and she was at her parents place because she studied in another city. and she had a big concussion which made her incapable of going back to school at that time. so well we watched a movie at my friend place, everything was great. i could tell she liked me a lot. we started hanging out about 2 months and ended up at a birthdayparty, i asked her if she loved me and she said yes and i told her i love her to. she went back to school mon-friday, but she always came back on the weekends, i made some mistakes along the road. i would like to call this the comfortable period. when you start to think less of how your gonna dress, you take the other person for granted and you don't show her that your still the guy she fell in love with. your acting needy/insecure and suddenly you realize that your bored with the relation you have. there's no spark there, you need to do something to get the spark back. i think every relationship is a way to learn how to treat another person. she told me that she didn't feel that i cared about her anymore. the reason for that was in my opinion that when she got back to school and she came back for the weekends, she wanted to be a lot with her family, and i respect that. but i wanted to spend some time with her alone. she started to make all the plans, and i followed them. so i started to act miserable and i think she noticed that. i talked to her when she was back at school, and i could hear by her tone that something was wrong, she didn't told me, after a long talk i asked her if she wanted to end the relationship. she said i don't know. we hang up because she was going to study with a friend, she texted me 2minutes later, i'm not saying i want to break up. we had a talk and spend the weekend together, everything was great. i felt wow this is a new beginning. we came to the conclusion that we must show that we care and love each other. she was going back to school and said that im gonna be a little reserved right now. "wait to see if there's going to be a change". and now i made a huge mistake. i started to call her a lot and well started to change instantly. she felt that i just did that because she told me to. and i guess we fighted a little through the phone. not saying anything bad about each other but i think i was worried and she got frustrated about it. 1.5 week later she came back home and we had a talk again, she was crying and told me that she didn't wanna be together. i acted cool because i think i knew this was going to happen. two days later i told her that i accept the breakup, this is the best thing to do. because i was upset and angry and because i wanted to release the pressure between us. she texted me a few times and just made the conversations short by saying, i have to go to the gym. i could tell she missed me, so i called her and asked for a coffee, she agreed and sounded happy about it. really happy actually. i called her another time about a week after telling her that i wanted to meet her up in the city where she's studying. she said, i don't know if i have time. but give me a call. and i know she has time, there could be a lot of reasons why she said this. but what i did was to call her up a day after to tell her that i can feel that your uncomfortable with the meetup, and the only reason i want to see you in person is because i want to tell you that i don't want you to text me or call me anymore, the only thing this does is making your healingprocess going faster while making me miserable. she started to cry and said she was confused, "first you want to see me and now you don't", i said well, i wanted to tell you in person because i got respect for you. she understood. i lied when i told her that, but i don't know if she still loves me, and if she does she will tell me. this made me feel great and believe it or not i met a girl this friday and she is just incredible. sometimes you realize what you had when you loose it. and sometimes you just realize that what you've lost isn't always something you want back, its just that you miss the feeling of not being lonely. it's always a little bit harder being the one to get dumped, in most cases you will feel lonely and you cant see the problems that once was. you can only see the good things about that person. and thats why some people cant go on with their life's. i don't know if this girls i met is someone i will be together with. but i do know that 1 week ago i told myself that i'm gonna get this girl back. my ex girlfriend really is special. but now i want to create something special with someone else. hope this wasn't to much reading for you
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